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Pop in and Chat a While (Chat Thread #5)!

Let's go for another round of chatting, fun, and keeping in touch!!!

Love you ladies!!!

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It's past midnight by me, so im in bed curled up next to Beni... But I just needed to tell you girls I hired my home birth midwife tonight!!!!! I've been trying to get a hold of her since before Thanksgiving, so I'm super glad I finally did!!! She sounds lovely, and I'm just relieved to be on her books (she fills up quickly sometimes).

Forgive any typos. I'm on my iPod.

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Yay!! That's awesome Mara. I bet it's really starting to feel real now. You're gonna do great!

This is my hardest time of day right now when my head seems to spin endlessly and my lunch just doesn't sit well. I know I'll feel like crap for at least another hour. It makes me feel depressed. I'm trying to focus on the lunch I had with a really great woman leader here at the university and strategizing how I'll followup with the suggestions she made for me. It's just hard to concentrate when I feel like this.

DH scheduled us to go out to dinner with some friends tonight. I know he did it to try to make me feel better. But I feel so self conscious during meal times these days since I am not feeling great about eating. I don't want to go. I am hoping it'll take my mind off things though. Maybe I'll even be able to enjoy dinner? Probably not but at least I'll enjoy the company.

Poo. I hate feeling bad.

Golly I'm a downer these days, sorry ladies. I said I wouldn't do that anymore. So now I'm a liar too [insert whiny sound here]. I need a laugh - BAD JOKE TIME!!!!

◦What's the difference between bird flu and swine flu?
◦If you have bird flu, you need tweetment. If you have swine flu, you need oink-ment.

hahahahahahahahahaha, ah, that felt pretty d@mn good.

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Haha good one Christina!

Tara my email is [email]aimeesueltenfuss@gmail.com[/email]

Mara- did you see nomorerack??? I want to get an Insanity deal lol

Well aves was sent home with a fever today.. pretty sure they were "fever fishing"... she was fine this morning.. had an awesome day and night last night.. DH got her home and her fever was gone with no meds... she slept and then ate awesome so I don't know. I feel bad because I have a scrimmage and had to stay but DH went home and then FIL came and he is there with her. I can go home to relieve him until DH gets home because we are not leaving for my scrimmage for a bit. Just annoying that she can be fine but sick... grrrr

ok day is over!

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Aimee- I have sent you an invite through Pinterst. Hope it works without having to wait Smile Pinterst is so darn addicting and make me want to spend lots of money! Ahhhh That is a bummer about Avery! Is she teething now?

Mara-- You look so stinkin cute. I am soooo ready to be preggo! Ahhhhh, maybe soon! YAY for booking your midwife! I can't wait to hear about your birth story!

Christina--a night out with Friends sounds nice. It might be a nice distratcion. Like how does your food not sit right? When I had my gallbladder issues it would always be way worse after I ate(like an intense burning. Kind of like I need to eat but eating didn't make it better) & it made my blood pressure spike too.....just a thought.

DH got the Job! Yay! He is sooo excited! It is no pay difference but it is giving him experience in something different. So far in his professional carreer he has been doing the same type of job. This could lead to great opportunity. Plus his current boss is a younger hoochie (cheating with a coworker with a family!) on a power trip, that very much favors the females in the department over males (and has been accused of this before DH started there!) ! I am very happy that he is getting a new boss Smile

Keegan is working on his eye teeth. These are always the worst ones for my kids. He is has been super wakeful at night, which he usually isn't. Hope they come in sooooooooon!

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Hey girls! Sorry I've gone missing again. It's been hectic around here, trying to get everything ready.

Christina, please don't feel bad/ashamed to vent to us. We truly are all here to listen. Huge, huge hugs. I totally remember the pee pee incident and thinking it's something that could have happened to me, since I'm a klutz like that Lol Your DH is really sweet, too bad his intentions don't mesh too well with how you're feeling. I hope that something on the menu looks appetizing and feels better to you too.

Mara, you are absolutely adorable. I love little baby bellies. Boo about the pay cut, but yay for an upcoming raise. The end of March is only 3 months away! How nice to be near close family again. Heee hee hee about the cereal addiction. I used to go through boxes of it when I was expecting Sean. Honey nut cheerios prevented me from barfing through my evening classes (I was in the process of getting my master's back then).

Tara, those ornaments sound so nice. Since we're going away, we decided not to decorate this year Sad I helped to decorate our office suite at work, so that helps out a little bit.

Carolyn, mmmmmmmmm, yogurt is so good and good for you. Actually, I was eating it every night and losing weight, but I somehow got off the wagon and am now at a bit of a standstill. I guess I just need that extra bit of calcium each evening. You don't need to be embarrassed about not breaking your water. I'm sure they have lots of ladies who come in daily with the same thing.

Aimee, poor Avery! She and Eve are always sick. It makes me mad that there's not much we can do to help our babies to not get these stupid viruses all the time.

Marie, I have the same hormonal problem. Or something seriously similar. No one needs to be around me before my period because every gosh darn thing gets on my nerves. The wind will blow and I'll start crying or fuming. My doctor offered Prozac on several occasions. I've just been afraid to take it while breastfeeding.

