So, a few weeks ago, Colin said that he decided to go over to Vancouver Island to race/derby, so I booked a campsite nearby for the long weekend.
I e-mailed Sierra's father, said "I understand that the Sat. is your b-day, but I was hoping that you might be able to take her on the Thursday instead so that she could come camping with us for the weekend."
He said no. "It's my b-day, and I want her to be there."
It broke her heart. She was so upset that she couldn't come with us. Then I got a phone call on Sat. night, it was Sierra, and she was mad. J had left her to go to football practice(he coaches I think). I asked her what she did, and she said she stayed home with the girlfriend and helped take care of the baby. For a couple of hours.
So he won't let her come with us because he wants to spend his b-day with her, and then ditches her for football.
Am I totally out of line to think that a 38 year old man could have his b-day dinner a couple days early so his daughter can go away for the weekend? How do you all handle b-days? Are you sticklers for celebrating the day of? Or are you more loosey-goosey?
At our house, we don't worry about stuff like that. Cooper had his 1st b-day 3 weeks early, and his 2nd 1 month late. Colin has missed my last 2 b-days as well. Even Sierra had her party 2 weeks late one year. We just say oh well, we'll celebrate when we celebrate.
Then I get an e-mail from him today asking if we can switch days this weekend, because even though he didn't mention it, he has practice again, that's what Sierra said. Colin is derbying nearby on Sunday, so I think I'm going to tell him no. J was already tuned in about football practice last season, because he left Sierra IN THE TRUCK a couple times while he was busy. Sierra's counsellor told him that wasn't a good idea, and I told him that he needed to decide which was more important, Sierra or football, and that he needed to approach me about switching days if he wanted to do both. Not after he commits, but beforehand.
He makes comments about how he wants to spend more time with her, but then dumps her to go to football. And when I switched days a few weeks ago so Sierra could go to a b-day party on the Sat. he whined about why can't he take her? Well, do you want to spend time with her or not? I'm offering you to take her on Sunday and have a full day with her, instead of Sat. when you'd have her for like 3 hrs. then have to take her to the party and she'd come home to me afterwards. WTH???