I totally understand! I had two losses after my 2nd DS. When my u/s showed a healthy baby boy I was thrilled! I was just so happy to be pregnant and I really didn't care about the sex. I told someone at work and she got a sad look on her face, hugged me and said "I'm sorry". I was in shock. Why would she be sorry I was having a healthy baby? We didn't find out the sex of DS4 but all I heard during my pregnancy was "oh, maybe you'll get your girl this time!" . It was irritating. When we found out #5 was another boy, we got even more rude comments. A friend of mine said "Well, I guess I have to take back the girl outfit I got. I had high hopes." Like I failed or something. My sweet baby boy was not a mistake! He was a blessing! Now we hear all the time "Are you going to try for a girl?". I just say, "We'd like one more baby." Would I like to have a girl? I'm not going to lie, I'd love to have a girl. But are we having another baby just to try for one? No. I adore my boys and feel incredibly blessed to have them. If God blesses us with a girl, that's great. If we have another boy, that's great too. I just wish people would think before they speak.
Last edited by belindab; 09-20-2011 at 06:33 PM.
Connor, Landon, Liam, Noah, Keaton, Amaris and 9/04 12/04 11/11 1/12
People should definitely learn to keep their comments to themselves. I feel kind of the opposite of you though, as I wanted girls every time I got pregnant, and thankfully after two boys I got my girl... just to get pregnant again (a whoops!) and it's another boy! It took me a while to get over the sadness. People are just different I guess... but should definitely learn when to keep their traps shut about others personal family choices.
Krystal & Donovan - 12/2/06
Reagan - 10/2/02
Maximus - 3/10/05
Liberty - 12/11/08
My angel in Heaven 1/7/13
I don't know why people just can't keep the negative thoughts to themselves. I do think it'd be similar with 3 girls and a boy though. When I was pregnant this last time before we found out the sex I got all sorts of comments about 'poor Josiah, he'll be surrounded by girls!' and comments about my 'poor dh' and we didn't even *know* the gender yet. I can't imagine if we actually found out it was another girl. I had no real preference, we had a girl name and girl clothes sure are cute but at the same time I thought it'd be nice for ds to get a brother and we're also in a 3 bedroom so it worked out nice that way but I wouldn't have been upset with another girl either.
I do love my little boys, I always wanted all girls before I had kids but there's just something about my little boys that just melts my heart
DD1- July 2004
DD2- April 2006
DS1- December 2009
DS2- August 2011
I too get it. I have a DD - the oldest then a DS and 2 DSS's so when we had our last together and we found out it was a boy my own mother said, "oh, well, I guess that's not much to celebrate then. I mean we have a ton of boys". I have 1 neice and 3 nephews - hence the "ton of boys" comment. I know she didn't mean it the way it came out but still - ugh.
That didn't help my feelings either. I too wanted a girl. I was bummed when the u/s showed boy (actually I think I cried a little). It's not that I didn't want a boy I just wanted a girl. Like Krystal it took me some time to get over it.
Whatever. Mason is awesome and I wouldn't change him for anything.
I would, if I could, try for a girl One more would be great (actually one more of either would be great). But alas, we are done.
Enjoy all your children, boy or girl they are all beautiful.
Christina + Rory = a grand total of:
Amelia, Anthony, Andon, Noah, Mason, & Trinity-woof