I hope I didn't miss anyone! Anyway, DH found out about my pretzel plan and put the kibosh on it. Well, he told me I could do it when we get back. He's right. I would have had to stay up until some insane time last night to get through all the ones I wanted to do. When I found out Target was selling mint M & Ms, I bought a whole bunch of bags of them, so that's what I ended up giving everybody. I'll make the pretzels for the New Year instead. Well, melting chocolate and dipping already made ones in it, hee hee. I decided to go with bittersweet chocolate, so a cross between really dark and milk. My DH also got offered a promotion. So much good news going around about that (my thoughts are with your DH too Tara!). They're starting a new branch in the department where he's working, and I think he'll be a major decision-maker over our university's web-presence. It takes forever to actually get a job here though, because first they have to open the position to everyone, then no matter who you are (even if the job has been 100% promised to you or created especially for you) you have to get an interview with HR then an interview with your department. The interviews aren't so bad, but the opening it up to everyone is, because there are always some people who think they have an honest shot at getting the job, and they may be more than qualified, but they aren't going to get the position. They have to do it that way because it's "the rules." Also speaking of my DH, his office mates are having their annual party tonight, moved up especially for us since we're leaving on Sunday. The party should be nice. DH's boss, who is hosting, is a major foodie (i.e., she takes 2 week vacations to Europe to take authentic cooking classes there), so the food is going to be great. Please send good vibes for us for our flights on Sunday. We're so going to need them. Actually, we'll be OK, please pray (send good vibes, whatever Smile ) for our fellow passengers, that they have patience and don't get overwhelmed by our kids. I don't know if we'll have internet access over there, but if I do, I'll definitely drop by to share pics or IL frustrations or whatever Biggrin Oh, and since you haven't had a Wyatt update in a while, he's into the second round of immunotherapy and needs some good vibes. He's still doing well, but he's getting some side effects that aren't cool (racing heartbeat, swelling, rashes, diarrhea, vomiting, fever up to 104). He just finished a course of one of the drugs that is causing some of the worse stuff, so he's expected to get a bit better soon. Here is his CaringBridge journal in case you'd like to follow him.

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OK, it took me forever to write that post. Yay Tara's DH for getting the job Biggrin Looks like there's a winning streak on the board right now.

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I wonder what the longest running ever chat thread is for preg.org. Our 5th thread is pretty good!

Aimee: Poor Avery Sad at least she seems fine now! Maybe they have a bad thermometer!

Suzanne: Thanks for the Wyatt update! I hope he is feeling better by Christmas. Good luck on Sunday!!!! I hope you get a good night's sleep tonight and tomorrow to get ready for it. Hope all the kids are reasonable and no flight delays!!! How long will you be gone for? I hope you can update us from India Smile

Christina: I hope your dinner with DH and friends is nice. I understand though having to go out when you don't want to and having to wear a happy face.

Tara: I'm so glad your DH got the job. I hope he is happier there... at least he will have a better boss!!!!

Mara: your belly is so cute Smile :) Smile That is so exciting that you were able to contact that midwife and get on the books. I'm excited for your home birth. Are you able to see a midwife in Laos or are you with OB's?

I packed Luke for my mom's house. I just have a funny feeling about this weekend... although I'm probably wrong. Only 9 days till I'm 40+6 and that's when I had Luke, so I'm sure it will be by then. You really do get to a point when it just doesn't seem like it is ever going to end and you stop caring since he's never getting born anyway lol. I can't wait to be able to say "I'm NOT pregnant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

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Aw, Christina, I hope you had an ok time at dinner tonight- or are still having. Sad Suck.

Aimee, I did have a quick look. You know, I really like to shop in person. I mean, I'll buy stuff on Amazon, but, I really like to walk stores. Good deals are cool... but usually I hate to pass up the actual shopping experience. I know, I'm weird. Sorry Aves got sent home- hope it does turn out to be nothing!

So this morning for breakfast I'm having a cereal called Quaker Honey Graham Oh's with a sliced up banana. The bad news is that I think I'm staring to have an issue with all this milk again. You know, I'm usually pretty intolerant of dairy, but in early pregnancy I seem to get over it for a while- I did with Beni too. But the last couple of days, I've only been able to eat cereal once a day because of the milk. I so wish I could get rice or oat milk here! I can get soy, but, that hasn't been sitting too well with me lately either. So I guess we'll have to see how long my cereal kick continues.

Tara- Congrats to your husband! Yay! I can't wait to hear my own birth story. Smile Ha ha! I think it's going to be so different in such a good way (for me). I'm really excited! I seriously couldn't sleep last night after all that happened. Smile

Suzanne- Congrats to your husband too! And good luck for the flight. I'm sure your kids won't be the only ones on the flight, and I'm sure you'll all do fine. Smile

Carolyn, I know Beni's labor starting caught me totally off guard. I mean, I did go early (started on 39+1, and she was born 39+2), but, I had no guess that it would happen when it did. Hopefully, Nick's labor will be a pleasant surprise for you soon one day! Smile In Laos I just see two GPs- one of them is a woman who specializes in women and children, but the guy (who I have seen more of, because the hours he works are the hours it's easiest for me to go to the clinic) is only ok. Really, it's been kind of bare minimum care. Not a bad thing, but, certainly no long drawn out appts, and he only looked for the HB that once when I asked him to. Oh well. I have to go back in next week for an appt before we leave for the holidays and I think I will try to go when the lady doc is working. She's just nicer. Smile

Oh, and thanks to everyone for saying I look cute. I don't feel cute, mostly because I am carrying so much extra around my back- it feels like my "belly" goes all the way around. Ick. I'm trying to decide what to do in Bali and Thailand... Like, we're going to be on the beach for almost 3 weeks, and my maternity suit is in the States (and I don't think I'd be big enough to fill it out anyway). I am in no position to wear a bikini... I have a couple tankinis that I suppose I will have to go with. I just don't want to be the fat girl on the beach wearing the totally inappropriate bathing suit. I don't know. I guess I'll have to try some on this week, and see what looks best.

