My brother called me today to let me know that his his ex is pregnant. They broke up last week. And she decided to go to the hospital today to see. He has already moved to another province. They had an extremely toxic relationship. She already has a child from another man, and is a rather neglecting and selfish mother. She is also VERY young and immature. (not that that matters, I have met quite a few young mothers who are amazing with their kids..thing is, she's not). She comes from a family who has little morals, values or personal hygiene.
The last time they broke up, she said she was pregnant, and then miscarried as soon as he saw her again. (This was in early june). (She also went off her pill a few months earlier and didn't have a period once after she quite - apparently). She told him that she is 2 and a half months pregnant. She sent him an ultra sound picture (he sent it to me and there is no name or date on it, and here you have to pay to get your ultra sound pic - she can barely afford her smokes each month (but she gets those before buying food for her kid). Looking a the ultra sound picture, it looks further along than she says.
I don't know what to say about it. I asked him how far along she was. Here, Dr's don't tell you that your 2 and half months, they tell you by weeks and days, She also told him that she didn't go to the Dr sooner, because she is so busy with work (except she didn't get a job until 2 weeks ago until then, since may she has been living off her dad). Her Dad has announced it on FB "Going to be a grand dad to # 2, confused and a little sad" This is the same man who tried to commit suicide because he thought his GF was going to cheat on him with (get this) my brother. So his daughters BF. If my brother didn't find him in time and get an ambulance to him, he would be dead.
Don't get me wrong, If this baby was being born to a caring, loving woman who took care of the child she currently has, I would be ecstatic, but she isn't. It breaks my heart. (I have a hard time with parents who don't provide the basic care for their kids).
It just feels like she is either lying OR she got pregnant to keep him. Which I don't know why she wants to. SHe is ALWAYS accusing him of cheating, She makes up silly rules like "neither of us can go to the neighbors unless we are together" then she goes over when he was at work.
I know I shouldn't stress about this, and he is a big boy, he has to figure it out. But I just needed to get it out. Thanks for letting me vent.