My husband is from a small town with old school parents. His step dad was not always nice about how he went about things but Jason did grow up to be a very responsible and loving person.
I grew up with parents who were probably pretty traditional in their parenting style for their time. I did get spanked occasionally but they were also very attentive and loving parents. I feel like I'm a healthy person emotionally and whatever they did worked.
So now the two of us come together and need to parent as a unit. We agree on what we want the outcome to be but not necessarily on our expectations or techniques of dealing with Jordan (and soon enough, her sister). I feel like I'm becoming more of an attachment parenting type, which is very different than what Jason is used to. I'll admit, I know some parents that are of a similar mind and their kids are WILD. I know that is probably part of what Jason worries about. I also know that the attachment parents can turn people off with their "hugs and kisses" approach. Now, I know for a fact that there is a lot more to it than that, but that is what people tend to think when they are not familiar with the approach. I mean NO OFFENSE by that, I promise. I just know that is probably how Jason sees it.
Today I needed his help because Jordan was all over the place and I was trying to change her diaper. He thought that meant coming in and basically holding her down while I changed her. She was getting furious and I could see it was just making it worse. So I told him let's try a different approach and I had Jordan stand up, I recognized her frustration and gave her a hug. She calmed down immediately and let me change her diaper. Maybe him seeing that sort of result will help us?
I know we've talked about this before but I see it becoming more and more important as Jordan gets older.