How are my bestest board buddies doing? I have missed you ladies.
I've become a lurker, in the dark hours of the night. Don't worry it's not as creepy as it sounds lol I am back at work! I got a temp position where DH works, and applied for a permanent position as the temp was ending. I was offered and accepted the offer. I'm thrilled! I love the people I work with, the environment, the flexible schedule, the location, and I absolutely love what I do. Than is in 'daycare'. A lady that lives a few houses down from us adores him and watches him during the day. She also watches a couple other kids, including a little boy Than's age. Than has learned some great new things (using a snack cup, walking, etc) since being there, loves his best friend, and is having a great time playing all day and on a more structured schedule. The second income we now have is going completely (minus church tithing, which we fully believe in) to our Dave Ramsey baby steps. We are currently on BS#2, the debt snowball. We have $5k left on our car, with $1k additional towards it from my income. We are rocking it! DH and I are struggling a bit with communication lately,. It's frustrating for both of us. But we are still determined, and are plugging along trying to work through things.
Than, like I said, is thriving. He is walking now, finally. He started walking about a month ago. He still crawls every once in a while, through grass or going down stairs. He is talking a bit. He only says a handful of words- Mom, Dad, kitty, light, etc. But he can sign, and is communicating well with signing. Just today, he was signing "eat" and actually said the word "eat" with it. First time he's voluntarily signed and said a word without copying someone. I was pleasantly surprised! He is soooo smart. He has learned how to open doors, how to open the laptop and play a game, how to undress himself, how to unlock my phone. He loves to color, and sidewalk chalk is his favorite (and mine, since we don't have to make him stay on one piece of paper). He can clean (put toys away), help with laundry (pulling items out of the dryer and putting items on the bed), throw his diapers in the trash, put his dirty clothes in his laundry basket, help Mama clean the floor under his high chair (always plenty to clean there!). He loves loves loves music. He plays his little guitar, and loves Daddy's big guitar. He loves to play with the drumsticks, and will beat them on anything he can reach. He will spend more time playing on his xylophone than any other toy.
We have stopped trying to have our next baby. We aren't preventing but aren't trying. I hate this stage, it's too much of a gray area for me. If we get pregnant when we aren't officially trying, are we going to be upset? If we don't get pregnant when we are officially preventing, is something wrong? We talked a little about it this morning, and agreed to wait a while to officially try. I am so happy at my job, that I'm not ready to leave again. And if we have another baby, I don't know that I could leave my sweet little one to go back to work after only six weeks. I'm very torn about it. We wanted our next one close to Than's age, but feel we've missed the window of how close we want them, and will run into the hard stage with a newborn if we try now for our next, and on and on and on. There's a lot more going on than I can fit into this paragraph, but one thing is for certain. Obviously, we don't have any clue what we are going to do.
(For those that are on my FB, I did decide to cancel it. I have been looking for a reason to get rid of it for a while, and after the safety issue of Than, we decided it was time. I am planning to search out and take down any and all pictures of him that are anywhere I can find online. DH and I decided it was simply too risky, when our home and names were posted so publicly.)
So how are you ladies? How are your Moonbeams? As I mentioned, I sometimes lurk as I'm falling asleep at night. But I would love to have a general update about what you would like to tell me. I miss you all. I don't know how often I will be able to get in a update, but know that I'm thinking about you often, I miss you, and I hope you are all doing well.