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Sleep questions

I'm just curious about a few things.

Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary?

How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all?

How long do they nap?

[COLOR=Black]What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own? (Assuming it's not from hunger either.)
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Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary? It varies a lot! That's one of the reasons I wanted to as this question. Jordan will wake anytime between 7am and 10am. I would say on average it is more like between 8 and 9 though. The 7am mornings are a little rough on me.

How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all? Jordan sleep about 12ish hours. She wakes two times to nurse.

How long do they nap? She naps anywhere from an hour and a half to three hours.

[COLOR=Black]What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own? Last night Jordan woke a 3rd time and I had no idea why. We ended up giving her Tylenol and I nursed her again even though it had only been a little over an hour. Thankfully she went back to sleep. My best guess is it was related to teething.[/COLOR]

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Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary?

It is normally between 8-830

How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all?

I would say 11-12 hours...*knocks on wood* Lainey has been sleeping through the night for about a month now. In her room.. not even waking up to nurse which is shocking.

How long do they nap?

We usually get 2 naps in and if we are at home she gets a solid 2 hours sometimes 3. If we are on the go and it starts off in the car and I have to transport her or something.. she wakes sooner and only gets an hour sometimes

What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own?

If she ever does wake up, I always just nurse back to sleep and it always fixes it. Never had a situation where that didn't solve it

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Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary? It really varies, which is becoming an issue for me/us. She used to get up pretty regularly between 6 and 7 which was ok for me- it made naps easier. Now she's waking between 8 and 10 and it's too late. I am now setting an alarm to get both of us up earlier. Feels a little crazy, but, gotta do it, because I need her to nap!

How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all? She still wakes often. On a good night she'll go down at 7 or 7:30 and sleep til 11, but then she'll want to nurse. After the 11ish o'clock waking she'll wake again in an hour, or a couple hours or like 5 hours. It really changes. I think some nights she sleeps soundly for a long time, and others she still nurses through the night sort of. She generally sleeps around 13 hours I guess (8pm-9am easily), which seems a lot to me, but also kind of makes sense why she wakes so often.

How long do they nap? We're really working on this again now. When we were back in Angola she napped regularly at 30-60 minutes twice a day. Now, she's all over the place. Yesterday she did 90 minutes, or what that today (man, I guess it's been a long day!). I think she still needs two naps though, and I'm working toward getting her back to a morning and an afternoon nap, about an hour each.

What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own? (Assuming it's not from hunger either.) She really doesn't do this. The other night she did it for the first time- woke at 10:30 and was basically awake until 1. It was ridiculous, and I will admit I mostly spent a whole lot of time being very angry with her. I finally just went to bed, and hoped she would fall asleep too. But honestly, if she does wake at night, the go to solution is to nurse, even if it's only been a short while since she last nursed. It's a comfort thing for her for sure.

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Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary? Since his shots his routine changed but lately it's been a 5am wake up, I make him a bottle and then he'll go down straight after again and sleep until 7.

How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all? He will go down between 6-6.30pm and 99% of the time he will sleep through to that 5am wake up. If he does wake(maybe once a week) it's around midnight and I'm usually up then anyway and he has a small bottle and back to bed.

How long do they nap? He nas 2 naps of 1.5 hours each, if we're out and about(which isnt often) he might squeeze in 1 hour all up and those are probably the nights he wakes at midnight.

What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own? (Assuming it's not from hunger either.) Always a bottle of milk, not alot, about 3 oz and if he seems irritable I will give him some painkillers for his teething (those molars are on their way for sure!)

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Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary?
between 6-7 usually although there are exceptions to that.
How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all?about 11 hours, give or take

How long do they nap?He's at the point where he's taking a 1/2 hour snoozer then a 2-3 hour nap depending on his mood. It's never exact though.

What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own? (Assuming it's not from hunger either.)I'm lucky in that Mason doesn't usually do this but on the time or so that it's happened I rock and sooth him and give him his lovey to hold. Usually it works. The only time it hasn't is when he's been sick.

