Congrats on hitting 36 weeks! I can't wait to follow/stalk you and I'm so happy I was able to start your lodge!
Welcome to your lodge!
Christy birth doula, Hypnobabies instructor, small business owner & most importantly MOMMY.
OH, I'm so excited. I needed this today.
I'll be back to do intro and type out previous birth experience, but in the meantime this is my old lodge: Stephanie's (mommys) lodge
DH, Dave, and I first met online in January of 1999; we met in person on Feb 13th. We started dating seriously right away. DH was navy at the time and I was a senior in college. That fall, I moved across the country for grad school. It didn't take long for Dave to miss me and I had an engagement ring on my finger in October! We were married the summer I graduated in 2001. This summer is our 10-year anniversary!
We discussed children as a future concept and were not in a hurry. About 5 years into our marriage, DH wasn't even sure he wanted to have children anymore. Fortunately, God had other plans and we got a surprise BFP in 2006. Neither of us enjoyed the pregnancy (more on that later) so when Andrea was born in Oct 2006, DH was clear that he did not want to do that again.
For the next few years, I did have some baby fever but did my best to just cherish my darling girl. I knew pressing DH on the matter would not help at all. I was stunned when just before Andrea's 3rd birthday, DH asked how I felt about having another child. "What!?!" was pretty much my response. Not too long after, I had my IUD removed and we started TTC. It took 7 months to get a BFP, much longer than I had anticipated. We were excited and nervous, but we lost the pregnancy around 13 weeks. Afterwards, there was some concern about whether we wanted to go through that again, but of course we did and God spared us another long trial - we immediately got a BFP for Halloween of 2010.
This pregnancy has not been without scares. I experienced heavy bleeding around 10 weeks and believed it to be another m/c. Fortunately, a trip to the ER confirmed a beating heart and active baby. I continued to bleed for at least 5 weeks. Since then, this pregnancy has progressed well. I compare it a lot to my first pregnancy and although m/s was awful during first trimester, I have not experienced the awful backpain that I had during 2nd tri of my first pregnancy, and so far (knock on wood), I do not have PUPPPS (an awful affliction that occurs most commonly in 1st pregnancies).
So here I am at 36 weeks, yippeee!
Oh, and if you read all of that, you are amazing!
So we are expecting our second little girl! Her name will be Natalie. I'm hoping for at least as good of a birth experience as my first.
On the morning of Oct 21st, my brother called from Hawaii (where he was stationed) to tell me about his wedding plans for the 24th and see how I was doing. I remember telling him that I didn't feel I'd be having this baby anytime soon. I had no pre-labor symptoms like early contractions or loss of plug and I was only 38 weeks on that day. Of course, I was wrong. At 11pm, I was sitting on my birth ball and felt what I immediately believed to be a contraction. We had just sat down to watch a movie. Contraction #2 came about 10 minutes later and a pattern established immediately at about 8 minutes apart. We turned off the movie and tried to take a nap in bed. DH slept, but I just stared over his head at the clock. Eventually, I couldn't stand laying there anymore. I got up and immediately the contractions changed to 3 minutes apart. It was 2am and we were advised to head to the hospital.
At 3:30am I was checked in L&D. I was fully effaced and 2cm dilated - not good enough to be admitted. The midwife on call told me they would give me an hour to either progress or send me home. They monitored my contractions and saw two distinct peaks on each of my contractions. She said this is normal for posterior births and I confirmed that we believed she was posterior at last appt.
Now, here is where a pattern really started that bugged me about my birth. I spent the next hour walking around L&D and on my feet for most contractions. Instead of checking me in an hour, the nurse came in and said they would give me more time. It wasn't until at least 5am that my MW came back in to check me. The first words out of her mouth were "you don't look like a woman who is not progressing". Really? Definately couldn't talk through contractions anymore! A check revealed I was at 5cm.
My nurse quickly went through all the check-in stuff including some fetal monitoring and then suggested that I labor in the tub for a while. What a blessing! The water felt good. I unfortunately emptied my stomach but otherwise labored well enough in the tub for a while. Andrea didn't want to cooperate for intermitant fetal monitoring though and eventually I had to get out of the tub so they could get better reads (Andrea just liked to move away from doppler at every chance).
I found myself on my side in the bed. I was definately in transition and trying to stay on top of the contractions using breathing exercises. My water broke while I was laboring on my side. There was meconium in the fluid, so the midwife attempted to explain the procedure. I was so far into transition though that all I understood was I would have to stop pushing when her head came out so they could suction her.
They checked me at just after 7am and I was at a 10 with a small lip on the side. I was starting to panic a little. Thank goodness, my nurse asked me what I was afraid of and all I could think of was that I was afraid of losing my breath (I just really felt like I was hyperventilating). To this day, I'm thankful she helped me rationalize what was going on. Unfortunately, it was shift change and I got a new nurse at that point. Just before 7:30am, I told them I needed to push. She told me I could if I wanted, but I must admit that there was a general feeling that I still had a ways to go.
I switched to a hands and knees position (holding on to top of bed) and immediately felt so much better. Pushing felt so much better. DH says I was really loud at this point, but all I remember is feeling like things were actually right. My midwife was not in the room at all during pushing and the nurse just sat staring at the monitor. It wasn't long before I felt her crown and yelled it out. The nurse told me to stop pushing and ran out the door. The MW came running in telling me not to push because they weren't ready (remember, they were concerned about the meconium). Andrea's head actually slipped back in. Once the team had assembled, I was allowed to push again. I had no trouble pushing her back out, head and eventually body. I don't even remember any "ring of fire". She cried as expected and I remember the relief of knowing she was okay. It took them a moment to get me turned around so I could hold her. Her official time of birth was 8:01am on 10/22. (9 hours of labor total, ~3.5 hours active labor/pushing)
Andrea was born posterior (OP) and ended up with two large hemotomas on her head to prove it. I had to have a lot of stitches (a new midwife did these since there was shift change). They did take Andrea across the room to weigh and measure her, but brought her back immediately and actually helped her latch on for breastfeeding even before my stitches were done! She was 7lb8oz and 20.25 inches.
We stayed in the hospital for the traditional 24 hours and practically ran out of there afterwards. My milk did not come in for 4 days and healing from the 2nd degree tears was painful (plus, my PUPPPS did not go away on its own) so postpartum was difficult.
With this birth, I have chosen to birth at a birthing center. When asked why I'm choosing the birth center and two midwives over the hospital and 6 midwives, my answer is generally that I just want a "better experience". I didn't dislike my first birth, but my midwife wasn't even in the room when my baby crowned. Instead, she was in another laboring mom's room. I barely knew the midwife since it is hard to get to know 6 practitioners. This time I'll have lots of support - a wonderful midwife who is there just for me, plus her assistant AND I've hired a doula. The two midwives are wonderful and I'm really excited for this birth, plus the wonderful birthing tub and relaxing atmosphere.
Welcome to your lodge! I loved reading your previous birth story! It's so wonderfully reassuring to hear that you are excited about the birth this time around- makes me feel much more confident about choosing a birth center this time around. TFS!
Welcome! Enjoyed your first birthing story! Look forward to reading this one soon