to circ or not to circ?

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to circ or not to circ?

we did w/ our first son, but am not so sure that I want to this time. I just felt so bad for putting him through it. I had to assist w/ in nursing school and felt SO bad for the lil guy. Just wondering you're take on it all, are ya gonna do it or not and why or why not? NOT wanting to start a debate just looking for opinions.

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I am glad we are having a girl this time so I don't have to think about it. I am still traumatized from DS's circ. The plastibell thing they used didn't fall off like they said it would, I called the nurse and she said it was normal wait four more days, waited four more days and on the fourth day his penis started to swell over the plastibell, took him to the E.R. and they couldn't get it to come off, took him to a doctor that does circs and she said she had never seen the plastibell not fall off and it took a lot of pulling to get it to actually come off. I felt so bad, then I was worried his penis was deformed for the longest time (it's not, thank God). I know DH thinks that because he is circumcised all of his sons should be, just so they don't see his and think they are weird or something. If we ever have another son, I guess I have to go with his decision on it, but we will be getting the classic circ not the plastibell.

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We aren't going to, but I respect anyone's decision. I told DH that I really didn't want to put my baby through because I felt it wasn't absolutely necessary. But I told him to do his research and make the final decision, because I wasn't sure if the whole "matching daddy" thing was an issue for him. He read up on it and decided against it.

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We won't be doing it if we have a boy. From what we've read there is no real point (other than religious reasons, which we don't have) and it's hard to find someone around here to do it.

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We did circ both our DS's. Honestly, just b/c that is what DH is familiar with and me too really and DH wanted to. Wasn't a huge issue to me so we did. I'm also glad to be having a girl this time and not need to deal with it. I have more of a preference on it now than I did when DS1 was born...I don't really see the need for it so why bother. Given the option (which is obviously not an option) to do over I don't think I would...by the time DS2 came along I was already in more of an opinion not to but went ahead since DS1 already was. To me, it wasn't a big deal that the boys "matched" DH but when making the decision about DS2 I didn't want them to be different b/c they are so close in age and I didn't want to try to answer the questions about why do I look different than my brother.

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We did not circ DS. And had this one been a boy we would not circ again. Since there is no medical evidence of increased infections or anything it is becoming considered an unnecessary cosmetic surgery. A lot of insurance companies are staring to consider it cosmetic and are going to stop covering it in the future. My opinion is, Ds was made perfect and I shouldn't be making permanent decisions regarding removal of body parts. It is definitely a decision you have to research and make between you and dh. Mine didn't have a preference so I ultimately made the decision. Because DS had platelet issues and other things with Nicu time, they didn't address it til the day we were to leave. When we said no, some of the nurses clapped and told us we made a great decision. While that was a little weird, lol, it affirmed our decision.

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"eliann" wrote:

We aren't going to, but I respect anyone's decision. I told DH that I really didn't want to put my baby through because I felt it wasn't absolutely necessary. But I told him to do his research and make the final decision, because I wasn't sure if the whole "matching daddy" thing was an issue for him. He read up on it and decided against it.

This pretty much exactly. I didn't want to do it, but I wanted DH to have the final say and we decided not to and will make the same decision this time if we have a boy. So far, my five year old hasn't had any problems and there is no special way you need to clean it, just wipe it like normal.

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We did with DS, I left that option up to my DH and I am leaving it up to him again. I respect and trust his decision.

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"nidia" wrote:

We did with DS, I left that option up to my DH and I am leaving it up to him again. I respect and trust his decision.

This exactly for us. I'm leaving it up to DH and he wants it done. Biggrin

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This is a tough topic for me. We've circ'ed all of our DS's, and we'll do this one also. I've got really mixed feelings on it. Part of me supports it because it's what I'm familiar with. Another part of me remembers sitting and crying in a hospital bed when I sent my sweet baby off to have it done, because I just felt it was wrong. Like many of you all, I've left the decision up to my DH because it's a "man" thing, and he was very much in favor of it. I assume that's mostly because it's what he knows and is familiar with, but I figure if he's not scarred for life by it, my DS's won't be either. It's hard for me because I'm so, so torn on the whole topic. But we shall do it again. I never really hoped for my kids to be a specific gender, but there was a small part of me that hoped this was a girl just so I wouldn't have to go through this part of it again.

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I HATE when they come and get them to take them off to do it... makes me just SICK! ugh... I don't wanna put him through it, but my dh wants it done too, and I don't really think he has researched anything on the topic just because it's the norm to him... I dread it SO bad.

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Personally I'd be fine with letting my DH decide but ONLY if he did research on it first. My hubby was pro-circ when we had DD but luckily we didn't need to discuss it in great detail. Since then he has actually done research and is now against it.

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Lurking from April!

We chose to circ our new little man. The doc here was awesome. He insisted one of us come along (DH went) and used lidocaine for anesthesia and prescribed Tylenol for him afterwards. DH said Timothy slept through it once he got used to being strapped down. He did not appear to be in any pain afterwards. I was prepared to decline (and find another pediatrician) if they used the plastibell--I think that device is awful.

Whatever you decide, please do your research. It is a controversial topic and many folks have regret for not being fully informed.

I personally believe that it is cleaner and leads to less chance of infections. Now I know the studies state there is no difference, but personal experience as an RN has shown me otherwise. All the male babies with UTI's I have treated have been intact, I do not remember a single circ'd boy with a UTI. And I see less UTI's in elderly men who are circ'd.

It was also DH's preference to circ our sons.

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"marymoonu" wrote:

I never really hoped for my kids to be a specific gender, but there was a small part of me that hoped this was a girl just so I wouldn't have to go through this part of it again.

I feel the same way!! Part of me says no and part of me is yes.. I hate the thought of my baby crying.. but you know, they don't remember it. Thank goodness. I have spoken to my DH about it a lot and I told him I would leave it up to him. I trust and respect him and I will trust and respect his decision. Noah is also fine from having it done and I'm so thankful. But like you, Mary.. I think it would've been a relief to have a girl and not even have to worry about that! But you know.. sometimes I think worries with girls come later on in life.. once they're teens, etc. YIKES. Can't imagine that and I'm glad I won't go through it lol