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    Do you tell your friends and family straight away or do you leave telling them for a bit?
    Im so unsure when to annouce we are having another baby (when we actually ttc) I am tempted to keep it quiet for at least 12 weeks so they cant spoil the early weeks for me.
    Thing is no matter when I annouce it they will be disapointed in me anyway my family are not fans of large families.
    We have 6 so will be TTC# 7

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    I normally tell everyone straight away. Next time though I'll probably keep it quiet for as long as possible. My family (outside my home) are all falling apart anyway so I doubt I'll have much to do with them soon so it'll be easier to hide it.

    I don't want anything to spoil my enjoyment if I have another baby... And that includes family and friends.

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    We usually tell close family and friends right away but as we keep having them i notice that people dont really get excited like they do when its your 1st 2nd or etc etc so i think this next time we may wait a while. I know my mom is going to freak out on me. I have already told a few close friends that we are going to go for the next one this summer and i havent heard anything too bad yet.




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    With each pregnancy it's been different for me. With my first (I was with my first husband) we were so excited because we had been trying for about six months, we told EVERYONE the day we found out! With my second I was terrified because I had been messing around with boss (now my current DH) and I knew that it wasn't my husband's baby (due to timing and bc used). I told both of them of course and no one else but my mother for a few weeks. With my third (much more time gone by, a divorce, a new marriage, and TONS of growing up) we told everyone right away, especially since we were hoping for a girl this time around. With my fourth I only told my mom (dad didn't find out until weeks later) and my boss, because I knew with baby #4 for me, #5 for DH, and #6 for us total (confusing math problem, I know lol!) that the whispers would fly and the crappy looks were to come for how many children we had. I finally announced to the (FB) world in my second trimester. If I were to get pregnant again (which is highly doubtful, as this last baby was a "whoops!" and DH would kill me lol) I don't think I would tell anyone... at all lol. We only have a few close friends anyway and they would find out by me showing. I just wouldn't want to deal with all of the snide comments. I love having a large family, and anyone who has a problem with it can not be our friends anymore.
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    We told everyone right away with baby #1 because it was the first grandbaby on both sides, but we have waiting until at least 12 weeks with all the others. Currently only one of DH's brothers and his wife know that we are expecting again. Our kids don't even know yet, although I am sure my oldest suspects it. I am hoping to wait until April Fools (17 weeks along) to tell everyone (kids included), but I am defintely popping sooner this time and we are supposed to go swimming with my family this coming weekend.
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    I'm no good at secrets so I've always told right away. With my last two I wanted to keep it a secret longer but figured I might as well just tell everyone and 'get it over with' if I thought I could keep it a secret until the big ultrasound I'd do that but like I said, awful with secrets
    In the extremely unlikely case of us having another baby I'm not sure what I'd do. Probably try not to tell for as long as possible and end up caving to my excitement
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    There's no right or wrong way to do it. Some people prefer to wait, and some people prefer to tell right away. As for me, personally, I've always been an open book, so I've always spilled the news right away. If someone's going to give you grief about it, they're likely going to give you grief no matter when you tell them.
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    Some people I tell (close friends and supportive family), others will figure it out at some point. :P I don't have facebook or twitter or any of that so it still trickles out slowly to people because I refuse at this point to call and tell EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. You can tell who I haven't seen in awhile though, by how they eye the belly.
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    I usually have to tell pretty early because I get horrible m/s and there's no hiding that. So, we've told family around 5 weeks every time. I try to wait longer to make it general knowledge, but anyone I see with any regularity finds out before 12 weeks. Last time DS1 told me there was a baby in my tummy before my 10dpo BFP... so I'm sure if I'll be able to hide it from anyone if he picks up on it that quickly again next time.
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    We've told people everywhere from 6 weeks to 13 weeks.....just depended on all sort of things.
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