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Would you go?

I need some advice about something coming up in a couple months. Have any of you guys brought your LO's to events like graduations or weddings? BIL is graduating college and the ceremony is in June. We all want to go, obviously DH will. But, its 3.5 hours away, and it starts at 2 pm. So it will literally be an all day thing... and Kieran's nap is usually at 12 or 1. So, he would not get a nap that day. And getting him to sit through a graduation ceremony... then they want to go out to eat afterwards... this sounds like a recipe for disaster to me, but I don't know. Would you take LO to something like this? Am I being too obsessive about him getting a nap? Do your LOs miss naps sometimes?

Getting someone to watch the kids almost certainly isn't an option... the only people who can watch them are MIL and my mom. MIL will be at the graduation obviously, and I am pretty sure my mom will have to work that day. So, the only options are, I bring him or I stay home. I'm not so worried about Rowan because he will just sleep in the Baby K'Tan (hopefully, anyway).

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You don't think Keiran would sleep in the car? I used to obsess over naps but I have stopped worrying. Hayleigh seems to do okay when she misses a day (just a little more fussier at night).

I say go...

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I would be torn, too. I am very strict and a little obsessive when it comes to nap time. We went to Chicago on Tuesday and Moriah did not get a nap that day. She did ok, but was so overtired by dinner time and by bedtime she could not wind herself down.

Moriah is not one to fall asleep in the car, or the train (what we rode on into and out of the city that day).

That is a tough decision. You (or your husband) probably will end up following after him or taking him for walks during the ceremony because he won't be able to sit for the ceremony (at least I know Moriah wouldn't!!!) I am sure your family would understand if you didn't make it out there. Go with your gut feelings. I am sorry I am not much help!!

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I guess it depends on the importance of the grad, for your family. If you really want to go, then go. Kids are adaptable, and there has to be a first time, right? The longer you put it off the harder it might be when they're older. We took the kids to a wedding several hours away last summer. It was fine. Personally, I couldn't see myself going to a grad ceremony that far away, with or without kids. That's just me. I hate grads. I hated my own too. Too freaking hot and way too long for the 5.8 seconds of actual cheers and clapping.

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I think with the 2 is it would be tough - because I agree with pp that you'll probably end up walking him around outside. The nap issue is less of a problem - IMO I also agree with pp that kids are more adaptable than we give them credit for sometimes.

I'm also no help. Sorry.

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If Zoey didn't have eye rolling episodes when she was overtired, I would definitely go. With her the way she is, I wouldn't risk it because I know missing naps increases her episodes. An option though is to pop off to the car with him if he's sleepy, crank on the AC, and let him nap in the car if he needs to. The other option is to go, but stay back from the family, and let him wander around outdoors on the grounds during the ceremony. A college grad. is an awful long time to sit still. I did it around 11 years old and had a tough time sitting through it!

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Yeah, I'm wondering if he would be more adaptable to not having a nap than I think he would be... I wasn't sure what other people do. Then again a couple times recently we've been out doing things with the family and didn't get home until 3 or so for him to nap... and that was so late for him to have a nap and he was obviously feeling it. He would probably sleep in the car on the way back I imagine (I don't know about the way there because it wouldn't be a time he normally sleeps). I think I might try to bring him and see what happens... doing that kind of thing once in a while probably won't hurt anything. Even if we end up walking around during the ceremony, that won't be so bad. I'm not sure I'll want to sit through that either, lol.

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In my situation, I'm not too concerned with naps. He misses them relatively frequently and usually does okay. But... I don't think he'd sit still through a ceremony, so I'd be concerned with making sure there's an easy exit to a lobby or outside so that you (or someone else) can take him to walk around if he gets restless. Sean usually does well with meals because we can distract him with food.

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We take the girls to stuff like this fairly frequently. The only thing we make sure of is that we have a way to get out of the area quickly on the off chance they act up. We took Miriam to a friend's wedding when she was about this age, and while she was restless she was pretty good about missing naps. It was a 4 hour car ride that day, with 8 the day before (we're very far from everyone), and she did sleep a bit in the car, which helped.
I guess, since we've never hesitated to take the girls to graduations, weddings, etc., i wouldn't even hesitate. The others are right about being prepared to miss a lot of it, just because one of you may be out walking him about, but he might also sit well with some snacks and a couple quiet toys. Biggrin Hope it goes well.

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I don't necessarily think you should intend on skipping the nap; I just think that he could probably sleep in the stroller if need be. Ben's grumpy w/o a nap, but if he's given a place to lay down he'll easily crash, even if it's not his own bed.

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I just have this idea that he won't sleep in a stroller or even the car seat if the car isn't moving... he's never been one to sleep well anywhere but his own crib (or the car... but only while its driving). I guess if I take him that day though, we will find out how easily he'll sleep in a strange place!

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If we are in the car for more than 20 minutes, at any point in the day (even right after a 3 hour nap) Liam will sleep and thank GOD Eloise likes the car, too - so in my mind I see him sleeping in the car....then @ the ceremony I would just make sure you sit on the end and plan to walk the halls with him and/or Rowan. Also, if he is getting fussy you could throw him in the stroller and walk around on campus or the halls maybe he might fall asleep in that situation?

Liam rarely misses a nap, too, so I would have hesitations, too but I would not skip graduation - just have plans in place for if he gets bored/onery @ the ceremony (lots of fun snacks, paper and crayons/markers, stickers are a great distraction)

Good luck and have fun Smile

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If it's important to you to go, then go! The kids will adapt as the others have said. I don't ever put off going somewhere because Maria would miss her nap, she will nap when she's tired! Usually in the car or in the stroller she will nap for me! Smile

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To answer your question, yes, I would go if it was important to me. Kids adapt, and you also adapt to accommodate their needs (ie. understanding they want sit still for that long, and planning on walking around with them). Good luck!