Reed's memorial yesterday *JULY2007*

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Reed's memorial yesterday *JULY2007*

I honestly tried to post something about it last night, but I was just so drained by the time I had a chance, it didn't turn out right.

It was a beautiful service, and I do hope there's some pictures of the bubbles to share with everyone, cause I really can't do it justice! The park was just gorgeous, it was the first time I'd been there, and it was so perfect with the weather and setting and everything. There were easily a hundred visitors there to be a part of it.

There was a display of pictures on a big screen TV, all set to music like a slideshow. And then lots of people making speeches and singing for Reed. Skyler read a letter he wrote to Reed, as well as one of his sitters. One of the most touching for me, knowing what everyone on the boards was up to yesterday with the bubbles, was a little story one of their friends told everyone.

He said that Skyler had been asking questions about when people die- what happens, where are they, why is their body still here- like any child would. I guess he wasn't happy with any explanation they came up with until they told him it was like soap. A bar of soap is just a lump, just there, doesn't do much. Until some wind is blown into it to make it a bubble, give it life and energy. Then eventually, the bubble will pop, as all bubbles do, and the soap will fall back to earth, as a lump and the wind carries on. After this was of course when we blew our bubbles.

After the service, Diane and I went up to give Sarah and Wayne hugs, and finally meet Gardenbug! We visited all together for a while, and then we were talking with Gardenbug and just visitng. Everyone was talking together so well I think we all forgot why we were there. It did feel very lifting afterwards, like it was ok to carry on. Well, I don't think that really explains it well, but I'm sure you get the idea. I only hope Sarah and Wayne and their family feel the same.

I do wish everyone could have been there to share and just be there for Sarah, Wayne and their entire family as well as each other. But, I am glad to have been able to go myself with DH, Kenton and Diane. I do hope that we can see Gardenbug and maybe Sarah again before she goes home, but whatever happens, I'm sure we'll meet up again.

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Sad ! That is so touching what they did at the memorial. My heart just breaks for them. Thank you so much for updating us on how it went. I have been wondering about the service, and I just wish I could have gone. I am so glad you were able to go! Thanks again.

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I'm sure it was very beautiful, I can only imagine.

What a great way to explain death to a child. Well, not that it is great to have to explain it, but to help them understand, when an unfortunate time comes up.

I am glad you got to be there. And I am glad Gardenbug finally got to meet one of us.

Thank you for updating. Hugs!!

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Thanks for letting us know Amanda. I have been thinking about them ALL weekend. I really appreciate the update; it sounds like it was beautiful.

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Thank you for the update. I am glad you were able to go and visit with them as well.

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TY for the update. It sounds like it was a very special memorial...I know I was touched by the bubble blowing, so I can only imagine how all of you felt.

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I'm glad it was a beautiful memorial. I know that all of us were there in thought and spirit.

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I can only say thank you for being there, representing us and then updating us as well. I was thinking of them all day Saturday.

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Thankyou for updating us on the memorial - we were all thinking of them. The bubble story was so touching -what an incredible way to view life - yet so sad at the same time :crybaby:

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Thank you for the update. I was wondering how it went. Sounds like it was a beautiful memorial.

Last night we had a beautiful sunset. Almost every color imaginable. It was calming and it gave me peace, made me realize that everything is gonna be alright and that Reed was smiling down on everyone.

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I am so glad that you went to represent. How wonderful and it sounds like a beautiful ceremony. It was sureal for me to be blowing bubbles in his memory at the same time as his service.

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Thank you for the update. I am so pleased that someone from the July07 board was there in person to represent us all. James played with his bubbles but unfortunately didn't have a camera to capture it. Later we watched a programme on TV and it was all about bubbles too...was very strange like Reed knew we had blown the bubbles for him.

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Thank you for sharing with us. I too have been thinking about Sarah, Wayne, Gardenbug and family all weekend, but I was also wondering how you and Diane were doing. It sounds like the service was a perfect tribute to Reed's life.

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Thank you for sharing. It sounded like a beautiful way to remember Reed and say goodbye.

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Thank you for the update. The service sounds so beautiful, I love the description of the soap and the bubble.

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Thank You!

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It sounds beautiful, just like I knew it would be! I hope Sarah and her family know that we were all there in spirit, even though we couldn't be in person.