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Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary? Between 6 and 7, however I don't go to her until 6:30 at the earliest. It's a rule. lol She just babbles to herself until then, if she does wake before then.

How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all? 12 hours at night, one nursing session. It's usually me waking her for that nurse though around 4am. She's still only 16 and a half pounds, so until she's 20lbs I will feel more comfortable letting her go all night.

How long do they nap? Generally 1-2 hours, 2 naps a day at 9am and 1pm

What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own? (Assuming it's not from hunger either.) I go in and nurse her. It's rare though. And when it happens it's almost always because of a reason I'm aware of ahead of time, like illness or teething or sleep deprivation from earlier in the day/week.

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I'm just curious about a few things.

Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary? Varies. Yesterday it was 6:30, today it is 7:20 and I'm sitting here bursting waiting for him to wake up.

How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all? He sleeps from 6:30 till 7am on average. No, he does not wake up. THough he ate every two hours for the first three months of his life, he then went on to be my earliest STTN kid and has been in the same night pattern since about 6 months.

How long do they nap? 3 hours during the day.

[COLOR=DarkOrchid][COLOR=Black]What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own? (Assuming it's not from hunger either.) Pick them up. Some afternoons the only way he will continue his nap is in my arms and nursing, so we sit on the couch or I get in bed with him ~ I did this yesterday and we both napped for 90 minutes. SInce we are so on the go in the AM's, (because of my other kids) he has moved pretty early on to one nap. Some days though if we are in the car for too long in the AM he falls asleep for a bit, which then throws off his afternoon nap ~ those are the afternoons that I nap with him.

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Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary? Alyse wakes up between 6-6:30 everyday.

How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all? She sleeps 11 hours. 7pm-6am

How long do they nap? Her morning nap is usually from 9:30 til 11:45, sometimes a little shorter, sometimes longer. Yesterday was 12:30! Afternoon nap is typically from 3/3:30-5.

What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own? (Assuming it's not from hunger either.) Alyse really doesn't do this unless she is sick or something. If I know she's teething, I give her a dose of motrin before bed.

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Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary? Well with work days it is pretty set but she gets up around 4:45 and then we take her in with us and she sleeps until 6 with DH on weekdays but on weekends she will stay asleep until 7 or 7:30... usually her and DH stay asleep while I wake up sinec I am the morning person. We only bring her in with us because it gets her back to sleep quicker during the week so we can get another hour
How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all? Aves goes down about 7 or 7:30 and she will sleep until 4:45. She wakes up here and there during the night but never enough to get us to go in to her. She actually has a binky for bed and we keep like 4 on her dresser at the end of her crib and she gets up at night stands up and gets one and then lays right back down.

How long do they nap? She typically takes 2 naps a day. One for about 1.5-2 hours and the other for about an hour. It varies if it is her mroning or afternoon one but it is generally around 9 or 9:30 and then again aroudn 2 or 3

What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own? (Assuming it's not from hunger either.) Already answered this above but this is something that is very rare for us. She generally will go back to sleep on her own unless something is wrong. We do not feed during the night at all and even in the morning if I offer her a bottle or a drink she doesn't want one until a while after she is up.

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Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary? She normally wakes up between 6:30 and 7:15

How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all? She sleeps 9 hours and wakes twice to nurse

How long do they nap? She has one 2-hour nap every day right after lunch. Every now and then, she doses off if she's taking a ride in the car, but normally it's just that one nap.

What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own? (Assuming it's not from hunger either.) If nursing doesn't put her to sleep, I put her on the floor and then get down there with her, a pillow, and a blanket (we still cosleep, and we don't have a crib). I usually lie down (the floor is carpeted) and just let her play it out. It normally takes no longer than half an hour for her to realize it's still sleepy time, and she'll come to me to be put back in bed and snuggle. I should note, the last time this happened was months ago; it's very rare.

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Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary? She normally wakes up around 6:30 - or within 15 minutes of

How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all? Daisy sleeps 7:30 - 6:30ish so 11 hrs. No waking.

