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~**~Steph's (mommys) Birth Lodge~**~

Congrats on hitting 36 weeks! I can't wait to follow/stalk you and I'm so happy I was able to start your lodge!

Cindy

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome!!!

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OH, I'm so excited. I needed this today.
Thanks, Cindy!

I'll be back to do intro and type out previous birth experience, but in the meantime this is my old lodge: http://www.pregnancy.org/bulletinboards/showthread.php?t=10860

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Welcome to your lodge!

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DH, Dave, and I first met online in January of 1999; we met in person on Feb 13th. We started dating seriously right away. DH was navy at the time and I was a senior in college. That fall, I moved across the country for grad school. It didn't take long for Dave to miss me and I had an engagement ring on my finger in October! Wink We were married the summer I graduated in 2001. This summer is our 10-year anniversary!

We discussed children as a future concept and were not in a hurry. About 5 years into our marriage, DH wasn't even sure he wanted to have children anymore. Fortunately, God had other plans and we got a surprise BFP in 2006. Neither of us enjoyed the pregnancy (more on that later) so when Andrea was born in Oct 2006, DH was clear that he did not want to do that again.

For the next few years, I did have some baby fever but did my best to just cherish my darling girl. I knew pressing DH on the matter would not help at all. I was stunned when just before Andrea's 3rd birthday, DH asked how I felt about having another child. "What!?!" was pretty much my response. Not too long after, I had my IUD removed and we started TTC. It took 7 months to get a BFP, much longer than I had anticipated. We were excited and nervous, but we lost the pregnancy around 13 weeks. Afterwards, there was some concern about whether we wanted to go through that again, but of course we did and God spared us another long trial - we immediately got a BFP for Halloween of 2010.

This pregnancy has not been without scares. I experienced heavy bleeding around 10 weeks and believed it to be another m/c. Fortunately, a trip to the ER confirmed a beating heart and active baby. I continued to bleed for at least 5 weeks. Since then, this pregnancy has progressed well. I compare it a lot to my first pregnancy and although m/s was awful during first trimester, I have not experienced the awful backpain that I had during 2nd tri of my first pregnancy, and so far (knock on wood), I do not have PUPPPS (an awful affliction that occurs most commonly in 1st pregnancies).

So here I am at 36 weeks, yippeee!

Oh, and if you read all of that, you are amazing!

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So we are expecting our second little girl! Her name will be Natalie. I'm hoping for at least as good of a birth experience as my first.

Previous birth:
On the morning of Oct 21st, my brother called from Hawaii (where he was stationed) to tell me about his wedding plans for the 24th and see how I was doing. I remember telling him that I didn't feel I'd be having this baby anytime soon. I had no pre-labor symptoms like early contractions or loss of plug and I was only 38 weeks on that day. Of course, I was wrong. At 11pm, I was sitting on my birth ball and felt what I immediately believed to be a contraction. We had just sat down to watch a movie. Contraction #2 came about 10 minutes later and a pattern established immediately at about 8 minutes apart. We turned off the movie and tried to take a nap in bed. DH slept, but I just stared over his head at the clock. Wink Eventually, I couldn't stand laying there anymore. I got up and immediately the contractions changed to 3 minutes apart. It was 2am and we were advised to head to the hospital.

At 3:30am I was checked in L&D. I was fully effaced and 2cm dilated - not good enough to be admitted. The midwife on call told me they would give me an hour to either progress or send me home. They monitored my contractions and saw two distinct peaks on each of my contractions. She said this is normal for posterior births and I confirmed that we believed she was posterior at last appt.

Now, here is where a pattern really started that bugged me about my birth. I spent the next hour walking around L&D and on my feet for most contractions. Instead of checking me in an hour, the nurse came in and said they would give me more time. It wasn't until at least 5am that my MW came back in to check me. The first words out of her mouth were "you don't look like a woman who is not progressing". Really? Definately couldn't talk through contractions anymore! A check revealed I was at 5cm.

My nurse quickly went through all the check-in stuff including some fetal monitoring and then suggested that I labor in the tub for a while. What a blessing! The water felt good. I unfortunately emptied my stomach but otherwise labored well enough in the tub for a while. Andrea didn't want to cooperate for intermitant fetal monitoring though and eventually I had to get out of the tub so they could get better reads (Andrea just liked to move away from doppler at every chance).

I found myself on my side in the bed. I was definately in transition and trying to stay on top of the contractions using breathing exercises. My water broke while I was laboring on my side. There was meconium in the fluid, so the midwife attempted to explain the procedure. I was so far into transition though that all I understood was I would have to stop pushing when her head came out so they could suction her.

They checked me at just after 7am and I was at a 10 with a small lip on the side. I was starting to panic a little. Thank goodness, my nurse asked me what I was afraid of and all I could think of was that I was afraid of losing my breath (I just really felt like I was hyperventilating). To this day, I'm thankful she helped me rationalize what was going on. Unfortunately, it was shift change and I got a new nurse at that point. Just before 7:30am, I told them I needed to push. She told me I could if I wanted, but I must admit that there was a general feeling that I still had a ways to go.