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We're on chat thread 43 post 111 on the april 08 board Blum 3 This thread has a lot of catching up to do Blum 3

Carolyn I keep checking here to see if you're in labor! You sound good for being so pg. I had Belle at 37+3, nearly had her 800 miles from home and flew home in labor.. Ben was 38 weeks. Here's hoping Nick shows soon!

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Alright chatty ladies... I need your honest, honest opinions... can I pull these off? I decided to go try on my bathing suits this morning while Beni was napping. I'm thinking the all black will me my go-to, because even though it's just a J Crew suit, because I'm pregnant, it almost looks like a pregnancy suit...and is just a little more flattering. The other one is ok... but, I think I just look fatter in it. What do you think?

Oh, and just cause I have to share... This is the last time I wore that second bathing suit top... when I was in labor with Beni... it wouldn't even fit over my belly. Smile

I know that last pic is very dark, but when I tilt my screen the right way I can see it... Not so much on my iPod.

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I like the one on the right! the one you wore when you had Beni. I actually think its more flattering, maybe because its less fabric? I would save the j.crew one for when you're a little bigger Smile You look really cute!

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Well, I won't need it when I'm bigger... we're only going to be on the beach over the holidays. But also, because it isn't a maternity swimsuit, it wouldn't fit properly over a bigger belly. I'm more comfortable in the all black. But you say the other one looks better. Now I'm stuck. I need more opinions!

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Just revisting this Smile I still like the second one better lol. Too bad this place is quiet on weekends!

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"Carolyn85" wrote:

Just revisting this Smile I still like the second one better lol. Too bad this place is quiet on weekends!

Yeah, well, we don't leave until next Saturday, so I have time to collect answers. Smile And at this point, I plan on bringing them both... but it would be good to know which one I look better in- and by better I mean, more obviously pregnant, less fat.

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Is your DH helpful with things like this? If you are more comfortable in the first suit that is probably the most important thing Smile

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I like the all black one Mara... I am weird like I hate when people try to pull non-maternity stuff off as maternity and really I get this from teaching at this school where by senior year we had tons of girls pregnant and they would wear like Abercrombie and American Eagle as maternity stuff and it got to me. I think the all black one looks like a cute early pregnancy bathing suit where the other one to me looks like you are squeezing into a non-maternity one ... kwim?

Oh and on the nomorerack thing I just want to get an insanity deal. An IPad for $40... can't pass that up lol!

Ave's fever came back last night in the middle of the night but has not been anything all morning so we are hoping it stays that way... although the virus she had right before thanksgiving was the same way.. fever, then gone and then bam long few days of sickness!

Ok back to cleaning... I just devoured peppermint stick ice cream that I finally got.. One more day of feeling bad for myself and letting myself eat crap and stuff... then getting in shape again and feeling better!

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Mara, I don't see you as fat in either one, just pg. I do like the second one better.

So I went to pick up Ben from the daycare yesterday and he was asleep in one of the girls laps. He naped.twice for a total of.5 hrs. He didn't eat and drank very little. He had.shivers off and on but no fever, and his feet would get a little blue sometimes.. Called the ped, and never got acall back. Have him some tylenol and he ate a bit. This morning he ran 101.6 but acted ok... More tylenol, and now that its worn off no fever. My intuition is his ears didn't really clear last week. I really think were headed for tubes. Well see how he is post nap.

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Aimee: you just pretty much described my maternity style lol, except I don't wear designer stuff. I do much better just wearing normal clothes a size or two bigger. How's Avery today? Hope that fever leaves and she doesn't get any new symptoms.

Kerri: Aww poor Ben! I hope he perks up after his nap!

As for me... I feel fine! I have absolutely no appetite today. Weird for me. Maybe its a sign Smile

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Mara---they both are very cute, it I had to choose I would also pick the second one!

Kerri-- Poor Ben. For a long time DD2's feet would turn very blue/purple when she would have some sort of illness. They very first time it scared the crap out of me and she eded up having a UTI. Then, everytime she got sick for probably a year the same thing would happen. Her dr assured me it had to deal with the way her body delt. Still think that is weird though.

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Thanks ladies. I guess it's good that so many of you are voting for the second one, because I feel better in the 1st, but that means I can wear both. Smile

And no, my DH would be no help at all in a situation like this. He would only be able to say he thinks I look great in both, and that would be the end of it. Smile

I hope Ave's fever doesn't lead to anything else!

Poor Ben! That is weird and scary about the blue feet though. I hope he's ok!

Tara, your new siggy pic is ADORBS! Smile You make some cute kids. I fully support you having another. Smile

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Ben woke up good to go. He had no fever, ate his dinner, and played like crazy. I guess I was wrong about his ears because they wouldn't have cleared this quickly. He seems fine ok this morning and we have dhs christmas party today. They buy presents for all the kids so I'm exited to seems what comes outta that.

