We're having a horrible time getting DS (4 1/2) to sleep at night. First off, he hates going to bed, but loves to read books so he'll lay down just for that. But when it comes to going to sleep, it's a horrible battle.
He refuses to sleep in his own bed anymore, is terrified of the dark to the point where he wants a lamp on even if he's laying between DH and I in our bedroom, and insists that I lay with him after books. If I get up and leave and attempt to let him cry it out, he'll cry my name and scream for over an hour. And then later on he acts like he's been pyschologically traumatized. It's maddening!!
We just had some bloodwork done at doctor for chronic fatigue, achiness, and some other weird symptoms he's been experiencing (the fatigue is obviously likely due to the fact that he isn't getting enough sleep at night!!), and all that was normal including his thyroid which I've read can cause some sleep disturbances/insomnia.
We've tried nightlights, going to bed at the same time, cutting out stimulating activites/TV, letting him CIO, sitting w/ him in his room then moving a little further out over subsequent nights, reading books about little boys confronting their nightime fears, etc but nothing seems to work. It's like I have a newborn all over again, except this kid has staying power. He's incredibly stubborn.
My next plan is to set up a chart on his wall w/ a reward system and essentially bribe him with something he really wants to get. Just have to figure out what his big currency is at this point! Also, we're going to try to engage him in redoing his bedroom. We've done some things like getting him superhero sheets, etc, but we're talking full out repainting with a color he chooses, a theme, etc.
Have any of your older LOs had issues with this and what did you wind up doing? What worked and what didn't?