On Sunday at work, I went to the restroom and had a streak of bright red blood on the tissue. I went into panic mode and went to the ER. After four hours, blood work, and an ultrasound... The baby had no heartbeat. I should have been ten weeks two days along and the baby was measuring seven weeks three days. Needless to say I'm beyond devastated. This was my fifth pregnancy and I've never miscarried before. I followed up with my ob yesterday (which was ironically supposed to be my first ob appt). She did another u/s just to be sure, and confirmed what the ER said. I'm scheduled for a d&c tomorrow morning, which makes me want to scream. This whole situation tears me apart from the inside, the fact that I've been carrying around my baby with no heartbeat for three weeks and that tomorrow I have to have my precious sweet baby vacuumed out of me. At least I got to see his/her sweet tiny face on the u/s screen yesterday. This is so terrible I can't barely think straight. Im sorry if this was a little graphic, but besides DH I really don't have anyone else to talk to about this and my heart is broken.
Last edited by Starryblue702; 01-29-2013 at 10:25 PM.
Oh no! I am so sorry this happened! I know it is going to be scary and difficult for the next few days or weeks. It happened to me in 2010 and so few people could understand the sorrow of losing a baby when you already have a few... Don't listen to them, validate the loss, cry when you feel the tears coming. It is a process and it will get better with each day. Also, do take it easy after the D&C! It is important to rest and heal so please take time to do that. I am sorry that you are going through this, big hugs!
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a m/c in November. I have two children but that m/c was horrible/awful and the worst thing ever. And I agree that the sympathy seems so much less than it should be if you have a child already. *hugs* hang in there!
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I have lost 3 sweet babies, and it is never an easy thing to go through. Two were similar to yours, should have been farther along, but the baby stopped developing some time before. Take it easy, and let yourself heal-physically and emotionally. And I agree--you will find it is far more common than most think, though I didn't feel that made it any easier.
Sorrow is sorrow...no matter how many children you have. It will take time to heal, but you will. Hugs! And yes, people everywhere shared their personal pain when this happened to me. I was very surprised when they opened up to us. Do think about your husband too. Men are not often comforted though they too feel the loss.