Breastfeeding! How will I DO IT! AHHH

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Breastfeeding! How will I DO IT! AHHH

So I am going to breastfeed the baby and I just feel like I am not going to be able to do it, newborns are always nursing and with 4 kids 3 in school I just feel like after the first 2 weeks that going to be it. Once hubby goes back to work and school after he takes off time to be home I am going to be the main person. Hubby works nights and goes to school all afternoon into evening and 2 nights a week he goes to school at 4pm and doesn't come home till the next day since class is late and he has to rush to work. I am not sure what to do. Should I get a pump? Should I breast and bottle feed? How do you ladies do it! I did not breastfeed the last 2, so its going to be a new experience!

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You might need to supplement, I always do, but try to limit it to 1 bottle in 24 hours.
It's not easy and you learn to breastfeed while standing... If you can time the feedings for before and after school drop offs- that would be helpful. Things seem to always work themselves out somehow, it's not easy but it's possible.

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I breastfed my last 4 babies exclusively... It's hard work, but totally do-able and very enjoyable. I don't know why, but I always found that my babies seemed to "know" when I was available and when I really was not.

Give it a go. Try it and see... That's all any new mother can do really. Either it'll work and you will find a way, or it won't and you'll decide to take other routes. We can all tell you our own experiences but until you're living it, you'll never know how it'll work out for you personally!

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Maybe try to learn how to nurse in a sling. I have a friend who had 5 kids and breastfed them all for at least 2 years, and she nursed them in a sling while walking around, etc. I never learned how to do it, but the other kids were in school when Thomas was a newborn. You can do it if you are determined. But even if you make it only 2 weeks, that's 2 weeks the child would not have had otherwise. I admire you wanting to give it a try. It can be a real bonding experience.

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I wanted to breastfeed my last 2 I REALLY DID! But with my first son he was tounge tied and the dr wouldn't clip it and the ent would not help me get a pump and the hospital wasn't any help so I gave up, he is no longer tounge tied thanks to a fork Smile and with my last he was taken right to the nicu and it was a very hard week he wasn't supposed to live and he did and he had so many allergies and still does and he needed special formula and it was just NUTS!

But I AM GOING TO BREASTFEED at least 30 days I want to make it 30 days! Everyone said the newborn stage is the hardest and that is what I am worried about. My ob suggested pumping to offer a bottle at night or formula in the morning. My ob said she would write me a perscpription to get the breastpump paid for by our insurance, they will pay up to 1,200 for a rental and the hospital ones here are 1,400 so it will be worth it.

All I know is I just want to do this!

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You may want a LC from the very start to help things run smoothly.

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i breastfed all 5. it wasn't easy.....the 1st week at home was rough....just getting everyone acclimated to the idea, that when mommy is nursing the baby....the sippy of water can wait, the snack can wait....but in the same breathe....i had to learn to let go of having a complete feeding session every.single.time......because there were LOTS AND LOTS of unlatching and taking care of toddler needs, and then getting settled in again and finishing feeds......and ya know what......jack was perfectly fine with it......LOL....
i learned that it was ok, to be 15 minutes late to my oldest daughters field hockey and basketball games..it was easier for me to "top off" jack as a newbie before going into the event....then to try to nurse in public.....but i did still have instances where i had to nurse in public, and i did nurse in a ring sling....
i was hel!bent on nursing all 5 for the 1st year.....it was definately one of my biggest achievements(in my book anyways) .....you can do it.......good luck

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"2sonsplus1" wrote:

Maybe try to learn how to nurse in a sling. I have a friend who had 5 kids and breastfed them all for at least 2 years, and she nursed them in a sling while walking around, etc. I never learned how to do it, but the other kids were in school when Thomas was a newborn. You can do it if you are determined. But even if you make it only 2 weeks, that's 2 weeks the child would not have had otherwise. I admire you wanting to give it a try. It can be a real bonding experience.

I agree the sling is a big help! I bf my 2nd in the sling while walking around helping my 3 yo alot! I love the maya sling and I'm trying to get another one for the next baby. I'm so mad i sold everything thinking i was done Sad

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You can do it! Your OB is offering terrible advice IMO (sorry!) Don't start out with a pump and don't assume you'll need to supplement. Your body knows how to do this and you can do it. Pumps are not as effective at getting milk out and it doesn't produce that love hormone oxytocin-- which makes your body make more milk......warm snuggly babies make you make more milk. The more you nurse the more milk you have....to pump and bottle feed takes TWICE the time-- who has time for that? Get a good LC and start there. You may want to consult a midwife for a reference. In addition, read books now.

Slings are really helpful, so is just having baby next to you all of the time. You can consider co-sleeping, too, as that really helps. I found that when I returned to work that my kids would make up the lost skin to skin time during the night.....

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I agree with pp - give it a go. I would definitely get a pump though. That way if you need it you'll have it. Especially with a family on the go. I BF'd my last (for 14 months) and with 4 older siblings it was tough but my sling (definitely) and my pump were huge helps to me.

Plus talk to your other kids about it so they are on board and understand the baby's needs. We were very open with our kids and they were amazingly patient and good about it. Even my DSS's who have some behavioral issues were great about it. Kids can be so cool that way.

GL - i know you can do it! Also post on the breastfeeding board too. There are some great supportive ladies on there with awesome advice.

I also recommend talking to an LC with experience with women who have multiple older children. They are out there and can be a huge support system. Do you have a LLL in your area? They can also be wonderful help.

Yay for you wanting to try!!!

