How's it going? Any good signs?
I will know after my blood test tomorrow! I was supposed to go in Monday bit decided to give it a few extra days since I didn't get a positive OPK. But...I started doing BBT again last week and saw a big rise yesterday so hopefully it's a good sign! I will update once I get my results.
Umm excuse me Ma'm.....but where is your chart link so we can stalk you?!!
Can't wait for results!!! I really really really hope you get a bfp this month!!!!
Fingers crossed for you!!!
Any news Laurie??!!!!
My doctor just called and it was a good result! Now it's on to waiting and hoping. If it doesn't happen this cycle, next step is fertility clinic.
I have everything crossed for you! I hope this is your month!
So hoping for you, Laurie! :bighug:
Crossing it all, girl. Good luck!
Keep us posted! Glad things looked good!
Yay for O!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm do excited for you! Can't wait for the big BFP coming your way!!!!!
Thanks for all of the encouragement! I am really hoping this is the cycle. DH and I talked a bit last night about the idea of going to the fertility clinic and I think we are pretty much on the same page. My doctor tells me that I would def. have to do IUI as a next step and to be honest, I can't say we are 100% OK with doing it. Besides the financial factor, just the logistics of the procedure are kind of weird for both of us. Not that there has been much that has been natural for us the past 6 months on our clomid adventure but doing IUI raises some questions in my mind. Yesterday my doctor told me that we need to consider how important another baby is to us and how far we are willing to go. He also threw in that I am not getting any younger (I am turning 40 in August) so time is "of the essence." One of my close friends did IUI to get pregnant with her first baby and she will be the first to say there was nothing natural about getting pregnant the way she did!
With so many thoughts constantly circling in my head, I try to keep my faith in knowing God has a plan and even though sometimes I may not like how things are going, whatever His plan may be is what will happen.
I had a friend who went through 3 cycles of IUI before getting pregnant. She didn't find it horribly invasive - and she and her husband had decided that they would not go as far as IVF before going ahead with it.
Everyone has to decide for themselves what is right for them and 'enough' for them - you just have to ask yourself if you will be okay with your decision at age 45 to have not tried IUI. If you (and DH) can imagine yourselves at the age beyond which it is no longer possible to try, and you are still happy with your decision, then you know it's the right one. I SO wish it was an easier path for you guys... and I'm SOOOOOO hoping that THIS IS YOUR MONTH!!! :) I'm living proof that babies happen after age 40... in fact I just had a friend of my sister's that gave birth to her first baby at age 44 1/2!!
Everything is crossed for you, mama!!! xxoo ((hugs))
I go back and forth with my feelings on trying IUI. DH seems to be a little uncomfortable knowing he would have to give the sperm sample at the clinic rather than at home. He said he isn't sure he could be relaxed enough. I accept and understand his feelings. I want us both to be comfortable with our plan and believe we are doing the right thing. I had dinner with 2 of my friends the other night who have done IUI and they both said their husbands didn't have an issue with the procedure so I guess it's the right thing for some couples. In some ways, if it doesn't happen this cycle then I feel like I will be ok with trying some more on our own and if it's in God's plan for us to have another baby then it will happen. We are going on almost 2 years of trying and it's taken so much out of me, I just hope something good happens soon!
DH never had to give a sample at the clinic. He always did it at home (actually, you could be a part of that process if you wanted), and I/we took it with us to the procedure (DH didn't always go with me). It took some time to process the sample, so we had time to sit and read or go run an errand or two. Then, we went back and had the IUI. You wait on your back for about 20 minutes, then it's back to real life. For us, it wasn't the norm, but it wasn't too weird. You can always DTD afterward at home, and then you never know for sure if it was the IUI or the natural way that got you pregnant
Ginny, I think Jerry might have a different perspective on it if he could do it at home! Both of my friends who have gone to the same clinic that my doctor would refer me to, say they require the sample to be given at the clinic. They give your husband an appt 2 hrs before your appt. I am curious of all of the clinics in our area have the same "in office" policy.
That's interesting, Laurie. I'm sure you want the most competent doc you can find, but at the same time, if producing the sample at home means the difference between giving IUI a chance or not, it would be worth checking out some other practices. See what you can find out. I think you just need to be within an hour or less travel time to keep the sample in good condition.
I really hope this is the month for you! Keep us posted on how things go and what you decide to do. I can totally understand you saying "this is enough". I got pregnant with the girls on our last month before IUI, and DH wasn't too thrilled with the idea either.
