Not talking...

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Not talking...

Luke says "hi" "bye" and "hot".... the same words he said 12 months ago. He hasn't added any new ones. He babbles in his crib and I've heard him make other sounds like "mumma" and "dah-da!" He is definitely not lacking comprehension. He follows directions very well. He understands everything we say. He knows all the pictures in his picture books if you ask him to point to things. The funny thing is he is really good at following commands but he won't follow a command to talk. I can ask him to "stand on one foot" "give me a high five" etc etc, but if I ask him to "say hot" or "say hi" he won't do it. He isn't behind with anything else emotionally or motor skill wise. He doesn't have any behavior issues. He is extremely friendly and social with grownups and other kids, so no troubles there either.

We probably won't have insurance until the fall so taking him to a specialist won't work right now. We read tons of books. Looking at books is one of his favorite things. Other than lots of playing and reading is there something else I should be doing? We have alphabet and number flashcards... He has no trouble pointing to things, but he just won't say it!

alisharae's picture
Joined: 01/28/12
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What about calling your local Early Intervention? Here in North Dakota, it's coordinated through Head Start and the local school district. My almost three year old (Matthew) was just like Luke is at that age. He understood everything we told him, but he just wasn't talking. They do a hearing test as part of Early Intervention and it turns out he had fluid in his ears that wouldn't clear. When it finally cleared out, he had a total language explosion. Early Intervention is free too, usually. If nothing else, maybe the screening would give you peace of mind. It's worth the phone call. Matthew has a lady who comes to work with him every other week, and it has been the best thing we've ever done for him. He loves Bethany, and we're all sad that he's turning three in a month and will age out of the program. He's caught completely up and won't need any more services though.

julieanddanny's picture
Joined: 03/06/03
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Hi Carolyn!

My son was very similar. Not speaking much at all at age 2. We are referred for an assessment with Child Dev Services which is funded in our state through the Dept of Education. The assessment was free and then any services they recommended were free and continued as long as needed until school age when any services were transferred to the school. At his first assessment he did not qualify for services. He was still young and like Luke, he was very much communicating in other ways and understood language with out any problems. They suggested re-assement later (about 6 months) and at that time he did qualify for speech therapy. He only went for about 3 months and had a vocabulary boom at the same time (right as he was turning 3).

My point - check if there is a program in your state and take advatage of it! Wink

reeveslady's picture
Joined: 11/23/05
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Sounds like great advice has been given Smile I'm so glad that those kinds of interventions exist. I just wanted to send hugs and to say that Luke sounds like a real smartie to me if he's able to follow instructions and identify things. Oh, and that reading that you guys are doing--that's the best thing you can do to build language skills. Keep up the good work Biggrin

mist1006's picture
Joined: 01/10/07
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Ben is doing the same thing. Turns out he has fluid in his ears and they're going to do tubes (and tonsils, and adenoids, and clip his tongue). Like they said, I'd call your local school district and see what they say.

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Joined: 11/23/07
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I'd also recommend calling Early Intervention. It's state funded and free to you. Here it's separate from our school system. EI is only available until their third birthday. In Florida, if they still need help once they turn 3 they go into the school system's ESE pre-school program.

My DS1 got speech therapy through EI and then went into the ESE pre-school program. It's been great for him. His teacher is both a teacher and a certified speech therapist. Nathan was just tested to see where is before starting kindergarden and his speech is completely caught up to where it should be. Honestly he might have gotten to the same point without speech therapy, but both my DH and I really do think the speech therapy, especially the ESE pre-school class, has helped a great deal.

Joined: 10/17/09
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Another vote for looking into Early Intervention! That's how Lucas receives all of his services. We obviously qualified because he's deaf, but we still had to go through the evaluation first. It was really easy, and free like others said! I was able to choose who I wanted to be Lucas providers for speech and sign, and they pay for it. I'm sure they also have a list of people available if you don't already have a preference.

All of my "tips" are from helping a deaf child learn to listen and speak, so I'm not sure how helpful it would be to you, since Luke has no problem understanding! One thing I do with Lucas is withhold what he wants until he says it. For example, if I'm about to give him a bagel I'll hold it up and say "I want a bagel, please" and wait for him to say it back to me. If he doesn't, then I'll say it into my finger (like a microphone) and then point my finger at his mouth, encouraging him that it's his turn to speak. Works 95% of the time now. It's really just modeling for him what I want him to say. This started in smaller steps though. Like picking up an airplane and holding it up to my mouth and saying "airplane" and then holding it up to him and saying "say airplane" and giving it to him after he said it (or at least attempted to). In the beginning, it didn't matter WHAT he said, as long as he verbalized his request. Now we try to get it a little more accurate. Like I said, this is my experience on helping a DEAF kid learn to talk, so I have no idea how well it will work with a hearing child! haha!! Just figured I'd throw it out there!

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Joined: 05/09/07
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For Jake's two year appointment I had to fill out the ASQ-3 questionnaire, which has a section for communication. I found there were many more questions regarding how much the child understands (as in, following directions, correctly identifying things in books, communicating needs, etc) than in a certain "number" of words the child can speak. The doctor did say that they start to look for 2 year-olds to be able to put two words together. Jake JUST started to have a language explosion in the last two weeks--it's AMAZING how fast they just start repeating everything you say.

Anyway, Luke sounds perfectly normal IMO. EI is a great, free service though if you just want some peace of mind. I wouldn't worry too much!