I'm not declaring victory over tantrums by any means, but I have felt like something clicked recently. I have been reading more AP techniques on dealing with crying and tantrums and I think it is helping. Jordan has been particularly sensitive lately. She might have a fit if I close the pantry door when she wanted to. (True story, it happened today.)
Now, I know this may seem like common sense to some of you but I am willing to admit that I had it in my head that tantrums needed to be ignored. However, I have tried that and it usually resulted in a very long period of crying and Jordan getting so upset. The last couple of times I've just sat near her and, with as few words as possible, tried to label her feelings and identify her frustration. I also offer a hug. Today she was having a fit so I did those things and she realized I was waiting there for her, ready to give her a hug. I didn't give in to what she was having the tantrum about but she got over it much quicker and even repeated "frustrated" back to me. She ran to me and wrapped her arms around me and then she was fine.
It will be interesting to see if this continues to work.