How long do they nap? She naps at 9am and 2ish for 1.5-2 hrs each

What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own? (Assuming it's not from hunger either.) If she wakes up at all I first try rocking her back to sleep. If I can't get her back down and she's upset then something is wrong and I'll either give her something or continue to rock her until she's ok. If she's up and playing with me I rock her for a minute then put her back down like I do at the beginning of the night and let her work/play it out. I don't remember the last time she was up at night.

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Luke has grown into a WONDERFUL sleeper. Until 9 months of age he was up 2-3x a night. Then all of a sudden he started sleeping through the night just like that! It definitely coincided with me going back to work full time at night. He now sleeps through the night EVERY NIGHT, even when I'm home.


Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary?
he is very consistent. He goes down at 7pm and sleeps till about 630am.

How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all? he sleeps 11-12 hours every night

How long do they nap?
he takes a morning and an afternoon nap. They are roughly an hour each, sometimes one of them will be two hours.

What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own If its night he always goes back to sleep on his own at this point. During the day if he is fussing/humming i let him alone. If it escalates to crying i go get him because the nap is done at that point.

I no longer rock him to sleep either. we stopped that about a month ago. I rock him, sing him a few songs and then lay him in his bed. half the time he is tired enough to go right to sleep. other times he sits up and cries for about 5 minutes, then he goes to sleep. I dont know what we did to get him into such a good sleeper, but it sure was a LONG time coming!!!

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I had no idea that so many of these babies were still napping twice a day! I had to consolidate her naps since she started refusing her second nap. It got to be such a struggle and naps have been much easier on us since she started napping once a day after lunch. That actually happened a couple of months ago too.

Part of me has been thinking about trying to cut back to one nursing session during the night. We are going to be traveling a little in the next month and a half but after that I may try. I hope it's easy like it was cutting out the middle nursing session. That helped me A LOT but now I'm ready to either cut out the dream feed or the 4am feeding. I guess I'm worried we will have lots of tears or she will start waking super early. I'm a night owl and I have a hard time getting into bed early.

It is interesting to see how different these babies are though. It always amazes me that one child can start STTN at 4 months and another is still up numerous times at 9 months (like Jordan was). Let me say that until 10 months we were zombies. Crazy tired zombies and there were times I actually felt like I was going crazy.

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Wow I am impressed that you have her down to one nap. The only baby in our daycare that is on 1 nap turned 1 in february and she really just started the one nap. We could get Avery to like noon and just take one later but she gets so tired by like 10:30 or 11 it is no fun!

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My first was an easy, set your watch by sort of napper ~ he napped from 9-11.30 and 1-3.30 every single day till 18 months, then we moved him to one nap. My second was on one nap by 9 months ~ we HAD to do it ~ with them being just 13 months apart it meant that I would have one kid napping all day (her from 9-12, him from 12-3.30 and her from 2-4.30) and never, ever be able to go anywhere! After a month of that hell I came to my senses and moved her to one nap at just 9 months ~ it took about two weeks to slowly inch back her morning nap, but she is now 3 and still takes that same 1-4 nap Smile The freedom was awesome. Scheduling is really important to me with three so little. I think that there is just a huge range in normal with the two to one nap transition, and other siblings or life in general surely plays a part in what works for each baby.

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Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary? She gets up every day between 6 and 6:30 am. Sometimes it's slightly before 6. ROUGH! We had gotten used to our older one who gets up closer to 8am. I am not a morning person and since DH is taking the night wakings I have to get up at dawn with her.

How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all? Still waking. We're down to 1 waking most nights. She goes to sleep at 8PM and the one waking is typically between 1 and 3am. Sometimes she makes it to 4 or 5, but that's actually rougher because then she gives us a harder time to go back to sleep. We actually like the rare early waking, like 11 or 12, because we're still up and can then sleep almost 6 hours straight. She has a 6oz bottle when she wakes. Probably the reason she's still waking lol!

How long do they nap? She's doing two naps. At 9:30ish in the morning she will go down for about 1.5 hours. Then she takes another nap from 3-4 give or take. Sometimes they are long (2+ hours). Rarely the second one may be short if we put her down too late. She almost always sleeps at least an hour, which is nice for all of us.

