Help removing the paci***copied***

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Minx_Kristi's picture
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Help removing the paci***copied***

Okay ladies, so did your LOs have dummies?

I really want to get rid of DDs but I think I will struggle a lot! She only really has it when she's tired and for bed and has even started saying she doesn't need it or her blanket as she is a big girl now. However, I know if I actually took them away and she realised what was happening then she would freak out.

How did you take your LOs away?

Any advice would be appreciated!

xx

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hmmm what would happen if you "lost" it?

i have heard about people giving them to the "dummy fairy" for babies who need them. they do this with their kid so the child feels like they are helping babies.

ds is still little, but he really only has his at nap time and bed time as well.

Jenn0113's picture
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We took DS' away in April and were so scared of the backlash. However, it went much smoother than we ever anticipated.

We had planned a vacation in April and wanted to get rid of it then. So a day or so before we left we talked about the Paci Fairy and how she needs to collect pacifiers for the babies. He wasn't buying it and would cry and say she couldn't have his. LOL So one night I put him in bed with me and kept talking to him until he fell asleep. He would ask for his paci and I would say "hang on, mama is talking to you" and when he woke up the next day I said "Deacon, you didn't use your paci all night! I'm so proud of you, you are such a big boy!" I did the same thing the next night too and it worked great. Then that next morning we left to go out of town and didn't take any with us. I know if we would have taken even one for the "just in case" situation, we would have given in.

So when we got to the condo where we were staying and it was bedtime he started whining for it. I said "aw man, Deacon, I think we forgot them at home. We'll have to get it when we get home, ok?" For some magical reason that worked and he forgot about it. By the time we got home he had gone about 7-9 days without it and the habit was broken. Recently we found a paci under the bed and he picked it up and threw it in the trash.

Just know - this kid was addicted! He got it at nap and bedtime any time he was home. We put off taking it away until he was 2.5 because we just "knew" it was going to be horrible. We were both pleasantly surprised.

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All I can say is GOOD LUCK! LOL

We haven't even tried yet. My DS will be 3 in October and is completely addicted to his binkie. He mainly only gets it/wants it in the car or nap/bed time. My BFF is pregnant and due in October, so we told DS that the new baby need his binkies and he didn't need them anymore because he is now a big boy. SO...we'll see what happens in October. Wish us luck!

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Hunter never had a binkie, not that I didn't try to shut him up with one, Lol !!!
He never wanted one, what's the use if nothing comes out, :lol:.
So no advice but good luck!!

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With my boys I just started with nap time and once he would nap without it bedtime was no problem. But my kids were easy. My DH's boss goes to Build-a-Bear and they put all the binkies in there. So no more binkies. I like that idea. If I had to do it again I would do that.

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With dd I just took it. Both my kids really only used it at bed/naptime anyway. But when I decided enough (I think she was about 20 months) I just took it. It actually didn't go too badly, the first night might've taken her a little longer to settle but it wasn't anything too bad.

With ds, he was younger, only 15 months, and we had 2 or 3 of them (again ONLY at bed/naptime) and he kept losing them and when he lost the last one I wasn't about to rush out that night to buy a new one. Again, it went fairly well. He did wake up in the night and end up in my bed and at one point asked for it and I just told him I didn't know where it was and he went back to sleep LOL I did find it late the next day (in my tea towel drawer!! :dontknow:) but by that point he'd gone overnight and a couple naps without it so I wasn't about to give it back and have to break him of it (and maybe have a harder time) down the road.

So really, I didn't make a big deal about it and it really wasn't much of an issue... I think if I had done anything (ie binky fairy/etc) it would've been a bigger issue to them... so this worked for us.

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You ladies make it sound so simple!

DD only has hers for bed and when she's tired. So, if she's watching the telly and she feels sleepy she will put it in and cuddle her blanky.

At nursery she doesn't have either but as soon as we get in the car she asks me for them. if I didn't have them , she would go nuts or just cry until we got home and she could have them.

I am still so unsure how to go abaout it, even though she is saying more frequently that she doesn't need them as she's a big girl now.

xx

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"wishing4agirl" wrote:

With my boys I just started with nap time and once he would nap without it bedtime was no problem. But my kids were easy. My DH's boss goes to Build-a-Bear and they put all the binkies in there. So no more binkies. I like that idea. If I had to do it again I would do that.

I LOVE the Build-a-Bear idea! Thanks for sharing. Smile

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"Minx_Kristi" wrote:

You ladies make it sound so simple!

DD only has hers for bed and when she's tired. So, if she's watching the telly and she feels sleepy she will put it in and cuddle her blanky.

At nursery she doesn't have either but as soon as we get in the car she asks me for them. if I didn't have them , she would go nuts or just cry until we got home and she could have them.

I am still so unsure how to go abaout it, even though she is saying more frequently that she doesn't need them as she's a big girl now.

xx

This was totally us even the day or so before we took it away. We decided to do it on vacation so we had a week to be able to fight him and stay firm and tag team sleep for ourselves. We expected it to be a living h3ll. You may really be surprised.

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I did it as a gradual process. First I took it away during the day and only let them have it at nighttime (all three of my babies were paci babies). Then I would give it every other night, then only when they asked for it. It only took about a month for each child, and they all did really well with it! Good luck!