OK...so that might seem like an odd question...but I mean....how much of your day is spent doing things specifically for your kids- like learning or even just playing activities with them?
I feel like I should be doing more for Beni, because I am the main person she interacts with most days. But I also find that in the regular span of the day, we do things like eat and nap, and clean up and then housework... and there is very little time where I might actually sit with her and specifically do child-centered stuff.
But then...she helps me fold laundry, she plays in the tupperware cupboard while I wash dishes, she comes shopping with me, she helps clean up after meals, etc. So in a way I'm not super worried because I feel like there is plenty to learn just in participating in every day around the house stuff. And there usually comes a point in the day- after her afternoon nap, when most of the housework that I am going to get done that day is done, and we end up just playing- in her playroom or outside, usually until daddy comes home, and then I go to make dinner and he plays with her until dinner is ready. So that might be about an hour that we actually just play.
I wish we had more options for getting out of the house... we usually go shopping on Mondays, and there is a playgroup we try to go to on Tuesday mornings.... and Tues and Thurs afternoons she goes to my SIL's for a few hours while I tutor. So she gets to play with my nephew then. But we have no baby classes, libraries, museums, etc to go to.
And I will say, I do also think its important for her to know how to entertain herself- which she does reasonably well- so I'm not saying I think I need to keep her busy all the time, because I don't believe in that either. I guess I'm just questioning myself, and whether we have a good balance or not.