What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own? At one point she had been putting herself to sleep in the crib, but she stopped doing that after a bad cold. So now she needs us to pat her down or rock her to sleep. We've talked about maybe having to do some kind of training in the coming months if she continues to need 30+ minutes of help from us in the middle of the night. We are ready to return to a more normal sleep pattern at this point.

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"Kayla1981" wrote:

I had no idea that so many of these babies were still napping twice a day! I had to consolidate her naps since she started refusing her second nap. It got to be such a struggle and naps have been much easier on us since she started napping once a day after lunch. That actually happened a couple of months ago too.

Part of me has been thinking about trying to cut back to one nursing session during the night. We are going to be traveling a little in the next month and a half but after that I may try. I hope it's easy like it was cutting out the middle nursing session. That helped me A LOT but now I'm ready to either cut out the dream feed or the 4am feeding. I guess I'm worried we will have lots of tears or she will start waking super early. I'm a night owl and I have a hard time getting into bed early.

It is interesting to see how different these babies are though. It always amazes me that one child can start STTN at 4 months and another is still up numerous times at 9 months (like Jordan was). Let me say that until 10 months we were zombies. Crazy tired zombies and there were times I actually felt like I was going crazy.

My best friend has two kids- a 3 year old and a 9 mos old. Her 3 year old was STTN at something ridiculous like 6 weeks. Her 9 mos old is still waking every 2 hours the whole night. She told me she hasn't done ANYTHING different- she's parented them the both the same way when it comes to sleeping/bed time. As a parent of a frequent waker, I sometimes question how things could be different, and then I think, they just are what they are. We took a path we were comfortable with (non-CIO) and this is where we are. Who knows, maybe our next kid will be like my friend's first born and just sleep on her own from an early age. We'll see.

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It's true, Mara. You can do all the same things with different kids and have entirely different results. DD1 didn't STTN, even once, til she was over 18 months old. She was up every hour or two until 13 months when I night weaned her. It was a sleep nightmare. lol. Fiona was doing 5 hour stretches off the hop.

I'm more surprised that there are babies having less than 2 naps a day! Fi still needs at least 2, sometimes she has a super short 3rd one, too! lol

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Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary?
During the week I have to wake him about 7 to leave for daycare. If left alone he sleeps until about 8.

How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all?
He sleeps from about 730pm and sleeps till morning.

How long do they nap? He takes one 2-3 hour nap.

What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own? (Assuming it's not from hunger either.)
He will usually babble or fuss for awhile then go back to sleep on his own. If he is full on crying I def go in bc that is out of the norm for him.

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"Marite13" wrote:

My best friend has two kids- a 3 year old and a 9 mos old. Her 3 year old was STTN at something ridiculous like 6 weeks. Her 9 mos old is still waking every 2 hours the whole night. She told me she hasn't done ANYTHING different- she's parented them the both the same way when it comes to sleeping/bed time. As a parent of a frequent waker, I sometimes question how things could be different, and then I think, they just are what they are. We took a path we were comfortable with (non-CIO) and this is where we are. Who knows, maybe our next kid will be like my friend's first born and just sleep on her own from an early age. We'll see.

I do think that is mostly true. I guess it all goes back to nature vs. nurture. I think many times it is a combination of the two, but nature definitely has a big say! I believe Jordan would still be nursing three times a night if we hadn't encouraged her to go w/o the middle feeding. I think she would have eventually cut it out since she seemed to let it go easily though. I just sped the process up a bit because I was not getting enough consecutive sleep to feel rested and I'd spent so many months being exhausted that I needed to make that change for my well being. It was very reassuring to me that she took it well though. It made me feel like she was ready for it to happen, even if she didn't do it all on her own.

"JorgieGirl" wrote:

It's true, Mara. You can do all the same things with different kids and have entirely different results. DD1 didn't STTN, even once, til she was over 18 months old. She was up every hour or two until 13 months when I night weaned her. It was a sleep nightmare. lol. Fiona was doing 5 hour stretches off the hop.