HUGS, and know that you can talk to us about anything. We are all here for you!
When my DH had to do a sample he got to do it at home. Actually I got to do it for him, lol! Doing it at the office is against our convictions, so we said no dice unless we bring it from home. I had to take the sample though, lol!!!! He was a weeny! I really hope you get a bfp tho!!!
Laurie, any update?!!!
Yes! Any updates?? I've been thinking about you all week. I pray there is good news!
No good news...AF showed up yesterday. I was so optimistic since it was 15 dpo and I thought I was in the clear. My initial thought was just to be done and if it's meant to be, it will happen. DH asked that we at least go to the fertility clinic to see what our options are. I sent a message to my doctor last night to find out how we schedule the appt. I can say not many other things in my life have hurt my heart more than this. I am starting to think its just not meant to be. Thanks for checking in and I'll keep you guys posted!
It sounds like DH is gently urging to move forward.
This is a physical problem. Remember, it is not personally directed at you. Of course it pains you both, but seeking advice and moving ahead is not working against God's plan.
I'd say gently investigating is worth it.
Just my opinion Laurie!
I'm so sorry Laurie. HUGS. Hopefully you will feel better after talking to the fertility doctor about whatever decision you two do decide to make. I wish I could give you a huge HUG in person!
I'm so sorry, Laurie. I agree with the others. It really does hurt. Wish I could hug ya!
((HUGS)) I'm so sorry, Laurie. I'm sure it hurts....take some time for you this week. I'll be thinking of you and dh.
It was just bad timing (not that anytime would be good) but DH had to go out of town for 2 nights starting last night. He was obviously bummed and tried so hard to make me feel better and I wasn't very receptive. I am ok with going for the initial appt but there are so many unknowns in my head. I can't say I am 100% comfortable with IUI, partially because of the procedure itself and it's "unnaturalness", and the the financial part since I am not working, and also not knowing if it's what I should be doing. I checked out the fertility clinic website and it said IUI is not recommended for women over 40 (I will be 40 in August) so I am curious to see if it really is an option for us. Hopefully I will hear from my doctor soon to get more details!
I heard back from my doctor....we need to do sperm analysis and HSG next. He is going to have his office contact me. I'll keep you guys posted!
I'm so sorry that it didn't happen this month. ((HUGE HUGS)) to you, Laurie. I'm thinking of you guys and hoping that you get positive news at your appointment.
(I can totally understand not wanting to do it at the office, and I'm not even a guy... I really hope there's another practice in town that allows 'homework'...)
Kirsten, thanks for the chuckle about "homework"! Last night Jerry said he is willing to give it a try if that's what it takes. I keep thinking "maybe it will happen on its own while we wait for all of the scheduling, etc.". Could happen, right? :). Even before that though, I need to find peace and fun with intimacy again because I lost that through the past year and a half! I am going to yoga a few tines each week and it is really helping in calming my mind and body. So for now, we wait and hope the process gets started soon.
I'm sorry Laurie Here's the thing, you know you CAN get pregnant, so that's not the issue. I recently had a best friend that had a baby 6yrs ago, got prego on accident. Well when I had Jake she started trying to get pregnant again.....over 2yrs of trying. Granted she didn't chart or anything. But it took her over 2yrs and the dr said there was no real reason. The month she said "F" it and wasn't obsessing about it, she got pregnant. I know it's hard hun, but I say put the stressfull stuff away for a month or so, see what happens. Plan a weekend get away for you and DH if you can, put the fun back in things. I'm a believer in that sometimes just the stress of babymaking can put a wrench in getting a bfp. I'm still rooting for you and I truly think your time is close babe!!
Thanks for the message, Rachel! I keep trying to remind myself my body was able to do it on its own the first time so I kmow there is still hope. I hate that I have lost almost all interest in intimacy and just hope that I can try to relax my mind and get it back!
Just when I thought it was got g to take forever to heat back from my doctors office, I got a message this afternoon saying the HSG was ordered and I can call to schedule. DH is probably going to just laugh because I told him he could collect the sample for semen analysis at home and drop it off, the nurse said they prefer for the sample to be collected at the hospital lab so that it's fresh. Ok, a doctors office is one thing, but a hospital lab?? Jeez, after that he will have no problem with doing it at the fertility clinic....LOL!