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    I put large in quotes, because I don't think three kids qualifies as large, but I knew you ladies would understand.

    My 6 year old has cancer. He has to travel to Boston for 6 weeks for radiation treatment. We are trying to find someplace to stay, besides a hotel (which run from $175-$300 a night nearby since it's right on the expensive part of town, Beacon Hill.)

    We have secured housing starting September 9th, but his treatment starts on August 25th. So that's 16 days we have to "fill in" for.

    So I called the Ronald McDonald House in Boston. They won't take us because 4 is their maximum number allowed in one room (City regulations). The woman and Ronald McDonald asked if we had to bring all 5 people. I told her that I couldn't very well leave my 1 year old at home....

    What do people with actually large families do? I have a good mind to write to the city of Boston for an exception to this rule for medical housing facilities.

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    Sometimes I lurk here, because I too have a "large" family (I come from a large fam of 7 and I have almost 3, where I live one kid is big, two kids is enormous and 3 kids is unheard of!)

    I think when they have more than that, they give 2 rooms or the extra family members stay in a hotel.

    Maybe you can call back and not claim the baby, then just show up and be like oh I didn't realize someone so young counted. Or ask if they can suggest somewhere else to stay?

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    Most hotels have an occupancy limit of 4 or 5. It's a fire code thing based on the size of the rooms from what I understand. We've gone to hotels where "kids stay free" and just don't tell them how many are staying unless they ask (which they don't). I agree with asking if you can get two rooms or just don't count the baby. Or you can ask to speak with a manager and explain your situation and see what they say. I've had hotel managers make an exception for us before. I wish I knew someone in Boston who could set you up with housing. You have enough to deal with without having to stress about where you are going to sleep.

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    Hi Janel, I just read that on his caring Bridge and was appalled. I wondered why would they make such rules for Ronald McDonald house, when you are already dealing with so much regarding cancer- you don't need extra worry with housing and separating your family. Can we also email the city on your behalf? Could you post a link? It's not like every family is a family of four!!! It IS discrimination!!

    What I usually do is, I lie. With our family size we always get a suite or rent a cottage, but those also have limit on occupants ( usually -six to eight))
    During the check in, I usually go by myself while the kids and DH wait in the car. Then we don't all walk in together. Otherwise it would be astronomical to go anywhere.
    And I never claim a baby. Maybe call them back, try to get a different person and don't mention John Michael?
    Ugh, I am so sorry that now you also have to worry about this. Anything we can do to help?

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    I'm sorry you are having to deal with this too right now Janel! I agree, if there is anywhere we can all write, just let us know!
    I usually don't mention 'babies', I know we had a similar issue this spring when we went to stay at a water park 'resort' hotel and the limit for the room we wanted was 4. I just said 4 people and that I'd need a crib they didn't say anything to us the whole time. He was under the age they wanted them to have a wrist band for the water park so we just never brought it up.
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    Crazy, because many people have more than 2 children, there should be a policy in place at the Ronald McDonald House for this. Hugs, I'm sorry you have extra stessors during an already stressful time.
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    Wow--sorry you have to deal with housing frustrations on top of it all! And I must not be around much--I didn't know your son has cancer-I'm so sorry to hear about it and I hope the treatments are successful!
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    Im so sorry you are going through such a hard time. Your family is in my t&p. I have had to use the Ronald McDonald house in the past when my second son had a cord accident at birth and was very sick in the NICU. It is such a wonderful organization, I really think that if they could do something to accomodate you they would. They help out so many families who have sick kids, and while I understand the difficult situation you are in, I am betting that if they bent rules and broke fire code they could be shut down if found out. I hope that if you ask and if they are not full, that they will let you get 2 rooms. Good luck with all of the treatment, and you will remain in my prayers!! Amy
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    That stinks Hopefully they will work with you! As for us, we either look for suites or some type of cabin situation that can hold lots of people. I'd love to get a camper and solve all those problems
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    Quote Originally Posted by ashamom27 View Post
    Hi Janel, I just read that on his caring Bridge and was appalled. I wondered why would they make such rules for Ronald McDonald house, when you are already dealing with so much regarding cancer- you don't need extra worry with housing and separating your family. Can we also email the city on your behalf? Could you post a link? It's not like every family is a family of four!!! It IS discrimination!!

    What I usually do is, I lie. With our family size we always get a suite or rent a cottage, but those also have limit on occupants ( usually -six to eight))
    During the check in, I usually go by myself while the kids and DH wait in the car. Then we don't all walk in together. Otherwise it would be astronomical to go anywhere.
    And I never claim a baby. Maybe call them back, try to get a different person and don't mention John Michael?
    Ugh, I am so sorry that now you also have to worry about this. Anything we can do to help?
    I do this as well......thing is I am a single parent and if I go ANYWHERE alone with the 5 kiddos (am expecting #6) I can't very well put the kids in a room alone so I reserve one room and then leave the 3 oldest in the car while I check in. I usually just ask for a room away from the office that way they don;t see how many go in to the room...
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