So I am going to breastfeed the baby and I just feel like I am not going to be able to do it, newborns are always nursing and with 4 kids 3 in school I just feel like after the first 2 weeks that going to be it. Once hubby goes back to work and school after he takes off time to be home I am going to be the main person. Hubby works nights and goes to school all afternoon into evening and 2 nights a week he goes to school at 4pm and doesn't come home till the next day since class is late and he has to rush to work. I am not sure what to do. Should I get a pump? Should I breast and bottle feed? How do you ladies do it! I did not breastfeed the last 2, so its going to be a new experience!
You might need to supplement, I always do, but try to limit it to 1 bottle in 24 hours.
It's not easy and you learn to breastfeed while standing... If you can time the feedings for before and after school drop offs- that would be helpful. Things seem to always work themselves out somehow, it's not easy but it's possible.
I breastfed my last 4 babies exclusively... It's hard work, but totally do-able and very enjoyable. I don't know why, but I always found that my babies seemed to "know" when I was available and when I really was not.
Give it a go. Try it and see... That's all any new mother can do really. Either it'll work and you will find a way, or it won't and you'll decide to take other routes. We can all tell you our own experiences but until you're living it, you'll never know how it'll work out for you personally!
Maybe try to learn how to nurse in a sling. I have a friend who had 5 kids and breastfed them all for at least 2 years, and she nursed them in a sling while walking around, etc. I never learned how to do it, but the other kids were in school when Thomas was a newborn. You can do it if you are determined. But even if you make it only 2 weeks, that's 2 weeks the child would not have had otherwise. I admire you wanting to give it a try. It can be a real bonding experience.
Deb ................. DH Norm
DS Caleb, 13 ...... DS Patrick, 12
DS Isaiah, 8 ......... DS Thomas, 7
DD Cherish, 6....... DD Emily, 7\18\13 ....... Ripple, 17
William, 14 weeks, 4/11/12
I wanted to breastfeed my last 2 I REALLY DID! But with my first son he was tounge tied and the dr wouldn't clip it and the ent would not help me get a pump and the hospital wasn't any help so I gave up, he is no longer tounge tied thanks to a fork and with my last he was taken right to the nicu and it was a very hard week he wasn't supposed to live and he did and he had so many allergies and still does and he needed special formula and it was just NUTS!
But I AM GOING TO BREASTFEED at least 30 days I want to make it 30 days! Everyone said the newborn stage is the hardest and that is what I am worried about. My ob suggested pumping to offer a bottle at night or formula in the morning. My ob said she would write me a perscpription to get the breastpump paid for by our insurance, they will pay up to 1,200 for a rental and the hospital ones here are 1,400 so it will be worth it.
All I know is I just want to do this!
You may want a LC from the very start to help things run smoothly.
Leo (3 1/2) with Malcolm the cat
i breastfed all 5. it wasn't easy.....the 1st week at home was rough....just getting everyone acclimated to the idea, that when mommy is nursing the baby....the sippy of water can wait, the snack can wait....but in the same breathe....i had to learn to let go of having a complete feeding session every.single.time......because there were LOTS AND LOTS of unlatching and taking care of toddler needs, and then getting settled in again and finishing feeds......and ya know what......jack was perfectly fine with it......LOL....
i learned that it was ok, to be 15 minutes late to my oldest daughters field hockey and basketball games..it was easier for me to "top off" jack as a newbie before going into the event....then to try to nurse in public.....but i did still have instances where i had to nurse in public, and i did nurse in a ring sling....
i was hel!bent on nursing all 5 for the 1st year.....it was definately one of my biggest achievements(in my book anyways) .....you can do it.......good luck
Gina & Rob 6/3/00
Proud Mom of Alyssa 11/19/04 and Logan 9/4/07
You can do it! Your OB is offering terrible advice IMO (sorry!) Don't start out with a pump and don't assume you'll need to supplement. Your body knows how to do this and you can do it. Pumps are not as effective at getting milk out and it doesn't produce that love hormone oxytocin-- which makes your body make more milk......warm snuggly babies make you make more milk. The more you nurse the more milk you have....to pump and bottle feed takes TWICE the time-- who has time for that? Get a good LC and start there. You may want to consult a midwife for a reference. In addition, read books now.
Slings are really helpful, so is just having baby next to you all of the time. You can consider co-sleeping, too, as that really helps. I found that when I returned to work that my kids would make up the lost skin to skin time during the night.....
DD 8.03, DD 6.05, DS 3.07, DD 5.09, and DS arrived 6.17.12
I agree with pp - give it a go. I would definitely get a pump though. That way if you need it you'll have it. Especially with a family on the go. I BF'd my last (for 14 months) and with 4 older siblings it was tough but my sling (definitely) and my pump were huge helps to me.
Plus talk to your other kids about it so they are on board and understand the baby's needs. We were very open with our kids and they were amazingly patient and good about it. Even my DSS's who have some behavioral issues were great about it. Kids can be so cool that way.
GL - i know you can do it! Also post on the breastfeeding board too. There are some great supportive ladies on there with awesome advice.
I also recommend talking to an LC with experience with women who have multiple older children. They are out there and can be a huge support system. Do you have a LLL in your area? They can also be wonderful help.
Yay for you wanting to try!!!
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