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It was coooooooold here today! It barely got above 20 degrees. I like Sundays. We went to Mass this morning in Harrisburg and saw my family and we all went to Panera Bread. I shared a cherry cheese danish with Luke, it was so good!! Came home, did some laundry. I made a new batch of detergent yesterday, took a nap and an awesome shower while DH watched Luke.

Tomorrow is my due date!! I'm SURE he will be here by next Sunday. Luke was 6 days late, I can't imagine a 2nd baby being later than the first baby... but I guess stranger things have happened. The only stressful part now is we no longer have a baby sitter for Luke. DH will be dropping me off at the hospital then driving two hours to meet my mom with Luke and then racing back to the hospital! I better stop hoping for a quick delivery or DH will miss it.

tara: glad Ben had such a restorative nap!!

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Carolyn--mind sharing your detergent recipe? I have made some before but wasn't sold on it and went back to my faithful Tide!

Great weeking full of Christmas shopping and being with family. Both things I love!

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So Aves has been off and on low fever all weekend and I am thinking maybe it is her 2 year molars... She has been AWESOME.. no sign of sickness in any way so that is why I am leaning towards teeth.

I really need my vacation to get here... I just feel like I need more than 2 days to clean and stuff and the tough part is with the holidays we have stuff all weekend. Today we went to Jordan's Furniture that does an old enchanted village set up. It was fun but Aves didn't really get much from it.

Ok off to start that paper that I have been saying I was starting for days now lol.. yeah kill me.. just gotta get it done! Easy week this week though because I show the movie Outbreak to my sophomores while we are doing viruses Smile

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Carolyn, Sounds like you had a lovely day! OOOh... this could certainly be your week! My SIL though... gave birth to her first at 38 weeks, and her second at 42. Can you imagine? She was pregnant a WHOLE MONTH longer with her second! At least you know that won't happen to you! Smile

Aimee, hope it is just the teeth for Aves! Good luck on that paper!

Last night DH kind of got into me again about money... and just when I thought things were looking up (what with all the good news about next year). He's really passive aggressive about this stuff sometimes... like, he said it was fine to hire the doula again for this birth- but then last night he wouldn't stop going on about how we have to transfer money to the US again (most of our money is in his account in Oz, because of course, he is the one being paid- so when we need to pay for stuff in the States, we have to transfer money to my account in the States).

Then after DH got into me, he left me to get Beni down to sleep, and she was being impossible as well. Wouldn't nurse nicely (kept biting), then she wouldn't stay in bed, wouldn't lay down, just wouldn't do anything. I ended up sitting in bed crying because I was angry at him and angry at her and angry at myself (because clearly I suck!?!?). Sigh. It was not a good night.

The only good thing is that I have my next LLL training call tonight, and I actually managed to get my reading and a homework exercise done yesterday. I procrastinated it until the last minute, but I got it done. So yay for that at least!

Hey... everyone thinking good thoughts for Suzanne?!?! She's on a plane with three kids traveling halfway across the world! Smile Hope it's a good flight, Suzanne!

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Tara - congrats to your DH!!!!

Mara - I think you look adorable in both but I think I like the all black one best.

Our dinner Friday was nice but, once again, I felt like crap after eating about half my salad. Whatever, it was still nice and I had a great beer with my 1/2 salad.

I felt just awful on Saturday but we pushed through and got a bunch of errands done. Sunday I felt a lot better and we finished our Christmas shopping!!! Yay - done, finished, complete!!!!! Feels good.

I feel pretty good today and my pg was down to a more normal range yesterday. I'm taking that as a sign that I'm beginning to get used to all this. But I will keep my eye on any gallbladder signs too, that was a good suggestion.

Hope you ladies had a great weekend. I was sort of expecting to miss Carolyn's l&d but it seems like you're still hanging in there!!!

Took forever for this site to get up this morning to a place where I could actually use it, I was going nuts Smile

Anyway, I'll try to check in later but I have a packed day at work.

Oh, and my MBA orientation is tonight - I'm a bit nervous!!! It'll be hard not seeing Mason before he goes to bed. But I guess I'll have to get used to that a couple of times a week anyway Sad

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Well here we are another lovely Monday! UGH

Mara Sorry you and DH keep havign the same arguments just when you think it is going good. That to me is one of the worst issues when you think it is settled and then it keeps rearing its ugly head!

So Aves is back at school today and she really has been great. I am waiting for a phone call just because it is so weird that it was high Friday and then fine all weekend. She was cranky this morning because she slept so late this weekend and then we woke her up this morning. Just like her father lol

So here I sit working on my paper once again grrr... I am free right now for 2 hours so I am hoping that I get a lot accomplished (I wrote one page before allowing myself to come on here lol) This is my last real assignment for this class so I just NEED to finish it!

Ok so need some advice.. we are having major stress related to Christmas... we always do both xmas eve and xmas day with his family which is ok since really I haven one left. Well xmas eve is with FIL's family... iti s a night we really all can't stand due to one uncle that is just a nasty person and his kids have taken over that.. well both his daughters had kids out of wedlock and got married after. When we were struggling for Aves it got nasty one night with words about how his daughters gave their grandmother the first great-grandchild so they were better yadda yadda... well this same side of the family (different uncle) has a daughter that just announced she was pregnant (23 not married and only been with the guy 4 months) and here I am suffering the miscarriage and just not wanting to be around these people. Issue is that his grandmother is still alive and we can't start a new tradition until she passes away is kind of what we have been told. Well we really do not want to go but also do not want to upset FIL or grandmother... is it worth being uncomfortable and miserable??? we asked the undle that ish osting to do early so it is better with young kids and he refused so it is still late at night and they have a new puppy that they are havign out which I know is ok for some people but I freak about kids and dogs since when I was babysitting as a teen a "freandly" family dog bit the little girl I was babysitting for trying to give it a kiss and this led to plastic surgery... I just am so torn and don't know what to do

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Oh Aimee, I'm so sorry you have this to look forward to Sad

I'm not big on fibbing but really, in your situation, I would be feeling a serious stomach bug coming on. Sorry but your health and sanity right now is more important than pleasing some idiot who can't say a nice word about anybody but himself. Don't go.