I'm more surprised that there are babies having less than 2 naps a day! Fi still needs at least 2, sometimes she has a super short 3rd one, too! lol

Going to one nap a day changed our life! I was so frustrated that Jordan's schedule was wacky due to her inconsistent napping. Some days her second nap was landing way too late and she just fought it so badly. I made the change to one nap a day and she was pretty fussy by nap time for a couple of weeks but then she settled into it and she seems so much happier.

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Kayla, you jinxed us! Daisy was up last night for the first time in a LONG time. Not sure what her issue was - she's still asleep now at 8:05!

She was very snuggly - almost worth it Wink I could have done without the hour of her crawling around my bed though...

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"julieanddanny" wrote:

Kayla, you jinxed us! Daisy was up last night for the first time in a LONG time. Not sure what her issue was - she's still asleep now at 8:05!

She was very snuggly - almost worth it Wink I could have done without the hour of her crawling around my bed though...

I'm so sorry Julie! Maybe Daisy was just feeling sorry for Jordan's night time issues lately? If it's not those darn teeth then I don't know what it is! I hope tonight is better for both of us.

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Speaking to the naps thing Mason has kind of lead the 2-1 nap a day change. He still sometimes gets that snoozer either in the morning or late afternoon (depending on when his longer nap is) but on his day care days he only does one nap.

My DD on the other hand was never a long napper so she did 2 short naps a day until she was like 16 months or something. It drove me crazy. 2 - 45 min naps sucked. I'm glad Mason's a little better in that department.

How'd Jordan do last night?

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Christina, Beni has always done 2 45-minute naps...except when she was doing 3 45-minute naps. Smile A friend of mine is convinced that very soon for some reason she will start taking longer naps... like 60-90mins. I wouldn't mind at all...but I am not holding my breath. Smile

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Does your LO get up at the same time everyday or does it vary? He normally wakes up between 6:30 and 7:30

How long do they sleep at night? Are they waking at all? Jake goes to bed around 7, 7:30 and yes he wakes up at night. He's normally sound asleep for the first 3-4 hours, but after that all bets are off. He's usually up 2-4 times each night, sometimes more. I think last time it was more. I'm so tired I don't remember. I still nurse him when he wakes up--we cosleep and it's the only way he'll go back to sleep.

How long do they nap? He's moving to one nap per day. If he takes one nap he sleeps 2+ hours.

What do you do when they wake up crying and are not going back to sleep on their own? (Assuming it's not from hunger either.) See above, I always nurse him back to sleep at night. During the day there's no chance he'll go back to sleep if he wakes up early from a a nap.

Both my kids have been night-time wakers, but at least Luke took very good, very consistent naps. I've had a TERRIBLE time with Jake with naps. And just this week he's been refusing a morning nap. He's just WIDE awake and won't go down. So, today I stopped fighting it and put him down after lunch (noon). It's 1:45 and he's still asleep. I think this will work well for us, lol.

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So Meagan, you are telling me I could have another night waker like Jordan? Oy. I thought once you paid your dues, you should get to have a good sleeper. It's only fair that way!

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"Kayla1981" wrote:

So Meagan, you are telling me I could have another night waker like Jordan? Oy. I thought once you paid your dues, you should get to have a good sleeper. It's only fair that way!

LOL Kayla. I suppose that's true. BUT, we didn't get a second colicky/reflux baby. To me that is MUCH MUCH MUCH worse than a night-waker! I mean seriously we were so thankful we didn't go through the 6 months of Hell we went through with Luke....

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I've had 2 good sleeper and one not so much, that being DD#2. Even today she is the lightest sleeper ever. I am wondering about tonight for me, I was out at a friends today, he missed his morning nap and he fell asleep on my friend while I went to physio and it was only a 30 min nap...that usualy spells trouble because he was very overtired! He has already cried a bit but wnet back t sleep quickly...am thinking a 2am wake up call Sad I'll let you know...