(((HUGS))) the first trimester was SO hard, each pregnancy seemed worse for me. No fair with my first I was just tired, no nausea...but each baby after that got a little more intense with the first trimester nonsense!
DD1- July 2004
DD2- April 2006
DS1- December 2009
DS2- August 2011
Asha, I don't know if I would say that Kevin's reaction stung. In all honesty, my initial reaction was similar - "Really? Another one?" It just seemed (and still seems) that after everything we went through after Finn's birth and everything with Michael's health, and our age, and . . . another baby is probably the last thing we need. That is not to say that we won't love this baby just as much as all the others, it's just been so unexpected and not under the best of circumstances. And Kevin is old enough to be thinking about all of that too, so I kind of understand his reaction. Plus I think at his age, his mom being pregnant must be a little embarassing, because it means she and dad HAVE SEX
Im so scared to tell my kids. My neighbor said to me a few days ago, "Are you done yet with having kids?" right in front of my oldest daughter (13)...I just smiled and shrugged...and Madeline said, "say yes Mama....why are you just standing there....say yes you are done!!!" a few days later while talking about the chinese calendar she said 2012 she thought was the year of the Dragon. We realized we dont have one of those yet...and a couple of my kids said, "mama you have to have a baby next year" Madeline said, "no mama you dont! I will die if you have another baby!!" SO...not exactly looking forward to that conversation. You said that Kevin did warm up to it though, right?
Well, he's not all mushy over it! But he's a boy, so . . . he really doesn't talk much about it, but I don't think he's upset about it. He's a really good kid, though, and loves his brothers and sisters very much, and I know he'll love this one just as much.
I do think that on some level, pregnancy is such an abstraction for kids, and that their true feelings won't be revealed until there is an actual baby to love.
I blame where we live on Madeline's point of view. She is a mother hen...she loves her brothers and sisters and she has always loved being part of a big family. She hoped at one point I would have 10 kids. Since we moved here... the kids are snots ...they have everything they want and more...and some of them are pretty open with their parents views and subsequently thier views on large families and what a drag it is. Since then, Madeline's point of view has changed. She now is sad she cant do and have what the others have/do. I wish I could go home...I hate it here. sorry to high jack your post....I guess I needed a vent
((HUGS)) That stinks. Boo for people with their negativity.....
Sorry you are feeling bad, hopefully not for too much longer. I was thinking that when Kevin's reaction was like that it may have a bit to do with "my parents have
SEX?!!!" plus all that you went through with Finn too I guess. Plus as it was said, he is a teenage male, I can't seem to get even my 13 year old to react to any exciting news!!!