Please believe me that is a hard thing for me to say. I'm the peacemaker in my family and I've always bent over backwards with no reward. But lately I've begun to think of myself first when it comes to stressful family situations and I've begun to do what is best for me, my family and my health. I'm a much happier person for it, too. It's not that I diss anyone or anything, I always try to be as mindful as I can but when it comes to a cross-roads for decision making instead of asking what would be better for everyone else I ask what's better for my family. GL with whatever your decision, just make peace with whatever your choice is.

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Just wanted to pop in and say Happy Due Date to you Carolyn! Hope that little guy comes real soon!

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"carg0612" wrote:

Oh Aimee, I'm so sorry you have this to look forward to Sad

I'm not big on fibbing but really, in your situation, I would be feeling a serious stomach bug coming on. Sorry but your health and sanity right now is more important than pleasing some idiot who can't say a nice word about anybody but himself. Don't go.

Please believe me that is a hard thing for me to say. I'm the peacemaker in my family and I've always bent over backwards with no reward. But lately I've begun to think of myself first when it comes to stressful family situations and I've begun to do what is best for me, my family and my health. I'm a much happier person for it, too. It's not that I diss anyone or anything, I always try to be as mindful as I can but when it comes to a cross-roads for decision making instead of asking what would be better for everyone else I ask what's better for my family. GL with whatever your decision, just make peace with whatever your choice is.

I completely agree with Christina! It really stinks that family can put a damper on the holidays! It is happening on DH's side of the family too! Sooooo frustrating! What does DH say about it? I'm sorry you have to deal with all of this! Sad

Mara-- Sorry you had a rough evening. Sometimes a good cry really does help!

Christina--good luck with you orientation tonight! Yay!

I am having a heck of a time getting used to the new board display!

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Thanks ladies... I think we are leaning towards not going and DH was watching the news and there was a whole thing on how the stress of pleasing others at the holiday is not worth it so not to be aroudn family that upsets you etc. He is on board with me but we just hate to upset his dad because he is good to us and it is not his fault his family is awful!

Christina how was orientation? I skipped class for my scrimmage.

gotta run an errand be back soon

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Man I hate change. I dont like the new board lol. Of course by next week I won't even remember what the old board looked like!

Aimee: I wouldnt go! sounds awkward and uncomfortable all around. I grew up with dogs, but I have to agree, I am nervous when dogs come up to Luke! You just never know. I would definitely skip class for scrimmage too lol.

Mara: sorry about your frustrating night with DH and Beni. It's so much worse when you're pregnant. I always jump to the "I must suck" conclusion too.

Christina: I'm glad your BP seems to be trending down!! How's your caffeine intake? Seems like youve been really trying to make some changes. Don't chalk it all up to the medicine, YOU are making changes too Smile

Tara, here's my detergent recipe. It works great for us. Although I will say we don't have tremendously dirty clothes. Luke isn't exactly out getting covered in mud and grass stains yet lol. I imagine though you could still use the homemade detergent and throw in one of those Tide Power Boost stain remover packets if you have a really bad load. You'd still be saving money!

All the ingredients I ordered online through amazon. Ive seen them at walmart though. The sodium triphosphate (TSP) is probably the most important ingredient, its a degreaser. You can buy it at Lowe's or Home Depot. I also add a teaspoon of TSP to my dishwasher, it made a HUGE difference. My dishes never have residue on them anymore.

2 Cups - hot tap water
1/2 Fels-Naptha soap bar
1/2 Cup - Arm & Hammer Super Washing Soda (dont substitute with regular baking soda)
1/4 Cup Borax

Grate or chop soap into the 2 cups of water over medium-low heat until soap dissolves and is melted. ( i felt like i was ruining my cheese grater, so I just chop it into chunks and stir till melted)

-Mix melted soap mixture with 1 and 1/4 gallons of hot tap water. Add washing soda and Borax. Stir well until all powder is dissolved. Add another 1 1/4 gallons of hot water for 2.5 gallons total. Let sit overnight to gel. Line up your soap containers. Fill 50/50 with detergent and water.

Mine is never very thick once I dilute it that final time, but it doesn't seem to make a difference

I use 1/2 cup per load plus 1 tsp of TSP.

using 1/2 a cup per load, this makes 80 loads! and costs about 7 dollars Smile

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Aimee - can you arrange a separate time to see his dad? That way maybe you really can make yourself and someone else happy too. I'm glad to hear you're leaning towards not going, I think it's the least stressful option.

