Yes, we use no and redirect a lot, but kids will be kids. I try not to overdiscipline, which is essentially becoming a broken record without any real authority. I pick and choose my battles, but we do a LOT of redirecting and the occasional diapered butt swat when my older daughter is being belligerently disobedient. But with little babies like Lilah they aren't *trying* to be bad, just figuring out the world, so I am judicious with my discipline but firm on a few key points, like messing with electronics or the stove.
I keep lit candles on my coffee table and the boys know not to mess with them If I can trust them around fire then I can trust them around decor..
The other day Alos therapist was trying to get him to blow the candle out and Kaia was telling her no that he couldnt do it.. So he knows FWIW Alo never blew the candle out
Teaching them limits is also teaching them privacy.. You cant keep everything away from them.. What will they do when they are older? They will think they can get into everything.. and like you said.. other peoples houses... As far as pet food...I have no advice the boys messed with mine. The most fun for them was putting the dog food into the water.. I just dealt with it and cleaned it up all the time. That was one of my losing battles
What do you do about things like cat litter or cat food?
I keep the cat food and litter in the basement to keep the dog out of it mostly. But I have also put it in an unused half bath with a kid gate across the door. I just raise the gate about six inches off the ground so the cat can go under but nothing/no one else. Once baby is big enough they learn about not touching that stuff. I am just extra paranoid about the litter and what they might put in their mouth!
Brandie (32) DH Paul (31)
DD Saige 6/2/06
DS Gabriel 7/22/08
DD2 Claire 2/2/11
I just use no and redirection. Primrose is 2.5 now and won't touch things when she is told not to. I do time out for her in her bedroom, but I didn't use it until she was 2. She ate (dry) cat food a few times but grew out of it.
cat litter and food is in the basement so they can't get to it. Dog food/water is up here and when Noah starts crawling the bowls will just get picked up when the dog isn't using them. If the cat litter was upstairs I would just put a baby gate in the doorway of that room.What do you do about things like cat litter or cat food?
Noah Ross July 29, 2008
#4 Due January 2010
I've always done the "No" with redirection as well. But if you have a stubborn child who will not give up the curiosity of some object I do hold the object for them to look at it or touch until they tire of it. And sometimes if it's something important to me, I will just remove or relocate the object until they understand the boundaries.
DD Twins: 8/4/09 @ 35 Wks - No NICU, woot!
I think you guys might be missing her point of it (designated spanker) only applying to intentional stuff done at an older age - the idea is if both parents are consistent with whatever form of discipline they use, they arent' using it over and over again so it doesn't lead to new problems - and the "bad cop" won't be resentful if they accept that role. I will probably "tap" Savannah, but if she needs a spanking, it will come from her dad!