Choosing a sitter

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Choosing a sitter

So, help. We obviously have kind of a unique situation here in not having family around (well, we do have BIL/SIL, but we want to be able to go out WITH them), not having local neighborhood kids or high school kids or college kids or any agencies or anything where one might otherwise look for a sitter.

I tried to ask my SIL for help in asking her maid/nanny if she knew anyone....but, I got no where with that. And DH is really itching to be able to stay out a bit later some nights, and not have to chase Beni around bars (I don't blame him)....so I want to try to find a sitter.

So I'm thinking of printing up a flyer to post on the school's notice board (anything important goes there- it's a community hot spot).

I'm not sure who will apply- I'm sure local women- *maybe* some high school students. My one requirement is without question that they be able to speak English. I want to be able to communicate WELL with the person taking care of my child!

Any other suggestions of what to put on the flyer?

Also... once I have people responding... how would you go about actually hiring someone? And would you make them come over for supervised (still paid? or no?) time with Beni first, before leaving them together in the evening? To me it seems like I def want Beni to know this person at least a little before I leave her for the night with them, but how much should I expect?? (I REALLY wish my mom could just come do it!!!!!)

You all know this is a big step for me...so I would appreciate any input! Thanks!

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I am having the same problem. Even though we live with my mother in law she leaves for the weekend to her boyfriends house to get away. We want to find someone to come on a saturday night or during the day on saturday so dh and i can have a little time together. I hate the thought of leaving naya with anyone because she HATES everyone. The boys would be fine. I would have the person come over for a interview and have her meet beni and spend time with her. Most people i think would do this without pay. Kinda like if you went on a job interview you would not get paid for your time you know. This is a big step for me too because i have only left naya a few times ever. How will it work if beni wakes up at night? I am so worried about that since naya only wants me when she wakes up. I am going to ask the mom down the street if she has anyone. Good luck and keep us posted.

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Honestly, Sara, between me being pregnant, and DD's sleep habits...I more see us going out for dinner eaten at our normal dinner hour (between 5 and 7) and then just hanging out for another hour or two, and probably heading home by 9, 10 at the latest. I have no idea what this will mean for DD. I could easily see it meaning that she stays up that late, because she just doesn't go to sleep without nursing. Well, that isn't actually true. She will go down sometimes, but, I wouldn't put money on it. And if she did go down, and then woke up, before I got home... I assume she'd scream her head off unless the sitter just like brought her downstairs and put Dora on or something. Smile Maybe I am underestimating her, and given the chance she'll go down a dream for someone else. Like I said before, I just so wish my mom could do it! Smile I'd trust her completely.

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I think you have great ideas already. Letting Beni meet a potential sitter is good. I'm at a loss over whether or not that time should be paid, although I'm leaning more toward paying something. Maybe half of what you would normally pay? I hope you get someone fantastic.

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Lurker:

Try checking out http://www.sittercity.com/ to find a sitter or post an ad for a sitter. Everyone on the site is background checked and profile gets approved.

I just recently applied for a job on there to watch a baby for some extra money while still staying home with mine. After several emails we meet at a Starbucks a public place yesterday where we talked and I answered any questions she had and she answered any I have. Then next week we plan on having an unpaid lunch/dinner at my house so she can see where I will be watching her son and I can meet her baby. After that the following week I will start watching him 4 days a week while she works.

Good luck finding a great babysitter.

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I found all of mine either through friends or through our gym.

Could DH ask the other teachers at the school for some leads?

I never sat them down for an interview, but that was because I felt that since my good friends had used them for years, they were vetted. As teachers, they also had had background checks done, which was nice. If I did require an interview, I would pay them my regular rate. If you can get someone referred to you by someone you trust, I would not interview them. I would just have them come earlier than you need them (like, 45 minutes) so that you can give them the lay of the house, Beni's schedule, what to feed her, how to diaper etc etc. That will help get Beni and you more comfortable with her. That time would be paid along with the rest of the babysitting. Good luck!