Orientation is tonight, I'm a bit nervous and so soooooooo sad that I won't see Mason before he goes to bed. But I guess I'll have to get used to that anyway (2 times a week through May). I will have about an hour between when I finish up my work day and orientation. I have my laptop and some make-up to refresh myself so I don't look zombie-ish Smile

Carolyn - how ya feeling??? Any contrax today??? I'm still shooting for Thursday. Hang in there, momma, you're almost done!!!

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Christina: aww I hate when I dont get to see Luke before bed!! I have definitely gone in and picked him up to rock him at night for no reason other than missing him. Good luck with orientation tonight!!! Did you get new makeup? I LOVE new makeup lol

I actually woke up at 5am with really strong contractions from my back. They lasted a good 45 seconds with about a minute between them. But after about 5 of them it completely stopped. Bummer!!! I feel normal now. Just kinda have a belly ache from eating too much before bed last night lol.

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Christina we will see his dad on Christmas day but it is his family we are avoiding that night and his mother which I know she will be upset and lay it on him like she always does. A co-worker here suggested we go from 5:30 to like 7 and then just say we are leaving ot keep Avery on a schedule. But at the same time I don't feel that is worth it since we probably won't eat or do gifts until after 7.

Christina - I know how hard it is to miss bedtimes and stuff but I keep telling myself it is for the betterment of the family in the end. Classes are worth it when it means more money and better future for the fam! Always here to talk about it if you need to vent since it is the way my life is too!

Well I am on page 7 of my paper.. goal is 10 pages so hopefully I get that done today!

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Woo hoo paper is done! 10.5 pages... it is a lot of crap but whatever it is done. I hate handing in stuff I am not totally proud of but this professor didn't make it clear and so things did not come together well.

Now one more discussion until this class is OVER!

Now off to basketball practice... I need a nap lol

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why do mothers in law think it is "helpful" to move in after a new grandchild is born??????????????? urgh. Why don't they realize we might actually want FAMILY TIME... ALONE... WITH OUR NEW CHILD. Yes, you might want to bond with the new baby too, but he is OUR BABY and we probably want to bond even more than you do. So wait your turn... at your OWN house!

That sounded a lot meaner than I intended. I realize she just doesn't want to miss out. I can understand she is lonely. But what I don't understand is why people think it is okay to just invite yourself over for half a week when someone is trying to recover from childbirth. I also don't understand why mother in laws expect to have the same mother/daughter relationship that blood relatives have. I'm not trying to hurt her feelings... which is why we are letting her stay. Oi!!! Off to clean the room she will be staying in...

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Bah... I can't stop crying... just got the news that my best friend's FIL died. He'd been battling cancer for a few years already, and had been at home with hospice care for about a month now I think.... but, obviously, for as much as you know it's coming, it's still not easy. He was a really great man, and I know part of what makes it SO hard for my (also pregnant- thank goodness her sister is there telling her to rest and eat) best friend, is that he was her kid's only grandpa, but also, her daughter's absolutely favorite person. The loss sucks no matter what way you look at it... but, I know she feels even great pain over her daughter's pain, you know? Sad Just all sucks.

Makes my problems seem trivial again... what with Beni not sleeping (another screaming fit in the middle of the night when I wouldn't let her continue to nurse on my practically raw nipples), and DH and I fighting... but it's all working together to bring me down. Sad Just not feeling it.

Carolyn, sorry your contractions petered out. They'll start you again soon, I'm sure!

Aimee, way to go on getting the paper done!

Christina, I hope orientation is going/went well! Smile

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Aimee - congrats on getting that paper done!!!! Thanks for the supportive words about school. I know it's for the best I do it's just hard to miss some good stuff.

Carolyn - sorry about MIL and sorry the contrax were a bust. I'm still betting on tomorrow. Can't wait to see a pic of that little boy!!!

Orientation was insanely long and utterly useless. But it's over. Got my little name plate and my little portfolio folder - I feel so official. Didn't get home until 9:45 but I guess I'd better get used to that.

I got my first few reading assignments for my Operations Management class and for my Technology Strategy & Innovation Management class (one core class and one elective). It's going to be a lot of work. But I'm hoping to pace myself. There will be group work in both classes but not for every assignment. And the fun begins!

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Oh, Carolyn! Sorry about the MIL! I'm so lucky in that sense, that my ILs live half way across the world! I like my ILs, but, I wouldn't want them in the house during my babymoon either. My mom, yes, I want her there like every day... but not my ILs. No changing her plans?

Christina, sorry orientation was a waste of time, but, at least it's behind you now, and you've officially started! That is exciting!

I just made a donation to Habitat for Humanity in my BFF's FIL's name. He worked with them for a lot of years, and so that is where they are asking for donations to go to. I so wish I could be there to do more- help in more constructive ways- but, I'm happy to help build a house in his memory. That's pretty cool.

