If anyone asks us if we are done, I usually just say "Maybe" or "Probably". Honestly, this time, we have really not had many negative reactions (to our faces anyway!). I think most people have just accepted that we are going to have a big family and are kind of over the shock of it each time!
Wife to Jason
Brodie(9)~Deacon(8 )~Truman(8 )~Sawyer(5)~Elliot(3)~Finn 3/9/12
How am I so lucky to avoid these rude people? Seriously, no one he's ever asked "are you done?".
They probably know I'd knock them out. And maybe I just give strangers the 'right' attitude that tells them to keep their nose out of my reproduction.
Love the responses so far, though! If someone dared asked me, especially on an off day, I'm sure my response would not be rated for all audiences.
Christina, are you expecting your 4th? Really...you are still in the "socially accepted" number of children. I would bet that after this one you might start getting the question. If you have #5...I will almost GUARANTEE you will get the question! Seriously..there seems to be a socially acceptable cut off...once you pass it...all filters come off and people speak freely....so weird!!!!
No, I'm expecting #5 on January 3.
we have the added doozy of having a VERY large age gap: a 20 yr old, (almost) 18 year old twins, and an (almost) 2 year old.
But you'll notice a lot of the responses you received are from moms of 4 and even before they had 4 (or more) so perhaps it's not the socially acceptable aspect as much as the people and what they say to me.
I will say, I have never had a stranger touch my belly, I've never even been asked by a stranger how far along I am or when I'm due. Likewise, taking my NB's out, people don't stop me or try to touch my babies. I think I just have a way about me that lets people know.
I've gotten comments with EVERY one of my kids! With my first everyone thought we were too young, with my second everyone thought it was 'too soon', with my third people assumed we were done at 2 and with the 4th I had just told everyone we were done, DS1 was still young and everyone thought once we 'got our boy' we'd be done.
Even now, when I'm out with the boys during the day while my girls are at school I get people telling me I have my hands full. I kind of laugh under my breath that 2 is nothing The comments really don't bother me though, I love my family and I wouldn't have it any other way. I always think about how they are missing out and they just don't understand. I've always been pretty good at not caring what 'everyone' thinks though.
DD1- July 2004
DD2- April 2006
DS1- December 2009
DS2- August 2011
Don't you love it when people say "Oh, you sure have your hands full!" When you only have a few of your kids with you. I always am sure to tell them-- "oh this is nothing, we left two at home", or "three is a cakewalk, their baby sister at home sleeping."
when i get the "you've got your hands full" i tell them it's how i stay so thin. nothing beats playing with kids all day to burn excess calories. the only people that actually congratulate us are elderly couples and pro life activists. saying how proud they are, we are doing what god put us on this world to do. PROCREATE... i mean, it is the meaning of life.
I actually have gotten pleasant comments as well. I had a man slam on his breaks when I was walking out of a pizza shop with 7 of the kids...he said to me, "are they all yours?" I said yes...plus one more...he said, "amazing...god bless you!! I think it is wonderful!!" I do have these on occasion too...isnt it funny...if only I could walk around feeling wonderful about the people who make the great comments as much as I walk around feeling the sting of people's mean comments. You know...that is what I have to do. I just have to focus on the good comments...try to remember each and every one of those...and forget the bad instead of vice versa You all get the good too, dont you?