Who else HATES Cancer??? OT

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Who else HATES Cancer??? OT

So my sweet MIL has battled cancer off and on for years. Started with breast cancer 22 years ago. Then she got it back in her bones 10 years ago. Well within the last year or so she has started to decline. Her quality of life has really gone down the tubes within the last month. (Mind you she has been on chemo for 5+ years now - my dd never knew grandma WITH hair!) Anyway....as we speak, dh and a few of his siblings are over at the IL's house giving her their support and talking with their dad. MIL pretty much decided to stop all her treatments.....she is tired. We all support her. FIL is having a hard time. Me? I am sad.....and PISSED that my kids will never remember/know their grandma! I HATE CANCER!!!!!!!! Thanks for letting me vent. Sad

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:bigarmhug: I'm sorry to hear about your MIL. But that is a great accomplishment, to fight cancer for that long and to still be alive. I can see why she's tired of treatment and just wants to rest now.

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I am so sorry that you are going through this. My MIL is one of my best friends and I can't imagine my girls not having their Grammy. I totally understand her being tired and wanting to choose a different path. I hope your FIL can get some understanding and realize that quality can be even better than quantity. >>>

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I saw your subject line Who hates cancer? I do. I'm sorry to hear about your MIL. Every family is touched some way or another by cancer. I have to say your post gives me hope for my family's situation.

My brother in law is only 29 (like me, he is two days younger than me). He has been battling Thyroid Cancer for the past 2 years. Last week he called to say the doctors gave him 6 months at most because the cancer spread from his lymph nods into his bones...I know doctors can be wrong with these estimates, I hate that they even give them, but I can't imagine being in his shoes. If your MIL can get 10 years I hope my BIL can...The doctors say they won't treat him because the cancer is too advanced....

The worse part is he has no family near him.

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Abby - that makes me SO sick about your BIL. It seriously is so unfair that young people get cancer. I found out the other day of a girl I went to high school with (a year older than me) has stage 3 breast cancer. She is married with 4 kids, the youngest is 6 months old!!!! Odds are, she won't beat it. We are SO lucky we have had these years with my MIL. That she has seen 3 of her children marry, and enjoyed and loved 6 beautiful grandkids (even though mine are the youngest and didn't get as much time with her). It still sucks though! My prayers are with your BIL - and everyone else who is battling this demon one way or the other.

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I hear you. My mom passed away earlier this month of breast cancer. She had it 11 years ago, and 4 years ago it came back everywhere. It's been a long road since then and I miss her more than I can bear, but I'm comforted to know she's at peace.

Cancer just sucks, doesn't it? It doesn't care who you are, who your family is, nothing. My children will never know their Oma and she'll never know them, either. It's such a lonely feeling.

My thoughts are with everyone on this thread. (((((hugs)))))

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ME!! I lost my father to cancer when I was 23. My husband and kids never had the chance to know him and my daughter often talks about wishing she could have. Sad

I'm so sorry about your MIL. Breaks my heart.

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i'm definitely in the hating-cancer club.

my sister and best friend was diagnosed with a rare and aggressive form of sarcoma nine months ago. she is 34 with 3 children (6,4, and 2). she has just completed several months of chemo, six weeks of radiation, and surgery. i actually found out about this pregnancy the day before her surgery. we will find out next month if the treatment has made her cancer-free. but, even so, the doctors have warned us this type of cancer always comes back at some point. it has been such a hard year for our family, watching her lose her hair, lose 20 pounds, and be so sick. i will be so angry when/if the cancer returns. the amazing thing is that she has been the strong one through it all, while the rest of us are falling apart. shortly after the diagnosis, she called me just to talk, and said "pretend i'm not the one with cancer and tell me how you're feeling about having a sister with cancer...i want to support you." that's just an example of the kind of person she is. i need her in my life!

i'm so sorry to hear about your family members who are battling such serious recurrences. and my heart goes out to those of you who have lost a loved one to cancer. HUGS to you all!!

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I worked for over 10 years researching various chemotherapeutic therapies. One of my job requirements was to have sessions with people who had/have cancer. Those sessions always broke my heart because I realized cancer can affect anybody from a newborn to a 100 year old. I have witnessed first hand how hard the disease can be and how devastating it can be for a family. I am so sorry you and your family are going through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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Cancer SUCKS! My heart goes out to all of you that have loved ones affected by this awful disease.