We did Christmas tonight with my BIL/SIL. It was fun. Just a nice relaxing evening, and the kids got to open lots of presents. Beni really liked her stroller. I think she'll be more excited about it when she can play outside with it though. Smile She also REALLY liked the toys that her cousin got... she kept taking everything away from him. Sigh. She's going to grow out of this, right?? Wink

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My MIL is tough! She has borderline personality disorder,, and not a mild case lol. She has been in therapy for a long time. What makes it so hard is so takes things EXTREMELY personally and tends to see most things as a crisis. We told her Luke was going to my mom's when Nick is born. My mom lives 2 hours away, all DH's family is 4.5 hours away. there is absolutely no way we can wait 4.5 hours for her to get here to be with Luke when I go into labor. She texted me the other night to make her a list of things Luke likes to do, and his schedule, etc etc for when she arrives at our house to take over caring for him for awhile. I was like "uuhh.... what?????" So I told her again he is going to my mom's. She got upset about not getting to spend time with him. She is upset that she can't stay with us for a week after Nick is born and said she already arranged everything with her work for time off. We told her she can stay 2 or 3 nights MAX. I do feel bad for her. But its not like other relatives are knocking on the door asking to be put up for a week so they can spend time with our new baby. That's just rude! She is a very awkward person to be around. She asks really personal questions. At the hospital with Luke she was asking me in front of my FIL like "did you tear?? how many stitches do you have??? Do your nipples hurt??? I was soooooo raw when I had my babies!" She just doesnt have any sense of what is appropriate. What makes it worse is she is not the type that kids warm up to. Ive seen her with her sister's grandkids. They are quite young and won't go anywhere near her, and she is the type to force them. Luke is afraid of her as well, which she attributes to me babying him and comforting him when he runs away from her crying. Its hard. I don't mean to dis-include her, but I'm not thrilled about having her around.

Mara: your little Christmas sounds nice Smile I'm sure Beni will figure out sharing as long as you are enforcing those ideas right from the start! I would love to go and do a mission project, like habitat for humanity, or some type of medical mission trip. A donation is a nice way to remember someone.

ETA: missed a bunch of posts!

Christina: feel like a college kid again??? only not nearly as exciting??? lol. Ugh sorry about you getting home so late. I can't stay awake past 8:30pm these days. Does your DH put Mason to bed when you're not home?

Aimee: good job on your paper!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I had some bad contractions last night. There was one standing in our hallway and I was trying sooo hard to not to make any noise it hurt so much. I was getting nervous real labor was coming. I don't want it to happen in the middle of the night because of having to call my mom to wake her up 2 hours away. I feel weird today. Anxious, not hungry, keep running to the bathroom. I think its going to be soon. My contractions aren't getting any more regular, but they are certainly becoming more painful!

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Christina - way to go on the first night.. now it just keeps on coming! It is a lot of work but you are like me and a manager so you will find the times that work for you and don't take away from too much of your family time. Sometimes it is hard but it gets done.

Mara- I think the sharing thing happens when you least expect it and then it keeps rearing its head lol.. some of the older kids in the daycare still have a really hard time with things sometimes so I know it is normal. Aves is kind of the opposite where she lets kids take her stuff and then jsut moves on to something new lol.

Carolyn - so sorry about your MIL. I think it is hard because some people do want someone there with them every minute after a new baby (I have a friend that had a baby last week and her MIL is staying for 3 weeks because she can't handle it) and so it is really hard. I hate when people can be so pushy and inappropriate. I need this week to be over.. heck next week too so I can have over a week off to get myself organized!

Well my paper is done and I just posted the final discussion for the class. The professor is insane with the amount of work she gave but just happy it is done. Of course now I have to wait until after the 20th for my grade since that is when the stuff is all due by. GRRRR Now I am debating the class I want to take this spring.

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Mara your little pre-Christmas sounds like fun. I'm hoping to get the rest of our gift wrapped this weekend.

We are getting our furnace and heat pump replaced tomorrow. We'll be without heat tomorrow and most of the day Friday. We lucked out though because it's going to be in the lower 50's tomorrow and upper 40's on Friday. Very lucky for December weather here.

Ok, I'm off to an off-site meeting until 3 then I'm going to head home. The HVAC company is dropping off a bunch of equipment this afternoon at the house so they can get an early start tomorrow.

Carolyn - yes, DH did a fab job of feeding and putting Mason to bed last night. He even texted pics of Mason eating his dinner so I wouldn't feel left out. He even packed Mason's lunch for day care and did a great job. He's trying so hard to be supportive and "prove" to me that he can handle his job and mine so I can concentrate on school. Makes up for all the really stupid stuff he does Smile

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OMG, hold the phone. I think Beni STTN last night! No, I don't mean she fell asleep when I put her down and stayed asleep until this morning... but I do mean, I think she slept from 11:30 when I settled her until like 5:30 this morning! WHAT!?!?!? Seriously! No middle of the night crying, and no all night nursing. Please do it again, please do it again, please do it again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Christina, that is wonderful that your DH is being so supportive! I hope the weather cooperate with your house work!

Carolyn, can't your MIL take some meds for that? Sounds like she needs them! I hope it all works out for you, because it's just around the corner, isn't it!?! Smile

Aimee, good luck getting through next week. My DH is done on Friday, and we leave for Bali on Saturday! I can't wait!!!! Smile

What I really want is to get the a big airport. Smile I want to get Beni a new pair of shoes- preferably crocs (because she loves them, and they are easy enough to wear/don't cause problems, like her other new shoes which are rubbing her in one spot!), and I want a Subway! I know that sounds silly...but, I have been craving it for like a week now! I guess we'll see if any airport we're in has a Subway (I think we should be able to find the shoes), but I think Bali should have them if the airport doesn't. Smile

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Well the new furnace and heat pump were delivered yesterday. They'll begin work today. We'll be without heat today and tomorrow but we should be good to go for the weekend. It'll be nice to turn the heat on and actually have it work and maybe not sound like a airplane landing on our house Smile

I'm going to work a 1/2 day from home to house sit while the workers are there. My FIL was kind enough to house sit this morning since I have 2 meetings I need to go to.

