Positive Habits

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wishing4agirl's picture
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Positive Habits

When I brush Faith's hair I sing or say the ABC's or count with her. And because of that she is learned to say her ABC's and count. What type of positive things do you ladies do with your kids?

Kittydakat's picture
Joined: 11/19/08
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I would say one of the biggest for me is working on j's politeness. He always says 'please' 'thank you' 'bless you' 'its alright' 'no problem' and asks 'whats the matter'. Being polite is really important to me and I'm glad it is rubbing off. Other things ummmm I'm sure there are others but thats all I can think of right now.
BTW I like your positive and may try and employ it Smile
Actually re-reading that it doesnt really tie in with your question but it is a big positive for me.

wishing4agirl's picture
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Oh I totally take that as a positive. Now if you can come teach my 18 year old some of those. Like "are you okay" that would be great. He can be the nicest kid, but at the same time he is so rude sometimes.

ETA: I meant to add do you have any tricks to getting him to say those things or are you just modeling behavior for him. Because if it's solely modeling behavior I'm in serious trouble. I just don't have the mental capacity to model behavior right now.

Joined: 08/29/08
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We always read before bedtime. There's not a whole lot of, um, academic excellence in our town. Blum 3 It's important for us to introduce a love of books, and of learning and discovery in general, to him.

ChristaM's picture
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We sing ABCs while we brush teeth and count to 10 while Kendall uses her mouth rinse. Quentin now just joins in the fun! We also read bedtime stories -- each child picks one or two books and they both sit while the other persons book(s) are being read. We are sure to rotate the books on the shelves so they don't always pick the same ones!

Other good habits -- we instill the use of "please" and "thank-you". If either kid asks for a drink, toy, something to eat, etc. We always say not unless you use your manners. Waitresses get a kick out of it when we eat out and my "baby" is saying thank-you when they bring the food / drinks!

We also instill asking before playing / touching -- I have to give credit to daycare for this one -- she has the kids ask to play before they are allowed to take something out. I used to think it was sorta crazy that they had to ask to play with toys intended for their use, but it has been helpful when we are at other people's houses! Quentin will still ask me before taking out his own toys at home!

Kittydakat's picture
Joined: 11/19/08
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He has learnt those by watching mostly, I often remind him too but he has picked it up really well. He has always been a little copy cat, he was trying to say 'bless you' before 'thank you'. I love how concerned he is about other people, the other day I was having my pap smear done and he said 'mummy whats the matter' he did the same thing when I was crying the other day. He can be a very considerate and caring little boy. He gets the same attention for saying please and thank you. It's so nice when other people notice.

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Joined: 09/18/08
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I don't have a specific system but we always take advantage of our surroundings to teach. When I cook I make Kaelan count stuff out with me. Yesterday we went to the DMV and there were giant letters that spelt out LICENSE CENTER at eye level so he pointed out the letters that he knew and I filled the rest in for him.

As far as what Cat mentioned, I make sure Kaelan understands what his tone of voice is saying. He loves the word "move" and "stop". It was fine when he was 18 months old and first using those words appropriately but now if I let him go unchecked it is a rather obnoxious and rude way to ask for what he wants. Now I don't let him have anything he wants until he says it nicely (in words and tone) and adds please.

We read a lot of books on a daily basis. Like 10+ short books. Research pretty consistently shows that early reading has a very direct correlation with vocabulary and ability to read once they hit kidergarten age so it is a big priority of mine. That and very limited TV.