DH may miss the girls birthday :(

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DH may miss the girls birthday :(

I'm home with sick kids (tummy bug that has been going on for over 3 days now. UGH), and I get a text from DH that he may have to go to the UK for work. I knew this was going to eventually happen, and we have thrown around the idea of all of us going. But it looks like it will be SOON, like the week before Easter. At first I was like, cool, have fun but I don't think we will be able to get passports for the girls that quick. Then it hit me. The girls birthday is April 19th, and that's the Tuesday before Easter. UGH. So DH may not be here for the girls actual birthday. I am SOOOOOO sad. I am trying to tell myself that it doesn't really matter. They don't know that it is their actual birthday, and we can celebrate it another day (he would be here for the party. That I know he would have said NO to work to missing that). But part of me is so upset that he may not be here. I can't imagine missing one of their birthdays. I know it will happen eventually, but I was thinking it would be when they are away at college, not their 2nd birthday.

Thanks for listening to me vent.

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:bighug: Awh, Tara, that would make me sad too...

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That makes me sad! It is a part of life that you nor he can control and at least the girls are not five years old and crying bc daddy's gone! I know that doesn't help the pain, but he is probably more upset than you are, and he knows there is nothing he can do. I am so sorry for you both!

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DH always had a conference at the time of Sarahsunshine's birthday. But we lived through it. She was mildly upset about it several times, but she never doubted that he cared for her. Her brother had a birthday 2 weeks after she did, so they often partied together for the entire month!

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I know it sucks, my DH may not be here on Mason's actual birthday either. His work has a training that week that he wants to attend the training. Of course he doesn't want to be gone that week, but he wants to do the training, it is important for his job and that is when it is offered.

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Ugh! That would make me sad as well. Maybe they'll switch it up so he'll be here!

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Thanks ladies! You are making me feel better! Who knows, with the way things change at work, by the time he gets home the whole trip could be canceled! Our last friend that had to go to the UK was supposed to go for one week, and was gone for over THREE. But like some of you said, it's just a day and the girls KNOW that he loves them. And they are only two, so they don't know that it's there actual birthday. I just looked up tickets, and they would be almost a thousand bucks for each of us. I'm not about to spend $3000 dollars just on tickets for a week in London for the girls and I to be on vacation without DH.

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((HUGS))

If you want to get passports we did just get Trey's in last than a week (we had to expedite--so $182 total cost/passport for him!) But it came quickly....

The girls won't know and you can celebrate and take pics. I wish we were all independently wealthy and didn't have to jet all over the globe for work. Boo!

I'm trying not to be too sad about missing Easter this year w/our 4. Trey and I will be in Bangkok-- and my parents are coming to stay with the kids and play easter bunny. I know they'll have a blast and I just don't want to miss it :(.

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Just take lots of pics!! We try to skype with DH when important dates arise! Cause he is gone for most of them:( You just make of the most of what you can!! As long as he is there for the party it will be alright!

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Don't feel bad Tara. Last year I was bummed that Colin was out of town for work for Cooper's b-day. But you know, we had the party 3 weeks early, Cooper didn't know the difference, we all had a good time, and then on his actual b-day I made him a special cupcake just so the day wouldn't go unnoticed.

This year, seems like more of the same. Colin is supposed to be going out of town again, it's up in the air whether he will be here for the b-day.(He was supposed to leave this coming Monday, but it will probably be pushed back another week at least). We will just do the same thing, have a cupcake and acknowledge the special day, and have more of a celebration when he gets back, probably combined with mine, which is May 6th.

Even Sierra had a party 2 weeks late, her 7th, so she knew, but she was fine. We had some scheduling issues with getting the ice rink AND I hired the Canucks mascot Fin to come. It was okay. She had her party, we did something special(but small) on her actual b-day.

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awww!! So sorry they are sick!

I hope the trip works out where he can be there!!! You thunk you could have an early party? My brother is getting married on lily birthday thus year so we are doing it early. I know it's not the same but at least he'll be there?

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Aww, I'm sorry girl, that's tough!! What if Aunt Annie comes instead LOL!!

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"AK2663" wrote:

Aww, I'm sorry girl, that's tough!! What if Aunt Annie comes instead LOL!!

LOL!!! We would love to have Aunt Annie come!!!

As of right now, it looks like it will be the week AFTER their birthday!!! Yahoo Everyone else is going the week of their birthday, but they want him to come after everyone. I think the first group is more for meetings and getting quotes done. They want him to do "real" work and train some people. So hopefully it will stay that way.

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YahooYahooYahoo Awesome news!

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Yahoo! That's great! Smile

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Yay for you guys!!

It is official that with 4 days notice, Colin is leaving on Sunday, so no b-day party here for at least 5 weeks. Oh well.

Gives me more time to get ready LOL!

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"buildingthedream" wrote:

Yay for you guys!!

It is official that with 4 days notice, Colin is leaving on Sunday, so no b-day party here for at least 5 weeks. Oh well.

Gives me more time to get ready LOL!

HUGS honey. I think I would lose my mind if DH was gone for 5 weeks. But yeah for more planning time. Way to look at the positives!

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It sucks. But a paycheque is a paycheque, we have to look at it that way. Sadly his company is really good at bidding on out-of-town jobs. Especially since I don't work, we have to take what we're given. Well, he does anyways lol.

It's a bummer he misses mine and Cooper's b-days, Easter, Mother's Day, and half of Sierra's baseball season.

Positives- we get to eat spaghetti with no meat. Colin insists on having meat with it everytime, where when Sierra and I were on our own, we ate it meatless to save money.
- I can wander as much as I want when grocery shopping. He's kind of wierd about the fact that I like to take my time when I'm at WM. It's not like he's with me either, so I don't know why it's a problem.
- I can get a lot of work done on my knitting, and out in the garden without having to help him with the derby cars outside, or e-mailing people off CL for cheap cars.