I wanted to give you guys all this morning's update from this side.
Things are going as well as can be expected.
I was going through the responses from my original post, and I noticed that everyone has edited their signatures to be removed. I hope that this isn't in fear that I get jealous or upset at the beautiful photos of all our children. As many of you posted, we have known each other for almost 2 years and are very supportive each other - a virtual family. As such, I hope that you don't keep your children and their wonderful lives from me out of guilt or fear. One of the best things that happened yesterday was Amanda and her DH's visit with Kenton (yes, and you too Diane!). It was absolutely wonderful to see the joy and playfulness in Kenton with everyone else so surrounded by grief.
As for help any support, for me, pregnancy.org has been a huge support (probably gardenbug too) but I don't want people to think that their problems are meaningless. Yes, an accident like this puts other issues in perspective, but that doesn't mean that they aren't important to deal with as well! For example, I was thrilled to find out that KareninNH's appointment went well today!
As much of a shock Reed's death has brought, there are so many joys that he has brought that I wouldn't even consider trading his part in my life for the pain of his passing.
As for a service, no final arrangement has been made, but we had a discussion last night with our friends, one of whom is a mortician and dealing with Reed. We've decided to have a service at a local park on saturday afternoon, not knowing how many people will show up (since it's been all over the news and random people have been dropping stuff off) and we know that the EMS, police, and hospital staff will want to come as well.
Skyler Dylan 22 April 1999
Reed Aslan 17 June 2007 ~ 8 September 2008
Ivy Rayne 3 May 2009
Leo Spencer 2 Sept 2010
Forrest Reed 15 Aug 2012
Your strength as a person is really inspiring. It has always been noticeable through your posts, and your mother's. However, it really shines through this darkness.
Sarah--your strength is an inspiration to me and I hope you and gardenbug continue to be part of our community here, although I understand that it may become too painful.
As for the signature, it is a pg.org rule that siggies are turned off on threads about the loss of a child. It is out of respect.
However, I will keep mine on since you have requested we do so.
Thanks so much for updating us on how you're doing. Those of us that cannot physically be there for you at the memorial will be there in spirit.
Much love to you all...
Sarah, Thank you for comming back and updating us. We all here are think of you so much. You are so strong, and so loving.
I know that so many of us wish there was more that we could do for you. Sitting here not being able to talk to you, or give you a hug and a smile has been hard. Know that we are thinking of you, Give your mom the biggest hug me and all of us.
Aislynn 7/25/07 ~ Kilynn 1/22/09
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Reed Aslan, Always in our prayers.
Sarah you are truly an amazing woman. This site has been such a wonderful support system for all things. Thank you for updating us on how you are doing. I wish I could be there for you but please know I am thinking of you all the time.
Miranda, Nursing student and Mommy to
You are such a strong person. You, and your whole family, are in my constant thoughts. Yesterday, I posted a bit about it on our family blog, and I'm blown away by the people that have called or emailed to offer their support.
We are always here for you.
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I am amazed at your strength- that you can even get on here and type.
Like many others have said- after I read your message yesterday I was in shock. I somehow had to walk around and keep doing my job as though nothing had happened- knowing that in some way your world was standing still.
I went down the hall and snuck a peek in at Lily in her preschool class and it didn't seem fair. And when I picked her up I squeezed her so tight and thought of the emptiness your arms may be feeling.
I wanted to tell everyone I knew that my friend's little boy died. And then I thought it was silly using the word "friend." How to explain to someone that I felt such a connection to an online friend that was so many miles away, whom I've never met in person. But we have been in eachother's lives for almost 2 years.
Know that you all are loved and we send our virtual hugs from far away.
Blessings and Peace on you, Wayne, Skylar, Gardenbug, your dad and all those who knew and loved Reed.