baby blues?

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waitingimpatiently614's picture
Joined: 02/17/09
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baby blues?

just wanted to check in a see how we're all adjusting to our new little ones...

i've been having a rough time for the past few days, but i am hopeful that it will pass and my emotions will stabilize pretty soon. after DS1 was born, i felt a definite "crash" when he was about 5 days old. i was on a high from giving birth until then, and then suddenly i was crying all the time, and the sleep deprivation was starting to affect me big-time. i just felt like i couldn't cope with life. spilling a drink or stubbing my toe was enough to make me sob for an hour. from what i remember, it lasted about 5-6 weeks, and then once DS started smiling at us and sleeping more at night, i started to feel so much better. i was prepared to feel like that again this time, but for over 2 weeks after her birth, i continued to feel energetic and really great! so i thought i was going to be spared this time. but now those feelings are back again. i just feel stressed, impatient and irritable, exhausted, and i cry very easily. and it's hard for me to carry on social conversations because i just feel like i'm in a little bit of a fog. DH commented last night that i seemed "worn out" and asked how he could help, and that's when i realized "oh yeah, this is how i get with a newborn..." i don't want to be too much of a downer, because overall, i am happy and thankful and have a great support system. it just feels like a combination of wacky hormones and sleep deprivation that's affecting me. i expect it to improve soon, but will talk to my MW about it at my 6 week appointment if it's still a problem.

anyone else feeling overly emotional or just sluggish?

lmh101979's picture
Joined: 07/05/09
Posts: 966

I definitely had the baby blues with dd2, but I'm still feeling ok this time around. It was right at the 6 week mark that I noticed that I was evening out in my emotions after my second baby, but it really was a hard road for a while. I don't remember anything that really helped too much other then time and getting used to the new life. Since I am almost 4 weeks out from my c, I'm hoping to get back to my physical exercise and hopefully that will kick start my physical feeling better. Just feeling fat and flabby. The idea of playing some tennis and going to the gym sounds awesome right now, especially since I will get a break from the kids as well! Smile Bonus! I think your smart to recognize that your not yourself and keeping tabs on it now can prevent it from going any further. I hope your feeling better soon and remember that we are all here if you need to talk it out.

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Joined: 12/30/06
Posts: 496

I deal with depression anyway even when I have not just had a baby! It was the worst after my daughter, but I can feel those thoughts and feelings creeping in now as well. I try to stay active, get out of the house on my own when I can, and eat right. I have been on meds before and would not hesitate to do it again if I felt it was getting to that point. Big hugs!

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Joined: 04/12/05
Posts: 414

First off, Lindsay and Heidi your siggy pics are ADORABLE!!!! I was just thinking of this topic the other day. I would like to think that I don't get PPD, but honestly I think I do! Not only is it the adjustment of having a new baby (which rocks your world and daily routines) but I also deal with my body healing from the PP Pre-eclamsia which really takes a toll on me physically. So....to answer your question, some days are better than others! Smile Hang in there ladies.

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Joined: 07/28/11
Posts: 334

I deal with depression on a regular basis as well, and I'm definitely feeling the baby blues. My doctor wanted to put me on Zoloft immediately but I opted out. I wish I had but until I know that I'm done with BF, it's not worth the risk. Thankfully, my husband is around most of the time and he helps a lot, but sometimes he also adds to it. :rolleyes:

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Joined: 09/11/11
Posts: 126

Amanda,

I have been so emotional lately. DH is usually off in the winter (last year he didn't start working steady until June) so I was counting on having his help. We only went about a week before his work started up after the baby was born, and I am getting so worn out dealing with the baby 24 hours a day. He thought his mom would be able to help out as well, and she hasn't made any offers to help at all. I feel bad leaning on him at all as well, because he is working 10+ hour days. With healing after the c section, and sleep deprivation, and other stressers in my life, it is overwhelming. I tell myself to just take it one day at a time, though, because when I start thinking about the weeks and months ahead it makes my head spin.

It must be that much harder to have another little guy that you have to take care of as well. How is the big brother adjusting?

waitingimpatiently614's picture
Joined: 02/17/09
Posts: 386

"StarGazer78" wrote:

I feel bad leaning on him at all as well, because he is working 10+ hour days. With healing after the c section, and sleep deprivation, and other stressers in my life, it is overwhelming. I tell myself to just take it one day at a time, though, because when I start thinking about the weeks and months ahead it makes my head spin.

It must be that much harder to have another little guy that you have to take care of as well. How is the big brother adjusting?

i know what you mean because my DH works long hours, too, so i definitely don't feel like i can ask for his help at night. But don't hesitate to let him help in any way he can in the evenings. It's so important for us to get a little break and rest whenever possible.

DS1 is doing surprisingly well with the transition to being a big brother! he loves to give DD kisses, talk to her, and help me burp her by patting her on the back. he doesn't understand waiting or being patient, so he does sometimes get upset when i can't meet his requests right away due to feeding the baby, etc. and i do get overwhelmed and want to cry when they are both crying and needing me and i don't know what to do. DS is used to getting what he wants right away and being my only priority, so that has been hard for both of us, because i don't want him to feel neglected. i also don't want him to resent his baby sister when i am constantly telling him "not right now, i have to feed/change/hold baby sister." but i keep telling myself this experience will ultimately be good for him because he is learning that he is not the center of the universe. Smile and i am learning to multi-task big time!

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Joined: 06/17/10
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My son is 9 months old...
Yes, I TOTALLY felt like that. It also started about 5-10 days after I gave birth. I was so sleep deprived, and so so so emotional. It didnt help that DH was working from about 8am-8pm. I was home alone ALL day with my son at 2-4 weeks after he was born. I would literally just get upset for NO reason, and BAWL my eyes out. Or I would get so sad tha DH wasnt there, and he couldnt help me at night because he needed his sleep to work. But mine only lasted about 2 weeks. Then after that I was completely fine (besides the continued sleep deprevation) but I seemed to handle it better without the emotional crash. I really hope you feel better ASAP, because its such a horrible feeling. But make sure you talk to your dr about it if it gets worse, or if you have feelings of hurting yourself/baby.

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