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I can share this as the grandchild's point of view. My maternal grandmother died from breast cancer when she was 47, my mom was 14. I, of course, never met her. But I absolutely love hearing my mom, aunt and uncle telling us stories about her. My uncle especially, has wonderful stories about her. So I feel like I know her. I get to hear about all the good times she had in her life and remember her for that. When my mom had all of us (Me and my 3 sisters) she took each and every one of us when we were born to her grave sight to "show" her her grandaughters. I have very good "memories" of her. When I think of her, I think of her, not her cancer. I hope that makes you feel better about your kids. You get to share all the wonderful stories about her with them!

Your MIL sounds like SUCH a STRONG woman and I am so sorry she isn't doing so well.

So sorry you are going through this!! Cancer does suck! Having done an internship and student hours in pediatric oncology I have seen the affects on families. We all need to kick cancer's a**!

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I'm so sorry your MIL is not doing well. It's a really rough thing to go through.
My mom was just diagnosed a couple months ago and is currently undergoing treatment. We are so close and I've never been so scared in my life. She's like a second mother to my kids and they would be devestated without her.


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Thanks for sharing everyone!!! Glad to know we are not alone in this! ((HUGS))

Erin Elizabeth - THANKS for sharing that! Gives a good perspective. Smile

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I HATE CANCERR!!! My friends aunt whom i lovvveeeeee is in the final stages ! Ive known my friends for 11 years and during that whole time ive known them , their aunt has had cancer . its so sad that she is in final stage and its literally any day now that she may pass away .. It makes me soo sad Sad

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Jenn, I am so sorry about your MIL. That is so sad. My IL's are older (FIL is 75) and I just keep praying that they will live long enough so that my children will be able to remember them personally. Fortunately, at this point none have cancer. I do have a grandmother who died of lung cancer in early morning hours after Christmas in 2003.

A positive story (at least so far) my DH's best friend was diagnosed at age 26 with an extremely rare and very aggresive sarcoma (he had a baseball size tumor in his thigh). He was very aggresively treated and has now been cancer free for almost 10 years. He goes every 6 months for a checkup, but he's completely back to his old self. It will be a very sad day if it ever comes back because he's had his lifetime max of chemo.

:grouphug: Jenn, KUP on how your MIL is doing. We are here for you (and so is October :D) And vent all you like! You have every right to be p!ssed about the situation and at the cancer!

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Im sorry to hear about your MIL.. I also hate cancer.. DH has alot of cancer in his family . MIL had breast cancer in her early 40's , BIL had a brain tumor at 27 unfortuantely lost the battle at 32 and FIL had prostate cancer last year.. Its the worst thing in the world and it makes me so sad when someone fights so hard and just cant beat it.. much hugs to u and your family

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My dear sweet nephew passed away Jan 1st this last year after fighting stage 4 neuroblastoma for just over a year. He would have been 5 on Jan 31st. Cancer sucks, no one deserves to go through that or watch a loved one suffer like that. Sad

This is Cooper, about a year before he was diagnosed:

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Amanda - Cooper is such a handsome little man! It makes me SICK SICK SICK when precious babies like Cooper get the wretched disease! My love and prayers to your family, I truly cannot imagine what you all have gone through.

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I don't think there are many people who do not know someone directly who has cancer. It is a heartbreaking experience for everyone involved. My Grandma, Aunt, uncle, have all died of cancer and my dad has recently had surgery for cancer.

I URGE all of you to watch a show call food matters. It talks about how diet can really effect our bodies and can contribute to Cancer (and actually all illnesses). It is an incredible eye opener.

It also talks about high dose vitamin therapy has been extremely effective in the treatment and cure (yes I said cure) of cancer.

best to you and yours...

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i just wanted to add that we found out yesterday that my sister's year of intense treatment has worked! her CT scan report said "no evidence of disease." she is officially in remission! her type has a high rate of recurrence, so she'll get scans every 3 months. but in the meantime, we have to live like it's never coming back. Smile we are all so relieved, and happy, and proud of her for enduring so much.

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JBaum - I agree with you on the food thing. Also all the environmental factors contributing to cancers too.

Amanda - YAY!!!!!! Wonderful news!!!!!