I had a converstaion last night with my 22 year old niece that I never expected to have. She is in the Marines and is getting deployed in March. I have posted about her before. She has two kids, both by different fathers and the youngest one's father is bi-polar (he's the one that attempted sucide). The father of the first child used to be in the Marines and now he is in the Army Reserves. We discussed who would get her kids if something were to happen to her. It's so scary to be having this conversation with my niece. She told me that she wanted to leave the kids with either me or my sister (not her mother, who is also my sister. She doesn't want to tie her down, and not her father because she HATED living with her step-mother so she couldn't do that to her kids). We are only 9 years apart, so we grew up more like sisters then niece/aunt. Heck, I am closer in age with her then I am with my oldest sister (her mother)! We talked about the pros and cons of both decisions. We came up with my other sister and her husband being legal guardians. The only reason is that I live 2 hours away from my family, and my sister lives 1 mile from my parents and close to my other sister (her mother, the grandmother of the children). So she would have more support then DH and I would. But what a scary converstation to be having with a 22 year old that is about to deploy to Afghanistan. And what an honor that she would want me to raise her children! I would take them in a heart beat!!!
It got me thinking, DH and I have discussed who would get our kids, but it's not in writing. Heck, I don't even think his family knows. Our girls would also go to my sister, the same one that would get my two great nephews. DH and I would also get my sisters two kids if something were to happen to them. But we really need to make a will and get it settled so that there is NO problems if something should happen.
Pammi, can any lawyer help you write a will, or is there a special type that we should contact?