I need advice/help. I never knew having two kids would be this hard. Ive heard that going from one to two would be the hardest thing ever. I didn't believe them, but do now. I feel like I am completely out of control. Matt feels the same way.
Sam was a perfect angel when we first brought Judd home. PERFECT. Now, he screams, throws, and is acting out every chance he can. I understand that his life has been flipped upside down, but we just don't know how to handle him. Last night, I had class from 6-11 pm, when I got home, he was still awake bc Matt can't get him to bed w/ Judd. I took him in his room and he screamed for 30 minutes bc he wanted to lay on the couch (just so he could control us). I tried everything, threatening to not take him to the parade, eventually ended w/ a pop on the butt. We had tried everything. This is just one example. Yesterday at Target the whole time he kept saying really loud "LET ME HAVE THAT!!!!" to everything. I know he is just testing us and trying to feel independent, but it's getting bad and I want to have an effective plan in action and a good response. I am fairly patient and calm with them both, as I know that is the BEST way to react-but it does NOT seem to get through to him.
I know I posted about 6 months ago about taking him to the library, and I'm fine w/ the fact that he is not able to be calm for 'storytime', but this is just plain terrible twos. I need a game plan, I need some control over him. I feel like we had a great, stern, effective plan, and it's just unraveling bc Judd is here. Judd is so colicky and takes SO much of my time that I cry sometimes bc I miss the life I had before him. I don't ever get to spend time w/ just Sam, and when I do, he is acting like a crazed two year old. I couldn't even brush my teeth until 11 am yesterday bc Judd screams uncontrollably when we put him down. I realized the other day I had held him for 11 hours I also realized I had not left the house except to go to class or walmart :/ or the ER !!! in 9 days!
I guess aside from just feeling crazy, I need help w/ my two year old. I feel like Judd wouldn't SEEM so bad if it weren't for Sam. Any help or outsider looking in sort of advice would be greatly needed!