Waking in the middle of the night...

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Mandie565's picture
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Waking in the middle of the night...

Hi Ladies. I'm stumped and maybe u have some ideas. Bedtime with Joey and naptime are fairly easy. When he was younger I did the ferber method and it really helped him to be able to fall asleep alone. Well since we have moved to the new house he keeps waking up in the middle of the night and not being able to fall back to sleep. I've slept with Joey in my bed more in the last 2 weeks then I have for the last year and a half.

DH's solution is to just keep bring him into our bed but I really don't like that as a long term solution. How do I help him learn that going back to sleep in his crib is ok. I've tried singing, rubbing his back, playing music. But he just cries until someone gets him out of the crib.

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How o you feel about CIO? Some people don't like it but I am a firm believer!

Is he in a toddler bed yet? If so maybe move him back into the crib temporarily. Maybe he would benefit from the security...

Mandie565's picture
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I am not against CIO but DH caves rather quickly. Thankfully we are still in a crib.

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There's really only 2 methods. Let him pick when he's ready or you push him into it. Decide how long are you willing to continue to share your bed and go from there. There really isn't a right or wrong answer and he's old enough now to start reasoning with.

All of the girls have gone through various stages where they would wake up and want to be with us. Bad dreams are generally the cause. What we do is get them up, take them potty, then ask them if they are ready to go back to bed. Generally they say no, but occasionally we've been surprised. Next we let them cuddle with us for a bit. We talk about why they are upset and then we keep asking when they are ready to go back to their bed every few minutes. On some occasions they will zonk with us, but generally they are back in their bed in less than an hour after they got up.

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"Lina5781" wrote:

Next we let them cuddle with us for a bit. We talk about why they are upset and then we keep asking when they are ready to go back to their bed every few minutes. On some occasions they will zonk with us, but generally they are back in their bed in less than an hour after they got up.

We do this with Miles....He's been coming in a lot lately saying he's scared of the dark, or bad dream. I say "Its okay, you can stay with mommy and daddy for a little bit, but then you have to go back to bed." or if he's still in bed and crying out to us, I will go in and ask if he wants me to sit with him for a little bit, he always says yes, I sit there for 5mins then tell him that I'm sleepy and its time to go back to bed. Usually he rolls right over and goes back to sleep. Does he have a night light or something like that? We have this turtle that lights up different colors, and it lights up the room, and turns off like 15mins later. He likes it because it isn't "dark" in his room anymore. GL!

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Every time Corinna has this issue, I just gradually stay with her for less and less time and she grows out of it. Sometimes it takes a couple weeks. It's not precise or scientific because it's the middle of the night and I'm tired.

We haven't gotten in the habit of letting her sleep in our bed, though.

At this age I definitely think it's appropriate to talk about what the problem is and discuss ways that they can solve it without your help (like turning on a nightlight or hugging something). It might also be helpful to talk about in the daytime or at bedtime rather than just in the heat of the moment.

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Thanks for all of your input!! As of this morning he has STTN for 3 days straight!! I did a few different things. I thought back to what our routine was our old house and I made it as close as possible to that. I also sat down and talked with Joey before he want to sleep. It has helped. Keep your fingers crossed that this keeps up!

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My MIL is a firm believer that bringing the kids into bed with you will quickly develop into a habit - so she always went to them. When they were sick if they needed her she'd sleep in their room/bed. Not sure how I'll be because we haven't run into it, but thought it was interesting.

As for your situation, I wonder if he was just freaked out b/c he doesn't recognize his room yet?

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Growing up, if we wanted to sleep in my parents' room, we had to sleep on the floor with our pillow and blanket next to the bed. That way it wasn't as enticing. I can remember getting cold on the floor and going back to my room.