DH and I have made our final decision on a move date We have been living with DH's parents for about a year. It's nice because we have two bedrooms, a living area, and a kitchenette. We've been saving some money, but we are tired of it now We decided that with two kids we need to leave ((and I need to get away from my MIL ! )) I also need my own Washer and Dryer and Dishwasher ! Haha.
So we decided to move out earlier than anticipated and rent a townhouse instead of buying a house. We will be paying off all of our debt and our car (yay!) by December, and don't want to move right before I go on maternity leave, so we are planning to move in April. I'm thinking baby will be between 3 and 6 weeks. Have any of you moved with a baby before? I'm kind of terrified of the idea, but we don't want to wait any longer My maternity leave will end sometime in April, depending on when baby comes, so I want to have moved and gotten sort of settled before I go back.
Any advice is welcome ! Even just moving advice ... because we seriously stink at moving !
I am the moving queen! I label every box and make a list of what's inside. They all made fun of me for this but on moving day when we were searching for kitchen items to serve our 'volunteers' lunch (my IL's all came up to help) I knew exactly which boxes to look in. I find being super organized helps a lot. I moved when DD was 6 months old and that was the biggest thing. Trying to take time to get settled in properly, and not end up in the middle of dozens of open half unpacked boxes while having everything I needed for her easily accessible.
How exciting to be paying off all your debt! I think I'll be retired before we get there lol.
Crystal is right. I've moved a thousand times, although not with a baby. But label EVERYTHING. I mean, even at the end when you're throwing things that don't go together in boxes, label the box with everything inside of it. And pack as you go, not like a week before you move. That way everything is done and ready to be moved before you start to panic because you're moving the next day and half the house needs to be packed.
How soon before hand did you start packing? I feel like there is seriously stuff we could pack now and not miss ... like most of our books for sure ... I'm not sure when/if I will get too big to pack ... if so I will want to do more of it pretty early. Would December-ish be crazy for stuff like that?
I've been purging a lot of stuff the last few months because I'm tired of having so many things around that we don't even use. I think I will be increasing this effort now that I know it will all be going into boxes before we know it.
We are planning on providing beer and food for our wonderful friends and family who help Josh move ! I doubt I will be much help as I probably wont have even been cleared by the doctor yet, but he will have a lot of "volunteer" manpower I'm sure
I've "labeled" boxes before but never really made lists ... I will have to store that idea because it sounds awesome. Especially if we are looking for things for the kids !
Oh and Crystal I still have student loans to pay off but that won't start until I graduate. Our new plan is to buy a house shortly after I graduate and I will open a home preschool/daycare so we will go from having no bills other than month to month expenses to paying my loans and a house payment and all the fun that comes with home ownership Joy !
I moved overseas when ds1 was 7 months old, but I don't think that's going to be useful to you, because it was just a matter of shoving everything in storage for a year.
I have lots of experience with moving, though, including two moves while in the third trimester (not so fun, although plenty of outlets for nesting!).
Here are my tips:
1. Now, while you are still living normally, make a list of the things you use on a daily basis. Those are the things you will want to move first, and you will want to put them in a part of your new place that is separate from where you put all the other stuff.
2. If at all possible, take a few days to move so that you can unpack as you go, to a certain extent. When you move furniture, take it out of the truck, and put it where you want it to be. Try to have one person (at least) who stays on the receiving end and can work on unpacking while more stuff gets moved. This cuts down on the boxes you need and the post-moving confusion. If you can stay on the receiving end, it will be convenient for nursing.
3. Start packing boxes at least two weeks before you move, starting with all the non-essentials. If all your decorative stuff, spare linens, most of your books, etc. are already boxed when you get to the main event, it makes moving MUCH easier.
4. Use a dolly! This is especially important if you are going to be moving a lot of stuff around yourself. You will still be recovering from labor, and if you BF, you will find yourself low on energy pretty quickly. Conserve your energy any way you can. In the absence of a dolly, pushing boxes across the floor takes less energy than lifting them. If it's just you and your dh moving, then he needs to remember this tip, too, as he'll probably do more lifting than you will.
5. Make your first night in the new place like a sleepover party for your DD. Moving is hard on little kids.
6. Take the opportunity to get rid of stuff! If it doesn't go to your new place, you won't have to unpack it! Whenever we move, I always take at least two breaks to haul a car full of stuff to the thrift store. Try to do most of your decluttering before you start packing, but remember that packing is also an excellent opportunity for purging.
Last edited by harper35; 09-12-2012 at 04:56 PM.
DS 1 b. 1/19/09, DS 2 b. 1/12/11, DS 3 b. 3/3/13
I'm not really planning on helping with the "moving." But I will hopefully be at the new place unpacking while they move.
We have a ton of family here. DH will not be lacking for help
I also like the idea of a list of things we use every day !
You ladies are awesome !
Well, my husband and I are planning on moving into a two bedroom apartment. We live in a one bedroom and with the new baby coming there is no room. So, we are going to move before the baby comes. We are thinking about January. It may be hard but lucky the family and DH will be moving all our stuff and i don't have too. HAHA!
SO WHAT!, I AM AUTISTIC. This saying gives infants , children , young adults , and elderly a chance to say S0 WHAT! I am no different than you......... IT'S time to not label us. It's time to see us as normal as YOU
DS 1 b. 1/19/09, DS 2 b. 1/12/11, DS 3 b. 3/3/13
I had a baby and the next day my husband moved due to work. He came back after a month with movers. A few months before the baby was born I packed up and labeled mon essentials with an excel sheet and assigned box numbers. When I stacked up the boxes i put them in numerical order. Each room had a different amount of digits .... Trust me it isnt compicated, but I wanted all the boxes to go in the right rooms so i didnt have salt or something in the kids room etc lol
I bave moved so many times with kids and babies. My kids are very young so for us it is best if i take the kids out fr the day and he manages everything on moving day.
If i were in your situation and if it was feasible, i might move 6 weeks before my due date instead of after. I would feel more settled, peaceful knowing the baby will be brought home to its home and easier routine. You wont have to face this when you are very stressed and sleep deprived. For me, i prefer to be away from everyone while i adjust and take care of all of us, meaning i would not like to live with anyone else except my husband and kids after child birth. I feel more relaxed.
Last edited by myyams; 09-14-2012 at 10:14 PM.