Naps - Not so easy these days

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Kayla1981's picture
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Naps - Not so easy these days

Of course Jordan has never been an award winning sleeper. I will say that we are doing awesome at night now. It took a long time to say that! However, nap time is such a crap shoot. We may have a stretch of days where she does okay but then things just sort of fall apart. The last couple of weeks have looked like this...

I rock her for about 10 to 15 minutes at most. Some days she gets very sleepy and other days she fidgets more and doesn't seem as tired. I don't read books b/c she tends to want to make it a game and run around her room so sometimes I tell her a short story when we first start rocking. That seems to help get her attention and keeps her from wanting to play. I lay her down with her lovies and walk out of the room. Some days she fusses/whines for anywhere from a few seconds to five minutes. After that she starts babbling. One day this week she talked for an hour and ten minutes before falling asleep. Today? She has been in there babbling off and on for an hour and a half. She was quite for about ten minutes and I really thought she was asleep. I guess not.

I do my best to put her down at the right time. Not too early, not too late. You can tell when she is overtired and that can backfire.

I really don't think she is done with naps. She is not even two! The days we have skipped naps she has done pretty well until bed time but those days we are usually around a bunch of people so she is distracted. I think if it were just her and I at home then she would be a mess.

But to have her awake in her room for an hour and a half is just strange. I'm glad she isn't crying and I don't want to run back in there after too short of a time because I don't want her to think this is just time to play in her crib. I want her to know it's time to sleep. But there have been days that I've finally just gone back in a gotten her because she just wouldn't fall asleep. My limit is usually an hour and a half.

What do you all think?

reeveslady's picture
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I think that even if she doesn't have real sleep during her nap times that it's important for her to at least get a rest time. As long as she's calm during the times she's in her crib, I think it's OK to keep her in there, even if she doesn't sleep. Plus, it's very important for you to get some rest too! You're growing a baby (plus keeping the house and all that jazz!). Her nap time is as important to you as it is to her. My vote goes to keeping her in there and trying to give yourself a time when you can just relax a bit.

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"reeveslady" wrote:

I think that even if she doesn't have real sleep during her nap times that it's important for her to at least get a rest time. As long as she's calm during the times she's in her crib, I think it's OK to keep her in there, even if she doesn't sleep. Plus, it's very important for you to get some rest too! You're growing a baby (plus keeping the house and all that jazz!). Her nap time is as important to you as it is to her. My vote goes to keeping her in there and trying to give yourself a time when you can just relax a bit.

THIS!

And I just wanted to add (although naptime is not an issue here - she's usually asking to go!) that if I spend too much time in the room with her, it seems to make things bad. I have to tell her it's naptime, pick her up, have her say night-night to whatever she is doing, walk her up to her bed, drop her in with an I love you and walk out the door. Any lingering and she gets all whiney and clingy.

If I find she's wakes too early and not fussy I let her be for a while longer too.

Reading that back it sounds a little cold but I promise it is not!

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I agree with Suzanne. As long as she is having 'quiet' time I think she's doing well. My mom had 5 kids. All of us had 'quiet time' in our rooms after lunch till we were five. I remember her telling us we didn't have to sleep, but we must be quiet and rest. She often told us to read a story to our stuffed animals. Mire often than not we'd fall asleep. We got our needed down time, and my Mom had some peace as well

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"Carolyn85" wrote:

I agree with Suzanne. As long as she is having 'quiet' time I think she's doing well. My mom had 5 kids. All of us had 'quiet time' in our rooms after lunch till we were five. I remember her telling us we didn't have to sleep, but we must be quiet and rest. She often told us to read a story to our stuffed animals. Mire often than not we'd fall asleep. We got our needed down time, and my Mom had some peace as well

I could not agree more. All three of mine sleep from 1-3:30 or 4, my son will be 5 next month! I'd lose my mind without at least a rest time in the afternoon. It could just be a phase and she may start napping again soon ~ but either way keep giving her, and YOU the downtime ~ you both need it! I'd let her stay in there as long as she is content, whether babbling or sleeping Smile

Marite13's picture
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Yep, I agree with everyone else... I wouldn't worry about whether or not she's actually sleeping as long as she's content. I wouldn't feel bad about leaving her in there as long as she's keeping herself quietly entertained.

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It's reassuring to hear you all say it's okay for her to be in her bed awake for an extended time. I start feeling guilty and wonder if I'm being neglectful by leaving her in there. I agree that she needs the quiet time, and so do I. I guess I will just continue doing things the same way and hope she continues to be content, even on her non-napping days!!!