poor DH is still not getting any (tmi warning)

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waitingimpatiently614's picture
Joined: 02/17/09
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poor DH is still not getting any (tmi warning)

not really, anyway. i try to muster up the enthusiasm every couple weeks or so to DTD so he's not totally deprived, but i really have absolutely zero interest. it doesn't help that my belly and butt are huge and now my nipples have already started leaking colostrum! i am SO not sexy these days. and if it's anything like last time, i will continue to be repulsed by physical affection throughout the year (or more) of breastfeeding. i was immediately into it again big time once i weaned DS, so i know it will get better eventually, but that's still a long time to have no libido! i was thinking of asking my MW if there's anything safe to take while preggo/breastfeeding, like an herb or something? anyone else not "feeling it" and anything that's helped you? i just don't know if DH and i can get through another year and a half of me not wanting him to touch me.

KET_2010's picture
Joined: 08/13/11
Posts: 1737

Since getting pregnant with this one, my sex drive has gone down. WAAAAAY down. DH hates it ha ha. I just haven't been wanting it. We still DTD about 2-3 times a week but we use to DTD every day a few times a day.

The one thing I have started doing, to please DH, is when he really wants it I give in, even if I don't want it and am tired. For example last night I just wanted to sleep and he really wanted it (I think part of it is because work is really stressing him out) so finally I gave in (after him bothering me for about 30 minutes to an hour) and at first I was cranky and (tmi!!!!) I was really dry.

Now all but two positions hurt or cause me to not be able to breath lol so I had to be on top. Eventually we started and all I could think of was "Hurry up, I want to sleep" lol. But as it went on I started to get into it and enjoyed myself.

I don't feel sexy at all. I feel fat and gross and my nipples have been leaking just a little so there's white crust on them which makes me feel even more unattractive. I'm hoping once I have the baby I won't feel as gross but you never know.

Also, last time I breast fed some and the first few times we DTD after DD2 was born I would leak milk all over DH and I would just start crying. Ha what a mood ruiner! He assured me it was okay but I couldn't do it. Eventually I got past that part and our sex life went back to being great, but DH had to be patient.

Hope you find something that works for you and DH!

Sassy112704's picture
Joined: 04/12/05
Posts: 414

We dtd as much as we always have. I am with ya, not always in the mood but I know it's important for our marriage. Even if I am not in the mood, once we get going that goes out the window and I am a crazy woman! lol I guess it's a good thing I don't get a milk supply, no leaking here.

socalmama's picture
Joined: 07/28/11
Posts: 334

Girl, my poor DH is in the same boat. The last time we DTD it was not comfortable at all. And it makes it worse that he just had shoulder surgery 3 weeks ago so our positions are very limited. And, I just don't want it at all. I hate that, but it's true. Sad

StarGazer78's picture
Joined: 09/11/11
Posts: 126

My DH is the opposite--HE's the one that doesn't want to DTD! He's so weirded out by "poking the baby in the head" thought! I'm like, "get over it already" but then when we found out it was a girl he's even more opposed to the idea!

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Joined: 12/30/06
Posts: 496

My drive is always though the roof when I'm pregnant!!! Sometime my hubs is like, "Lady, you're scaring me!" Lol Smile I don't know what it is about being pregnant!

Jbaum2's picture
Joined: 04/19/11
Posts: 257

"StarGazer78" wrote:

My DH is the opposite--HE's the one that doesn't want to DTD! He's so weirded out by "poking the baby in the head" thought! I'm like, "get over it already" but then when we found out it was a girl he's even more opposed to the idea!

HE He - Same with my DH. I think it's kinda sweet. I just tell him he won't...Now give it to me. I have twice a week drive right now, but the only position I am comfortable in is on my back. Me on top and my hip bothers me (My sciatic is acting up).

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