Im pregnant right now and im about to be a single mom in like 7 months. It wasn't a choice to be a single mom at first. My baby's dad just one was there for me so well and then i ended up in the hospital due to the pregnancy and he decided he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby. This all happened a week ago. Im really scared but ill make it. Thats my story!
so i dated my ex for about 3 & 1/2 years before we mutually decided to end the relationship last year. and despite the fact that it was mutual, i was still pretty upset and even now am still in love with the jack ***. so in an effort to get over the jack ***, i started partying my *** off almost every night of the week, drinking to point of blacking out. on one such night i had a one night stand. most of the details of that night are pretty fuzzy, however, i do know that i defintly conceived that night b/c i hadnt been with anyone before or after said event.
so i am going to be a single mama in a most definte way. no child support, no baby daddy. just me and the lil one (gender unknown!) well, to be fair my parents too. they know the whole story and are being massively supportive.
Originally Posted by winterlily
And I love you, too!!!!!!!!!
Ok here goes...
I met my sons father way back in high school, he was my brothers best friend and a part of our adopted family. We started to see each other in 05 after he moved back home after leaving the military. Everything was going great until that dreaded day. When I told him that I was pregnant, he kind of agreed that we would see the pregnancy through. Well thats where the fairy tale ends!
He disappeared soon after and was gone through the entire pregnancy (even though I was on bed rest for a high risk pregnancy for 5 months). He decided to show up a few weeks before my son was born and said that he wanted to be there for the birth, ok cool no prob. HA that was a joke, I called him when I went to the hospital and he didnt show up until the next day...his excuse, he fell asleep!
For the next 5months of my sons life, he saw him maybe 6 times. Then in Oct 2006 he disappeared all together. Needless to say he has not helped out one red cent and I am taking him to court.
My Novella: I'll try to keep it simple, the connections need a road-map
SD and I actually met in HS, some 16 years ago. He was actually my first, which may explain why it was so easy to fall back into bed w/him. Several years later, I learned he had married my friend's SIL (whom I've always thought was a total slag) and ADOPTED her two boys. By all accounts he's been a great dad to these kids -- a little strict in the discipline dept, but trust me, they needed it.
FF to 18 months ago, when she cheated on him and kicked him out. In a weak moment, I agreed to accompany him to his company Xmas party (the food was great) and it all went downhill from there. I guess I took him on as my "project" and supported him thru a very difficult separation, w/her not allowing him to see his kids and generally being a total beotch. We were together for 8 months when I found out I was pg. His first comment? "I really don't need this right now." And I did?
I got no emotional support whatsoever from him, so I knew it was time to move on. I did however gain an ally in his mom, for whom this is her only grandchild. She has been a fabulous source of support, and that's probably why he is so reluctant to talk to her now (neither of us has heard from him in weeks) I continue to kill him w/kindness, making sure he knows it's HIS choice that he's not involved w/her -- I do not and will not prevent him from seeing her IF HE ASKS. The only time he's done that so far was Mother's Day, of all things. So, since he didn't ask for Father's Day, I'm assuming he doesnt' want to be a father.
I'll begin by saying that I am 27 years old and I am a doctor and I am 33 weeks pregnant. I just happened to make one poor decision which put me in the position that I am today.
I met my baby's daddy (that sounds so white trash...I'll stick with sperm donor) at work. We got along but we didn't, if that makes ANY sense at all. What we had was mainly a physical attraction. He asked me to go with him to a hockey game one night, and I am a HUGE hockey fan and the seats were great, which led us to my apartment...
We never really discussed what happened because I was on birth control so the possibility of me becoming pregnant was slim. Being a doctor, I should have realized that it CAN happen. But we carried on our normal work relationship until I found out that I was pregnant. I am pro-choice but I personally could never get an abortion. I gave him the choice of becoming involved in our child's life, and he decided that he wouldn't be a "suitable" father and waived all rights. He's offered to help us financially, but I declined because I make enough money to raise a child and I felt that if he chose to not help in any other aspect of our (my?) child's life, he didn't have the right to help support her financially.
So here I am, a 27 year old doctor, pregnant and preparing to raise a child alone because of one decision. I can't say that it was a mistake because I already love my baby more than anything else. Even though I am disappointed that my baby girl will not know her biological father, I am happy that he was honest enough to tell me the truth than make our child suffer.
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Well ill be 21 next month and im a single mommy to a beautiful baby boy Shane. It all started when i was hanging out with an old friend and i met her best friend ( Shanes father). I fell head over heels over him and we were together almost every weekend since he was in the Army and only came down on weekends to see his first son.... yeah i know..... he left for Iraq and 2 weeks later BAM i found out i was pregnant.... He was texting me on my phone and so i told him to call me as soon as he could and he tells me cant so i just told him through the text that i was pregnant.... he replies... these are his exact words "I can't afford another baby right now...." WTF all i asked him was to be involved that was it... no money... no anything... THAT was the last thing he ever said to me,i went through my whole pregnancy without him he has not seen Shane once.... and he is engaged to another girl... SPIFFY HUH? So right now we are going to court because i want that child support... All i do is go to school and stay with Shane at my moms cause i cant afford my own place. It really hurt me cause what he did to me and his son... but what can u do.... thats my story it was great reading all of urs!!!!
DS1 Shane (4)
DS2 Donovan (1.5)
DD Elianna 06/24/11
Long story short...young single mom of baby falls in love with older established man. Stays at home and plays mommy and housewife while attending school of and on with hopes of one day having a not very family oriented career-according to man. Quits school, regrets it forever.
Gets really sick, gets a lifesaving organ transplant, child begins school and stay at home mommy is really resentful and constantly misses her "dream" even though shopping all day and traveling is the "good life" according to most. (It's not, money doesn't buy happiness). Miserable, bored mommy re-enrolls in school taking a slightly different route but in the same area of study. Mommy finishes school. Mommy has a true wake up call when dream man disagrees with what Mommy is going to be when she grows up and he says ugly things that burn a hole through her. Mommy is a prove ya wrong type of girl........so here I am~proud to be an ACNP specializing in critical care~and a Mommy, too! Who says you can't have it all!
In the working world I met a man with whom I have fun, laugh and suddenly don't feel "arranged to" (I always felt my marriage was of arranged or convienient per say). We also work in the same field. Now here I am single mommy to a pre-teen and well-the product of a tubal gone wrong.
That's my story. Of course with everyday new events unfold and it only gets more dramatic as the days go by.
I'm glad to see some familiar faces here. I only post on this board now for personal reasons. But I'm happy to have you familiar people who I've known since the start of this site around!
Michele proud single mom to Emily formerly mtb457