I switched to a hands and knees position (holding on to top of bed) and immediately felt so much better. Pushing felt so much better. DH says I was really loud at this point, but all I remember is feeling like things were actually right. My midwife was not in the room at all during pushing and the nurse just sat staring at the monitor. It wasn't long before I felt her crown and yelled it out. The nurse told me to stop pushing and ran out the door. The MW came running in telling me not to push because they weren't ready (remember, they were concerned about the meconium). Andrea's head actually slipped back in. Once the team had assembled, I was allowed to push again. I had no trouble pushing her back out, head and eventually body. I don't even remember any "ring of fire". She cried as expected and I remember the relief of knowing she was okay. It took them a moment to get me turned around so I could hold her. Her official time of birth was 8:01am on 10/22. (9 hours of labor total, ~3.5 hours active labor/pushing)

Andrea was born posterior (OP) and ended up with two large hemotomas on her head to prove it. I had to have a lot of stitches (a new midwife did these since there was shift change). They did take Andrea across the room to weigh and measure her, but brought her back immediately and actually helped her latch on for breastfeeding even before my stitches were done! She was 7lb8oz and 20.25 inches.

We stayed in the hospital for the traditional 24 hours and practically ran out of there afterwards. My milk did not come in for 4 days and healing from the 2nd degree tears was painful (plus, my PUPPPS did not go away on its own) so postpartum was difficult.

With this birth, I have chosen to birth at a birthing center. When asked why I'm choosing the birth center and two midwives over the hospital and 6 midwives, my answer is generally that I just want a "better experience". I didn't dislike my first birth, but my midwife wasn't even in the room when my baby crowned. Instead, she was in another laboring mom's room. I barely knew the midwife since it is hard to get to know 6 practitioners. This time I'll have lots of support - a wonderful midwife who is there just for me, plus her assistant AND I've hired a doula. The two midwives are wonderful and I'm really excited for this birth, plus the wonderful birthing tub and relaxing atmosphere. Smile

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Welcome to your lodge! I loved reading your previous birth story! It's so wonderfully reassuring to hear that you are excited about the birth this time around- makes me feel much more confident about choosing a birth center this time around. TFS!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome! Enjoyed your first birthing story! Look forward to reading this one soon Smile

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Welcome to your lodge! I enjoyed reading your intro and can't wait to hear more :-).

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oh my! how is it that time already?!?! welcome to your lodge...love the intros so far. Can't wait to follow your lodge!

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It sounds like you were well educated going into Andrea's birth. I have a feeling you may be looking at a quick birth this second time around.

Cindy

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Yep, this birth might be quick. The midwives have already told me that they probably won't have me labor at home at all. I'm most afraid of the 35 min drive to the Birth Center - don't want to be stuck seated during active labor but also know that my contractions slow significantly when seated prior to active labor. Oh well, it will work out.

So today was my GBS swab. My midwives have us administer the test ourselves, which was expected but felt strange after last pregnancy when they did everything for me. (We also do all our own protein/glucose pee tests at the Birth Center.)

I had a great day. I accomplished a ton, including washing all the cloth diapers, drying them on my new clothes line and reassembling them to put away. Smile

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Welcome to your lodge! I still lurk on this board and knew you were getting close:)

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What a birth story! I would definitely be in your shoes with wanting to switch to a birth center, it sounds like that midwife was actually preferring the other laboring woman!

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Ouch. I hurt. My body is just tired and in pain, mostly my groin/lower abdomen. I just keep thinking I need to make it a few more days. Tuesdays are the start of my new week and I need to be 37 weeks to deliver at the birth center. I think this little girl is ready though, she is so low in my pelvis most of the time.

I'm off to the homeschooling fair today.

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Stephanie, I just wanted you to know that I have been lurking over here and stalking you. I hope the last bit of your pregnancy goes as smoothly as possible. I can't believe you are so close! I am so excited to read about this birth story. I can imagine how comforting it must feel knowing you have so much support.

Best wishes for you and baby Natalie!

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YAY! Welcome Steph, since you have your lodge, I know I'm getting close!!! Smile

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Awww, thanks for all the love everyone.

I'm having a pretty good day. I slept really good last night, it was so nice to only get up a few times and not cry over hip pain for once Smile I think all the walking at the homeschool convention yesterday was good for me. I haven't been as active today, just some basic cleaning and a short walk with my daughter. I'm not quite walking like an 80-year-old today though, so nice to feel human!

37 weeks on Tuesday! Can't wait to be officially ready to go!

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I'm a little slow but wanted to say welcome to your lodge! I'm so excited to follow your journey.