Anyway, you all have a great day in case I don't get to drop in again.

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Am I the only one having trouble replying to posts? Only the quick reply feature works. If I hit "reply to thread" i get a reply box, but it is greyed out and I can't type in it. I often get the same error with "quick reply." Then I have to close out of preg.org and start over. Its weird!

Mara: you and I are like craving twins!! I can't get enough subway in the first and 2nd trimesters. It seems to have died down now though lol. I don't know if my MIL takes meds or not. She had an abusive childhood that caused her to grow up into a very bizarre dysfunctional adult. I can certainly sympathize with her, but it doesn't make her any easier to get along with.

Christina: wow what good timing with the heat!!! can you imagine if we were going through a cold snap??? I hope the new heat is warmer and quieter Smile You predicted the 15th... I HOPE SO!!! Aww your DH sounds cute with Mason. Especially sending you picture updates. I love getting pics when I'm away from Luke.

Aimee: congrats again on your paper Smile

So my mom took Luke this morning!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm really really feeling like labor is near. My poor body has been on cleanout mode the last day and a half. My contractions seems to be getting more regular, although 90% of them still do not hurt. My belly has gotten REALLY small compared to before so I think perhaps he has dropped more. I hope it is soon, especially now that Luke is gone. Miss the little bugger!!! I have a midwife appointment this afternoon. Probably my last one!

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Wow, Carolyn, sounds like you're progressing! So tough waiting... I know with Beni I had no idea even 12 hours before she was born that she would be born. It can happen so quickly! Hopefully you won't be separated from Luke for too long... that said, I guessed the 16th, so you've still got a day to go. Smile

So we leave on Saturday morning... and I haven't started packing yet! Ha! But, I have all day tomorrow. I have to pack for myself and Beni. We'll be gone three weeks, but there will be laundry services everywhere, so I'm going to try very hard to only pack one week's worth of stuff. Wish me luck. I'm a notorious over-packer!

In other good news, I got my SIL/BILs housekeeper to agree to come to our house twice while we're gone- once just after we leave to clean up after us, and once just before we get back to make sure the house is clean before we get home. Smile Yay! And it's only going to cost me like $25. Worth it!

So, we put Beni to bed later again tonight- more on 8pm, rather than 7, and she is again, sleeping soundly. It's already 11 here, and there's been no peep out of her yet. DH says she didn't sleep as good as I thought she did last night, but, I don't really care. It was probably the best night's sleep I've had in a long time.

Anyone on here watch Glee? I don't even really care about the storyline (although I don't mind it, but I don't think it's great), but I just LOVE the music. I think they have fantastic voices, and having been in choir myself in high school, watching the show just makes me all sentimental and stupid. I love it though. I just watched the Christmas episode and then bought the new Christmas album. Smile

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Oh Carolyn - sounding good!!! You have 12 hours to make my date prediction!!! Otherwise I'll go with my 2nd choice which is tomorrow.

Mara - I'm sure you'll pack just fine Wink I so hope you'll enjoy yourself!

HVAC guys are hard at work. It's 55 out so I can't tell the heat is off, I'm sure we will tonight though!

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OMG. Can I just tell you again that I HATE insurance companies?? I just heard from my insurance company that there is a "surcharge" for being back in the States for more than the "allowed" 2 months which are written into our policy (we'll be there 4 mos). The surcharge is $1950!!!!!!!!!!! The cost of the home birth is $1800!!!!! And right now, they haven't even agreed to pay for the home birth in any part yet.... this is fricking crazy!!!!!! The guy says to me, "Well, it's not my fault a triple by-pass will cost you $40,000 in Thailand, but $400,000 in the US. We have to charge accordingly. And it's all about risk." Obviously, I am at a high risk for a triple by-pass. Or maybe it's Beni they are worried about. :violent2::brucelee::bigangry::angry4::angry5::bigblowup::angry6::angry9::firemad: OK, that's about how I feel right now.

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Christina - glad the weather is cooperating for the timing of replacing the furnace. It is mild today here too which is nice but I really need some snow to make it feel like Christmas.

Mara - I don't want to lol but the depiction you made to show your anger had me laughing. That is ridiculous that the guy tried to make you feel better using that as an example. grrrrrrr

Well I got some good news yesterday. My superintendent had extra money and picked up the cost of people's fall courses. So that saved us $1662 that I didn't expect to be getting. It is tough because it is not set in our contract what they pay and he does it as he can but I have lucked out that he has paid for 5/6 classes since last spring. So I was torn about taking a class in the spring due to money being tight but now I can justify it and know I can move over on the salary scale again! We top out at 105 credits and I will be at 77 at the end of the spring semester if I take this one class. So many people hang at the low end for many years and slowly go over but I figure if I can handle the money now it makes sense so then we can bank at the highest for more years.

Oh and I decided last night to sign up for a boot camp. It is right down the street and it is 3 days a week (I will do 2 to start for the first month because I am taking classes on Saturdays when it meets) and I think that with diet and some other working out will help me get to my goal that I am looking for. I am hoping DH will do it too because he needs to and I asked my babysitter if she woudl come over on Tues and Thurs from 7-8:30 and she will so it works out great!

Ok off to correct some tests boooo.. we have our first game today.. away in a bad city and it will be a team that we kill. I am not enjoying my team so far this year.. two girls with AWFUL attitudes which is so unlike the kids in this school

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