Naptime woes

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smilesbaby1007's picture
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Naptime woes

Sorry that I have been absent for so long. Two kids and napping problems lead to not much computer time.

Gloria's sleep habits are horrible. We started CIO, which I hate doing, a week ago when I decided that her habits had got so bad that I would try it out. Before the crying it out I would nurse her to sleep. Although in last couple of weeks she would not nurse to sleep during naps or bedtime. I would then have to do a combo of pat while holding her down to get her to sleep. Naps would wind up taking almost 1 hr and 1/2 as 45 minutes of nursing and then 45 minutes of patting to get her down. Sometimes I would have her down in three minutes if she was really tired. But naps only lasted 30 minutes to an hour. At nighttime before, I would nurse her in a toddler bed and then when she did not go to sleep in 12 minutes my husband would pat her. He could get her to sleep within another 10 minutes. But she had frequent wakings and did not sttn. Also if she fell asleep in the car, she would only sleep for that time in the car. Bring her into the house would mean naptime was over.

Since crying it out at night, things have gotten better. She is sleeping longer and does cry for at least 15 minutes. For those who cio when did this get better? Do babies every not cry following this method when laid down? We did not have to do this with Wesley as he went to sleep awake and slept for 3 hours. I hate that she has to cry. She starts crying before we every get to her room or when we mention naps or nighty nighty. It breaks my heart. When she wakes up in the middle of the night, we just put her back in our bed to finish cosleeping. At our last doctor's appointment, we asked advice on her sleep habits and the doctor said it would only get better when I stopped nursing. I am not ready to wean yet.

I dread naptime. I have all this stress and wonder if she would even nap. When I was nursing her to sleep, I would have mommy guilt due to Wesley's watching a movie and being on his own for almost 1 1/2 hours. Now, she either cries for almost 2 hours and naps for 25 minutes in the middle of it. I have stopped trying to get to take her morning nap as she was just crying until it was lunchtime. She is tired when she goes down for nap. I try to do around 1:30 to 2 p.m. I also try to have active play before nap. She typically goes to bed at 7:30-8 p.m and sleeps until midnight or 2 am. and then comes to bed with us. Then she sleeps in my bed until 7:30 or whenever she hears her brother is up.

Anybody else have a horrible napper? Have you found anything that works? Any advice I would appreciate.

Kayla1981's picture
Joined: 01/04/07
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I really wish I had some advice to offer you. Jordan used to be a HORRIBLE sleeper. Things gradually got better but not b/c of anything we did, she just grew out of it to a certain extent. Things were going pretty well but lately she will nurse to sleep but wake when I lay her down and scream for me. I hate walking out on her but I really feel like I have no choice b/c she will not sleep if I pat her back. She will just keep picking her head up and looking at me. If I walk out then she will scream for a minute or two and then maybe fuss or cry a little for a couple of minutes. (At nap time it has lasted as long as ten minutes.) Sometimes she goes from screaming to silent though. I keep telling myself that I've met her needs as far as nursing and getting her to wind down but at some point she has to be able to sleep on her own. It goes against all of my instincts to walk out on her but I have found that when I give her an inch she will take a mile, kwim?

So I guess I am not much help other than saying I know it's hard and it sucks to hear them cry. Maybe going to one nap a day will help her get into a better routine? I know that is one thing that seemed to help. We switched to one nap around 10 months b/c she was fighting two naps so horribly.

Other than that, I just try to remember that no matter what phase we are going through, it will pass eventually. I hope someone has some advice for you though.

reeveslady's picture
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That all sounds horrible, Stacie Sad My guess is that if she's crying for 2 hours straight, then that time is not a good time for her to sleep. Maybe try to move her nap to directly after lunch time. Also, try calming down activities like reading a board book or giving her a nice massage with lavender lotion (lavender is really good at relaxing the nerves) instead of playtime before nap. If I try to make my kids tired by giving them rigorous play, it always backfires on me and winds them up even more. Does she have any toy or blankie or anything that gives her comfort? You could try giving her something to cuddle when it's nap time too.

I think some babies fight sleep so much because they have very active minds and are afraid they'll miss out on something if they go to bed. It's really hard to sleep if you can't turn your brain off. Hopefully, you'll be able to find something that soothes Gloria so she can get that much-needed rest.

Kayla1981's picture
Joined: 01/04/07
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Oh man, I think this thread jinxed me! Jordan has not napped for two days. It has been rough. Sad

Marite13's picture
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I don't have any advice. Many would still label Beni as a "bad sleeper" though what she does generally works for us. But she still nurses to sleep, and depending on where we are and how long we've been there (we've been moving around SO MUCH lately!)- it takes her a while to let me get up!

Good luck to you!!!

smilesbaby1007's picture
Joined: 03/30/07
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Thanks ladies! My husband and I on thursday decided I would only let her cry for under 20 minutes for naptimes and then do whatever needs to be done to get her to nap. I have been trying to move her to one nap. As for a lovey we have been trying everything. She seriously has been getting a stuff animal at everyplace we go. They all now live in her crib along a soft baby doll. We also use music to signify naptime.

I am sorry that Jordan did not nap for you. It is really hard on mama. If Gloria was my 1st child I would just go with the flow. But I hate being the mama who always promises to play board games with Wesley and then at naptime he is always disappointed. Talk about mommy guilt.