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Couldn't agree more with Audra! Even just yesterday, my SIL was over and I decided to let her feed Isaiah a bottle, well I waited a bit and then pumped...well Isaiah nursed the whole night, it felt like I didn't have enough milk despite having enough this whole time. I can totally see how if he wasn't the 3rd baby I've exclusively breastfed I could have given up and given another bottle (which likely would have led to another and another, ect as my supply dipped).
I pumped exclusively for my first child and have exclusively breastfed my kids since then. Breastfeeding is SO much easier than bottlefeeding once the first few weeks are up. I can't imagine adding in making and cleaning bottles to top everything off in my day. I've made it a point to try and give Isaiah a bottle once a week so that if we need someone to watch him we have that option, and even just that is a little annoying Lol
You really have to trust that your body will make what your baby needs, even if it seems like they aren't, when they are going through growth spurts they do nurse often but honestly you get used to taking care of the other kids with one arm and nursing the baby in the other. If you can get through the first 30 days it gets SO much easier after then. I was looking at the ages for growth spurts the other day and there are TONS in that first month and then another around 6 weeks and then...not much! I think around 3, 6, and 9 months and that's it! But I think setting goals is good, small goals and celebrating each one Smile

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You CAN do it! You need to get off to a good start and it sounds like you really want to. Make sure you know before the baby comes where to get help if you need it. IMO breastfeeding is easier then bottlefeeding. When you are dropping off your older kids at school there will be no need to pre-make a bottle because you will always have your breasts with you. Pumping is kind of a pain, and if you are pumping and feeding expressed milk in a bottle it is VERY time consuming, so if you can breastfeed without pumping I think it will fit in with your life more conveniently.

Good luck with everything!

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I think this one for me will be a bit trickier too--because now I have 2 kids in school full time, plus after school activities that keep us running. Plus a toddler/preschooler at home that needs tending to, and he gets bored now that the big kids are gone during the day--which sometimes is hard too because they do help some with him--get him a drink or a snack or run him to the potty etc for me. But I EBF all three so far, and plan to do so for this one too--because the little inconveniences that we will all experience I'm sure will be far less than prepping bottles or pumping. Smile

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3 of kids go to school and 1 of my kids I have to take to a bus stop and pick them up at the bus stop. My youngest son starts school in Jan so they will all be gone all day so it might easy but once they come home from school that is OUR crazy time and bedtime is nuts! So we will see. My first goal is 30 days. And really I would love to not pay for formua again, my youngest was on that similac alimentum and we had to add something to it and it was a lot!

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I agree with Mandi and Audra. Smile Bf is much easier than pumping, but it may be convenient to have a bottle sometimes as well. I am still bf my almost 2 yr old twins, and it was hard in the beginning. I could do almost anything bf with one baby, and I did, cook, potty train, etc, but with two, well, I have learned to slow down A LOT, because I had to. It has been kind of nice. Nursing is just snuggle time, not get anything else done (beyond tv watching lol) and enjoy the babies time. Things wait, dinner, running errands, etc. Smile But bf has been so much cheaper than buying formula and so much better for the boys as well. And it has been more convenient to bf as well, I bf at soccer games (under much cover, and usually just one at a time, bf two in public is well, a little too showy for me lol) and other places as well. Had I needed to get bottles and formula ready, well, who knows how late I would be. It was enough to get 4 kids dressed and out the door. lol. Wink

You can do it! It can be hard work, but so worth it! Smile

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"Mommyin04060809" wrote:

I wanted to breastfeed my last 2 I REALLY DID! But with my first son he was tounge tied and the dr wouldn't clip it and the ent would not help me get a pump and the hospital wasn't any help so I gave up, he is no longer tounge tied thanks to a fork Smile and with my last he was taken right to the nicu and it was a very hard week he wasn't supposed to live and he did and he had so many allergies and still does and he needed special formula and it was just NUTS!

But I AM GOING TO BREASTFEED at least 30 days I want to make it 30 days! Everyone said the newborn stage is the hardest and that is what I am worried about. My ob suggested pumping to offer a bottle at night or formula in the morning. My ob said she would write me a perscpription to get the breastpump paid for by our insurance, they will pay up to 1,200 for a rental and the hospital ones here are 1,400 so it will be worth it.

All I know is I just want to do this!

Don't give formula. It will reduce your milk supply, then you will just become discouraged. And the middle of the night feedings are actually not that bad. I would nurse my kids in bed, and it was relaxing time for the two of us.

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I nursed my babes and am SO looking forward to doing it again Smile I actually nursed Elle until her 2nd b-day when she self weaned *sniff* Just like with anything else, you will find your groove and your routine! Pumping is a pain and once babe gets the hang of nursing it is so easy to nurse on the go and even do it out in public in a discreet manor. Definitely learn the fine art of nursing in a Moby...it will be a life saving skill Smile Good luck!

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Laides Thank you so much for all the great advice. I am not going to get a pump and I am not going to buy any formula. I am going to wait and see what happens. I also found out about a local breastfeeding group at our local library so I might go and check that out. My goal is 30 days to start. I know I can do it I just hope I can work the kids around it Smile

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Oh, I forgot to mention, and I can't remember if anyone else did: Ask for a lactation consultant the day your baby is born. Caleb was my first baby, and he was born on the weekend. I didn't see the LC until Monday. He was clicking his tongue while nursing, and I didn't realize that it was a bad thing. By the time I saw the LC, the habit was established, and it took weeks to correct it. (It wasn't particularly bad for him, but it caused me to become sore after awhile.)

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