How often do you go on a date with your so/spouse?
Before the twins we went more often, but still maybe once a month or so. It was much easier to get a family member to babysit so we could go when it was two kids. And I don't think its even the four kids that is the deterrent (so many large families in my family), its the twins. I have offered babysitting swaps with family members and friends, and no one ever takes me up on it. I think babysitting baby/toddler twins is just too much.
That said, we went on a date tonight, my good friend (mother of 5 kids from 10mo-8.5yrs) watched her five and our four. The babes did fine, and I am so grateful to her and her dh for watching them. Next week we are watching their 5 so they can go out. But we have to drive 45min to their house, so its not super convenient, but I just can't seem to get a sitter otherwise.
There are some teenage girls around here that I know are trustworthy, but I worry about leaving them with two babies, if they both start screaming and crying, I just don't know if a teenager would handle it well. There are even a few sisters, I thought of having two sitters, but then I have to pay two sitters and pay for the date, and well, that sure gets costly. I don't even know the going rate for teenage sitters, but it ain't cheap. lol.
So it just got me thinking about it... how often do other parents of large families get to date??