This morning Sam and I attempted to go to the library for a book reading. It was in a room with about 10 other kids, coloring books, and blocks. I had no idea how this would go. Well, needless to say it went horrible. We left after 10 mins. We sat down in the circle and he would just throw his body to the floor, he would get up and run over to the window and hit the metal blinds, or run over to the crayons and try to mess them up. He kept digging into his diaper bag searching for his paci (which I finally gave him so he would quit crying/whining.) Any time anyone talks to him ANYWHERE he just says "NO". I know that this is a total case of him not being in daycare or around other kids, but there HAS to be another alternative. Not every well behaved kid is in daycare! The last time we went to the nursery at church (he has only been 4 times) I had to stay with him bc he was trying to climb out of the door to get out. He has never stayed with a babysitter other than my mom or my sisters--never with someone he doesn't know. He cries when we go to my in-laws house for the first 5 minutes (it is very chaotic I will admit with 100 kids screaming).
I got so furious with him at the library, he knew he was in trouble. We came home and I blocked off his toys and wouldn't let him watch tv. I kept saying that he acted bad at the library, and that he couldn't watch his shows or play with his trucks because he was being ugly. I just don't know what to do. I have read 1-2-3 Discipline and nothing has worked. It's like he cannot hear me.
I guess what I'm wondering for you mom's with any insight, is where do I go from here? Do I just LEAVE him in the nursery for those women to fend for themselves? We desperately want to get him into pre-k, but cannot afford it at this time. Also, we are going back to the library Wednesday and I am wondering what to say to him before we try it again...........He is very immature as far as his speech, just now really starting to say words. I feel like once I can communicate with him better, we can explain to him that he can't act like that.....maybe I'm delusional.
Any advice, help, ideas or support is needed. Thanks so much!