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Sounds like it was the prefect day and place. I'm glad that you were able to go. Thankyou for updating us.

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TY for the update! Sounds like a beautiful memorial. The soap/bubble story is making me all teary :(.

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It sounds beautiful---the beginning of healing for everyone.

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thanks for shearing.. it sounds like it was a nice day for it.. i am sitting here crying again..

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Thank you for updating us. The ceremony sounds like it was beautiful. I love the story of the soap and bubbles.

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Thank you for going, and for sharing it with us...it sounds perfect.

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Hi Girls, I hope you don't me jumping in here too. I, like Amanda, tried so hard yesterday and Saturday to write about the memorial, but I broke down everytime.

It truly was a most beautiful day and the memorial was very suiting to little Reed. It was so hard to not break down, especially with the slideshow, but I think I had a lot of happy tears too. At end, as Amanda was saying, when we were sitting down and talking, it felt so very surreal and I felt a tremendous calm feeling wash over me.

The bubble ceremony was beautiful. I did manage to get a couple of pics of all the bubbles, but it was on my iphone & I am not sure how to download pics from it yet :oops:

Sarah was the epitomy of calm and wonderfulness. She was full of smiles and hugs and even thanked us for coming. I couldn't believe that, like we'd have missed it!! She also knows that all of you have noting but support and love for her, Wayne, Marie, Skyler and of course, Reed.

One part that I took from the ceremony, was "Nettie Spaghetti", singing her "LOVE" song & the way Wayne took Skyler and they both danced with the biggest smiles on their faces.

It was so wonderful.

Another bit that I've learned from all of this, is please, if you've talked about meeting up with each other, but something always seems to come up {as is life}, try to take the time to do it anyways. I am so sad this is the way Sarah, Amanda and I have been brought together, but now that it has, I know that we will never have our friendship bond broken.

Much love to all of you here & I thank you from the bottom of my heart for allowing me to grieve right along with you.

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Thank you so much for sharing this with us.

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"SparkleMomma" wrote:

Hi Girls, I hope you don't me jumping in here too. I, like Amanda, tried so hard yesterday and Saturday to write about the memorial, but I broke down everytime.

It truly was a most beautiful day and the memorial was very suiting to little Reed. It was so hard to not break down, especially with the slideshow, but I think I had a lot of happy tears too. At end, as Amanda was saying, when we were sitting down and talking, it felt so very surreal and I felt a tremendous calm feeling wash over me.

The bubble ceremony was beautiful. I did manage to get a couple of pics of all the bubbles, but it was on my iphone & I am not sure how to download pics from it yet :oops:

Sarah was the epitomy of calm and wonderfulness. She was full of smiles and hugs and even thanked us for coming. I couldn't believe that, like we'd have missed it!! She also knows that all of you have noting but support and love for her, Wayne, Marie, Skyler and of course, Reed.

One part that I took from the ceremony, was "Nettie Spaghetti", singing her "LOVE" song & the way Wayne took Skyler and they both danced with the biggest smiles on their faces.

It was so wonderful.

Another bit that I've learned from all of this, is please, if you've talked about meeting up with each other, but something always seems to come up {as is life}, try to take the time to do it anyways. I am so sad this is the way Sarah, Amanda and I have been brought together, but now that it has, I know that we will never have our friendship bond broken.

Much love to all of you here & I thank you from the bottom of my heart for allowing me to grieve right along with you.

:bighug:

Thank you for giving us your update. I am so glad both of you were able to go and support Sarah, Wayne and Marie.

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Thank you for sharing his memorial with us. Sounds like such a beautiful ceremony to remember a very loving child.

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Thank you sooo much for going.... the soap/bubble explanation was sooo moving! I hope that Sarah and Wayne and of course Gardenbug and Sklyar can find peace and move forward in life. Reed of course NEVER forgotten!

Again, Thank you for going!!!! HUGS!!!!

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Thank you for sharing!

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Wow, thank you, Amanda, for writing this and updating us about the memorial from a more personal point of view. Sounds like it was a beautiful and touching service. I am touched by the story about the bubbles. I hope the service helped Wayne and Sarah to heal just a little bit.

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Thanks for sharing ladies.