Sorry that I have been absent for so long. Two kids and napping problems lead to not much computer time.
Gloria's sleep habits are horrible. We started CIO, which I hate doing, a week ago when I decided that her habits had got so bad that I would try it out. Before the crying it out I would nurse her to sleep. Although in last couple of weeks she would not nurse to sleep during naps or bedtime. I would then have to do a combo of pat while holding her down to get her to sleep. Naps would wind up taking almost 1 hr and 1/2 as 45 minutes of nursing and then 45 minutes of patting to get her down. Sometimes I would have her down in three minutes if she was really tired. But naps only lasted 30 minutes to an hour. At nighttime before, I would nurse her in a toddler bed and then when she did not go to sleep in 12 minutes my husband would pat her. He could get her to sleep within another 10 minutes. But she had frequent wakings and did not sttn. Also if she fell asleep in the car, she would only sleep for that time in the car. Bring her into the house would mean naptime was over.
Since crying it out at night, things have gotten better. She is sleeping longer and does cry for at least 15 minutes. For those who cio when did this get better? Do babies every not cry following this method when laid down? We did not have to do this with Wesley as he went to sleep awake and slept for 3 hours. I hate that she has to cry. She starts crying before we every get to her room or when we mention naps or nighty nighty. It breaks my heart. When she wakes up in the middle of the night, we just put her back in our bed to finish cosleeping. At our last doctor's appointment, we asked advice on her sleep habits and the doctor said it would only get better when I stopped nursing. I am not ready to wean yet.
I dread naptime. I have all this stress and wonder if she would even nap. When I was nursing her to sleep, I would have mommy guilt due to Wesley's watching a movie and being on his own for almost 1 1/2 hours. Now, she either cries for almost 2 hours and naps for 25 minutes in the middle of it. I have stopped trying to get to take her morning nap as she was just crying until it was lunchtime. She is tired when she goes down for nap. I try to do around 1:30 to 2 p.m. I also try to have active play before nap. She typically goes to bed at 7:30-8 p.m and sleeps until midnight or 2 am. and then comes to bed with us. Then she sleeps in my bed until 7:30 or whenever she hears her brother is up.
Anybody else have a horrible napper? Have you found anything that works? Any advice I would appreciate.