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    Hello all!
    I know my family isn't extremely "large," but I was wondering if I could hang out. I am mom of 4 little boys, ages 7 (twins), 5, and 2. Love them bunches and bunches! My life seems a bit crazy, though, and I am wondering if you ladies have any suggestions about implementing "chores" or how to organize them. They are supposed to pick up their own toys and clean their rooms, but that is about all I have been making them do. I have come to realize that my twins are almost 8 years old and have hardly any responsibilities! I had been a SAHM for the majority of their lives and suddenly had to go back to work this past fall. The house has fallen apart, and I know it is because the kids have no responsibilities! How do you ladies manage your households? How much do you expect your kiddos to do, and what are their ages?
    Thanks so much for any input!!
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    I have 3 boys (expecting baby #4) ages 4 1/2, almost 3, and 15mo. The 4 1/2 year old loves emptying and loading the dishwasher. He also sets the table for dinner. The older two are expected to pick up the toys (but it takes prodding). We use some rewards, either material (we have a box of inexpensive prizes: art supplies, little books, and some matchbox cars) for really good work, or immaterial (a board game with Daddy with the oldest) for more routine things like cleaning up the toys in the living room in the evening. It works pretty well. I'd love to get them putting away their laundry, but haven't found a way to do that yet.
    big boy 12.8.07 @ 39+2 7lbs 8oz, 20.5" BFed for 13 months
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    baby boy 10.25.13 @ 41+0 8lbs 15oz, 21.5"
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    We have 5 kids, ages 5 to 12. The two oldest have been cleaning the bathroom weekly and cleaning the cat litter daily for several years. The two youngest love to help with vacuuming and dishes. Sometimes they help sort and fold laundry. The older boys are also responsible for taking out the garbage. We have regular chores for pay and other chores that are as needed or as they feel like volunteering. Some chores (e.g. putting their plates in the sink after every meal or setting the table) are expected of them without any reward.

    We pay allowance monthly, which is a base rate of $1/week plus extra money we negotiate for chores. Half the chore money goes in to an "account" for karate gear and weapons as they get older and need to buy these things. I love doing this, because it teaches them about the value of money. If they really want something, they have to save up and buy it themselves, and if they really want to spend their money on something, we let them, even if they end up regretting it later. To give you an idea how they value money, my 12 year old found a penny the other day and ran all the way up to the 3rd floor to put it in his bank.

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    Those are some good ideas. I have heard both positive and negative about allowance, but I am seriously considering it. Deb, I like how you have a regular allowance and then the kids can earn extra if they do extra chores.
    I need to be braver about letting the twins load the dishwasher...I am so afraid they will do it wrong! I guess I am a little OCD about it....
    I already have the twins taking out the garbage, but only when I ask them to. They are all responsible for putting away their laundry after I fold it. I help the 2 year old, but the older 3 put their own away. I want to make some kind of chart or something that says "This is what you are supposed to do every day...." and then list the chores. Then make some kind of rotating one for each kiddo so they take turns with dishes, garbage, helping with bathrooms...etc....
    I am just not sure how to implement it.
    Thanks for the input!
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    Take a look at this site for Chore Charts: http://www.supernanny.com/Advice/-/P...re-charts.aspx
    I gave my daughter the Melissa & Doug wall Chart. (#3 on the site) It worked well because the options were excellent. I think it is good to have a purchased item in this situation rather than having it be Mom nagging. The child (children) can participate in setting it up. Changing the rules is easy with this chart. That means you can start slowly, or if it is overwhelming, you can remove some tasks.
    Ultimately though, I feel that developing a happy helpful nature in your household is the goal and that your goal is moving beyond the OC Mama stage. That means, outgrowing the need for a chore chart all together!

    PS: DD's family has worked out a pretty successful Saturday morning family chore time where each person is in charge of a certain area or chore. (They live far away so I am not sure of the details.) The kids see that everyone participates and this works well. On a daily basis everyone adds their dishes to the dishwasher, sets the table, etc. Her stepson (who is there 50% of the time only) had a difficult time with chores because he has none at his other home. At DD's home, they worked with him on feelings of pride in doing a job well and things improved
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    Gardenbug, Thanks for the site!
    I mostly want a chart of some sort because I think it will help the kids know what to do every day, rather than have me nagging at them. If they can look at the chart and think, "O I need to do this" maybe it will help them have that sense of pride. That is my theory, anyway.
    My ultimate goal is that we can all work together to keep the house clean and then have more time for fun family time!
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    when my sisters and I were younger (3 of us) my mom got a large white board and used it to make a job chart. we each had a section with our chores. She used permanent marker for the grid and dry erase for the job and to draw stars when we completed a job. Our allowance was dependent on how many job we got done each week. I forget the exact numbers, so I'll make them up, but we had to get, 25 stars to reach the base amount (say $1) and then for each additional 10 stars we got another 50 cents (or whatever). It worked. we'd be checking our progress, calculating what we had to do to earn our desired amount, playing catch up at the end of the week, and budgeting our money after we earned it. But, my kids are too young to do that now.
    They also occasionally paid us to clean up the large yard (dropped sticks or rotten apples fallen from the trees) at a penny per clean up item. That was great. My sister earned $15 cleaning up disgusting apples one year.
    big boy 12.8.07 @ 39+2 7lbs 8oz, 20.5" BFed for 13 months
    middle boy 8.12.09 @ 39+4 7lbs 9oz, 21" BFed for 13.5 months
    little boy 4.26.11 @ 38+4 6lbs 14oz, 19.5" BFed until 26mo and again 30-37mo
    baby boy 10.25.13 @ 41+0 8lbs 15oz, 21.5"
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    Just wanted to say hi! We don't have a lot of chores implemented for our children yet, but we're getting there. Our oldest, who is 6, is good at taking things out of the living room, but they don't always end up where they are supposed to. Our middle one defies chores, so we're really working with her. It looks like you've gotten some great suggestions that I'm going to have to try as well
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    We have 6 boys ages 13 down to 1. My older 3 boys are really good about helping out around the house. They each have a couple assigned chores each day--such as laundry (they wash it and dry it, I fold, they put away), vacuum, dust, water house plants, wipe down bathroom, etc. They each also have an animal feeding chore since we have so many animals (cows, horse, chickens, turkeys, ducks, dog, cats, goats, sheep). They also have a dinner job--set table, clear table, sweep, and garbage. Everyone is expected to rinse and load their own dishes after each meal. We decided to implement a comission for when the boys do their chores, if they don't do them they don't get paid. It is minimal--their age in dollars in divided by 4 to give us a weekly amount--but it is teaching them how to manage money and that if they don't do the work they DON'T get paid. The older three are also required to each mow a section of our acre yard each week. They have opportunities to earn extra money on top of their "commission" if they chose to....cleaning walls, baseboards, weeding the garden, fixing fence, and any other random job we come up with. I need to switch up the chores because I think they are getting bored with the ones that they have and I need to start adding DS #4 (5 yrs) and DS #5 (3.5 yrs) into the mix as well.
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    These are awesome ideas! Thanks so much!
    My 2 older ones are out of town for a few days with their grandparents, so I will have to work on implementing something when they get back. I may have to get a whiteboard to keep track. That makes sense to me!
    Suz

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    Xander 9/25/09

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