I enjoyed reading your last birth story and I totally think you'll have a quick birth this time. Your first was speedy, especially with an OP baby.

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"rmacburn" wrote:

I enjoyed reading your last birth story and I totally think you'll have a quick birth this time. Your first was speedy, especially with an OP baby.

ditto...and your first birth is similar to my first birth, and my second was relatively speedy and easy. I felt like my contrax were so much easier this time around b/c baby wasn't OP and I didn't get them right on top of each other.

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I am jealous of those of you who have quick births!
Did you do anything fun this weekend? How are you feeling?

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We had a nice quiet weekend. Yesterday was completely lazy (DH has a hurt back) so we all stayed in pj's ALL day, even skipped church which is rare for us. I made DH some yummy biscuits and gravy though and did finish a bib and burp clothes.

My belly is lopsided, even my stretch marks are longer and heavier on my right side now. I have a hard time figuring out which way she is facing unless I can clearly feel her kicks. I'm 90% sure that her head is low and bottom up, but she seems to be at an angle where her bottom is close to the middle of my belly and her legs may be making up the bulk on my right side. I've been reading spinning babies, but it tends to confuse me.

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Happy 37 weeks! I hope she straightens out for you, it sounds like it could be brutal on the hips.

Cindy

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William did the same thing to me right up until I went into labor. He was almost side ways in me and then turned into the perfect position maybe a few hours before labor started. It's not the most comfortable. Hope baby turns for you soon!

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I can't remember if you are seeing a MW or Dr. either way, it shouldn't matter, they should be able to tell baby's position from the fetal heart tones and feeling around, that way, if she's ROT (like mine), you can try to get her to turn before she goes OP (like mine seems to be doing). I think you and I "discussed" this on another thread and you mentioned your first was OP. It personally doesn't bother me too much to deliver another OP baby (famous last words until that back labor kicks in!).

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Yes Becca, I have 2 midwives. They feel her at every appointment and she has been consistantly head down, but we haven't always been able to tell her rotation very well. As I keep repeating to myself and the midwives (and I know you can relate): "I know I can push out an OP baby relatively well, but I'm so hoping to have an even easier birth! Double peak contractions are not fun!" Lol

37 weeks!!!! I can now officially birth at the birthing center. This is a great day Smile Unfortunately, there is a birth today so we had to move my 37 week appointment to tomorrow. Normally I would just switch my appt to the other midwife, but I guess once you hit full-term, they like you to have your appt with the midwife that is delivering babies that week. Sigh - was really looking forward to an appt today and it messed up my plans with a friend tomorrow.

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Congrats on the great news! Sorry you had to cancel plans for tomorrow!

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Congrats on reaching 37 weeks! I hope everything goes well tomorrow, especially since you are having to change plans.

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Welcome to your lodge!!

Yay on hitting 37w. The birth center sounds wonderful.

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Yay for 37 weeks! Hope your appointment goes well!

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WTG on hitting the 37 week mark! Biggrin

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Had my appt today

GBS is negative Smile

Natalie is really low in there. She is facing sideways still - her body is on my left and limbs stretched out to my right. MW seems really positive that she could easily turn the correct way.

Everything was good - BP, her heartrate, etc. Mostly just a waiting game now.

My friends treated me to a pedicure this evening. So nice!

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My MW said that most babies who are LOT (like your's) turn anterior and ROT ones go OP so I bet she will turn the correct way for you and you can have an even smoother labor and delivery! Smile Did you go before 40 weeks with your DD? Nice treat from your friends. Smile

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Sounds like a great appt. That's wonderful that you are GBS negative! Hope the LO turns. Yay for a pedicure!!!
I am assuming your MW doesn't check for progress until you're actually in labor?

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How wonderful to have a pedicure!

Glad to hear that the GBS swab is negative. Smile

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Just read that you're having contractions on the July board. Hope this is it and that things go smoothly!!!

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Baby is here! Can't wait to see pix and hear about the birth!

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woweee...congrats Steph!!!

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Congrats! Can't wait to hear about it!

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Congrats and WTTW, Natalie! Can't wait to hear the story!

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Looking for the story. We had so many births in the last 24 hours on the July board. I just read your on your way home already. I can't wait to see some photos.

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Congratulations!

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Wowzers!!! Congrats!!! Can't wait to hear about it!

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Congrats Steph and WTTW baby Natalie. I hope everything is amazing and I'm exited to hear how things went!

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Congrats!

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Congrats! Can't wait to hear the story!

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Thanks everyone.

I really can't wait to write up the story, but in the meantime I can say it was very different from my first. All is well and we had a great birth center birth and today's home visit went well.

Natalie is adorable with a full head of dark hair. She was 18 3/4" and 7lb 13oz. She was born at 37W3D on June 24th at 9:59am.

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here are pics

Just born, look at all that vernix!

She barely looks like a newborn with all those rolls!

Sister

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I love the sibbling pics.

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