Family planning appt. next week- UPDATED

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Family planning appt. next week- UPDATED

When I had my annual gyn appt in October, I mentioned to my doctor that we had been trying for a few months to get pg with no luck. He told me to give it 6 months to give my body time to start regular cycles again. Well....6 months have come and gone, my cycles seem wackier than ever so back to the doctor we go! I feel so bummed and really had hopes it would have happened on it's own. It was kind of funny when I called to make the appt. and they asked what it was for. I wasn't quite sure how to word it...LOL. So then the woman says, "oh, you mean a family planning appt.". Um, I guess so.

I know some of you have dealt with similar situations but man does it stink! So much stress on my relationship with DH...esp the sex part! I never thought I would get to the point of it feeling like something that had to be done! Then seeing our friends who had their first vary around the time Ev was born now having their second..its been tough!

I am a little scared about going but on the other hand I want to know if something is wrong and if it can be fixed. Wish us luck and I'll update next week! Thanks for listening/reading!

UPDATE - Well, we had our appt. this morning. Overall, I think it went well. My doctor thinks my cycles aren't all that wacky. Since he thinks the chances of something "breaking" in the 2 years since Ev was born, he doesn't think it would be worth it to go through tests such as sperm analysis, hsg, etc at the moment. His suggestion is to try clomid for a few cycles and see how it goes. If we don't have success then do some testing. I have mixed feelings but also have some time to think about it since I wouldn't start until my next cycle. I plan on doing some research on side effects, etc and any input/experiences that anyone would like to share would also be greatly appreciated! Thanks again for all of your support and kind words...it really does mean a lot!

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Aw, I'm sorry! Hopefully it's an easy fix to regulate your cycles. I've had the opposite, before Kaylin, my cycles were all wacky (it took a year for her) but after they've been on track thankfully. We'll see when the time comes to have another baby!

Best of luck with the appt! Thinking of you!!

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Awh. Good luck. I hope you walk away from your appt with a plan. KUP! Things went smoothly (quick!) for M2 but I did have a long road when ttc M1 so I do understand the stress, anxiety, etc that comes along with a long road to baby. Thinking of you. Talk anytime! :bighug:

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Hugs Laurie. We had a very long road to get the girls, and the amount of stress it can cuase is unbelievable. Not just in your relationship, but in everything. I hope that you have a plan and that it's an "easy" fix. Keep us posted.

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I'm so sorry you're having a long road to baby #2 Laurie... big big ((hugs)). I can't imagine how stressful that must be.. the dtd on 'demand', anxiety every single month, watching friends get pg while you wait... ((more big fat hugs))!

Since you already have Ev, all your 'equipment' on both sides is clearly operational.. so I bet it'll be a simple matter of getting you ovulating and regulating your cycle. Can't wait to hear what the dr says and SO looking forward to stalking you on your next pregnancy!! Wink

KUP!

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HUGS Laurie! Honey, I can totally relate to how you are feeling.

~When TTCing Jackson, I TTCed for 2 years (and had one miscarriage). My doctor had to prescribe clomid for me to ovulate. I had an HSG too.

~Before conceiving Camille, I had to use metformin and clomid to ovulate. (and, had another miscarriage).

It is MORE than DISCOURAGING to try every month . . . only to get a BFN . . . especially if you have long cycles like I did and ovulated once every two months, if that. My dh never really minded DTD, but it take a toll on our relationship because I could never understand why he wasn't devestated each month like I was. And, you do get totally frustrated with your body and start to blame yourself.

I actually felt better after I saw my doctor for our family planning meetings. He gave me hope that we'd actually conceive! I think if you've got the right doctor, you'll feel that way too. Anne of this board went to the doctor and he prescribed some clomid and she is gonna have Gracie's little sister.

Good Luck Laurie! I hope your appt. goes well and I am sending you lots of baby dust.

((HUGS))

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Just wanted to wish you good Luck!!!! Hope it works for you!!!

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Laurie - I hope clomid helps! (Don't forget there is a clomid board on p.org) I know quite a few ladies from this site that have had great results with it but I can't remember what they experienced as far as side effects go. Keep us posted on how things are going. :bighug:

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Good luck Laurie! The Clomid board here is a great spot to talk to others who are going thru the same thing. The girls are my little "Clomid Miracles"!!!!! The side effects, for me at least, really weren't that bad. I was a little moody, but then I was moody before I was on it from all of the stress. There were also some headaches, but once again I get bad headaches anyway. Overall, I would recommend it! Good luck! And keep us posted, or if you have any specific questions, feel free to ask away!

Are you temping or anything like that to see when you ovulate? I think that was WAY worst then the Clomid. And there was just a new study published that said stress does NOT effect fertility. So don't listen to all of those people that will say "if you just relax you will get pregnant".

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Thanks, Mamas! It's great to have support and advice from you guys!

Tara - my doctor said becoming crabby could def. come along with trying clomid....LOL. But i totally am there already with the stress of TTC for the past year now! Oh, I was laughing to myself a little bit because he told me in 20 years he has only seen 2 sets of twins due to clomid! I am temping and when I told him, he said it doesn't work. He told me it's the "8 track version" of trying to figure out your cycles. I do see the dip and rise which i assume is showing ovulation about 12 to 14 days before AF. What stinks is that my cycles have been averging 35 up to 55 days! I hope you don't mind me bugging you with more questions as I think of them!

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Feel free to ask any question any time! Taking clomid only increases your chances of having twins from like 1% to 3.5% (or something like that). Twins run in my family, so I was at a higher risk to have twins anyway. But then I ALWAYS wanted twins, so I was excited!

Temping is just tiring. How can you NOT stress about TTC when the very first thing you do every morning is think about it? I really hope that this works for you and we are all stalking you soon! HUGS honey!

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Well, there is an increased chance of twins, but, even with clomid, your odds of conceiving twins are not that high. I don't remember many side effects. It did do the job, I ovulated and got pregnant! So, I only have good things to say about it. And, I agree with Tara! I hate the charting and temping. That made me CRAZY!

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I had very mild effects with clomid but my body never ovulated with it. I had to take a double dose of Femara to get Luke. Lily is a miracle and we have been TTC #3 for 6mo now. My cycles are ranging anywhere from 44 days to 100 days. Good luck! I totally know what you are going through. Try the clomid, looks like you just need to time your window a little bit. Especially since your cycles aren't that wacky. Praying for good news!!