1-3 times a week I watch my cousin's daughter, she turned two in April. She will always be an only child. The only interaction she ever gets with other children is with my kids, so improvements in her being nice and not a bully are so slow. I have been watching her for about 6mo. I will fully admit that Abram can be a bully too, but if I say anything to my cousin about her daughter being aggressive or something, she just says how my niece (who she has seen 1-2 times ever, and is a few months younger than her dd) is a bully, which is true, but irrelevant. Yesterday before my cousin left, Aurora was using her sippy to hit Wyatt, so I said in the sweetest tone, " Aurora, don't hit Wyatt.", Jher mom's response, "Usually she is always nice, unless she is not feeling well." I said nothing, because she does this EVERY SINGLE TIME she is here. And my cousin would have no idea, because Aurora is never around any other kids. Abram has bit her and left bite marks, and that KILLS me, but I do timeouts when he does that, as I do timeout for Rora when she hits and what not. Abram hits and bites out of frustation (still not okay), but Aurora, seriously, I watch her, and she just hits and pushes because she can. It is driving me nuts. She still seems excited to come every time, but I put her in timeout about 3 times in 10 minutes. I thought I would be seeing improvement by now, but its been at least 6mo, and she shares better, but just as aggressive. After the 3rd time out though, she was pushing again, and I asked her if she wanted to sit on the chair again, and she gave me a very clear "no!" (she does not talk a whole lot).
As I was typing all this I heard Wyatt crying around the corner, and then Aurora crying, an when I went in there, Abram had bit her on the back. Yikes! I absolutely hate having to tell her parents that she has a bite mark from my kid. They are all getting really good at giving each other hugs after time out. Abram and Aurora are both more aggressive personalities, so I worry a little less about them, but my Wyatt is so passive, he just gets picked on.
Any idea to help me out?
And to focus on the positive, she has vastly improved with sharing. Before she would hoard toys, like 7 barbie horses in a pile, not playing with them, just guarding them from any one else touching one (My older dd loves horses lol). But now, she will be playing with something, and if Abram asks for it, she will just hand it over. So that is huge really, but I would love to cut out the aggression from both Abram and Aurora.