I tried to post this in the original thread but I'm not sure it was going through...probably because it's so long. Lol. Anyway here is the update on my appt.
My appointment today went very well. I was terrified and have been sick to my stomach all day. In the past few days we'd pretty much decided on the type of adoption we'd do and even started looking at some agencies which just goes to show how much I had written this all off. Like I said, I was a mess, and was upset all morning. I was shaking so hard I wasn't sure how I was even going to talk to the doc. He did the u/s and said my lining was fine. I explained to him what happened with the Crinone progesterone last cycle and how I noticed after my u/s and after I O'd that I had all the build up. He said that explains why I didn't get pregnant and why my lining didn't look so good. He said he had quit using it in the past because of that and because if there was build up it was actually toxic to eggs/sperm/embryo. He said it acts as a spermicide really and makes getting pregnant pretty much impossible. He said it wasn't supposed to cause build up anymore and I guess I'm his first patient who has had that since he started prescribing it again since the company claimed they fixed the problem. He apologized and said he wasn't using it anymore and that I could just take prometrium if I needed progesterone at all.
I told him that we felt we were at the end of our rope with all of this and that we were considering adoption. My mom came with me and she told him that it was really bad for both me and DH and that we were struggling emotionally big time. He said that he would support whatever I wanted to do and explained our options. So...this cycle we're doing the standard Femara dose I've been on and I'm also on the estrogen patch so help keep my lining healthy since this is my 3rd cycle of Femara and it tends to thin out over time on it. I'm also starting it a day later than usual so that I don't O too early like last time. I have an u/s schedule CD13 and we should see how things go from there.
If that doesn't work we will do IUI next cycle which I feel pretty good about. My doc says he doesn't believe in doing any kind of infertility treatment longer than 3 cycles without moving to another method. He says in his experience if it doesn't happen in 3 it's not going to so it's time to try something else. If IUI doesn't work we'll consider something that until today I had never head of, embryo adoption. It's WAY cheaper than IVF (which I can't do regardless of price) and WAY cheaper than adoption. I'm not sure if I'm the only person who hasn't heard of it or what but it's when you buy or adopt a frozen embryo and it's transferred to you (just like an IVF transfer but without the horrible first part) and so it's like your baby is adopted because it isn't biologically yours but you carry it like you would if it was. I think that's so cool. And it's not that much more expensive than IUI and my doc says the bank they use has pretty short wait times. How awesome is that?
Anyway sorry this was SO long but I had a lot to say and I am SO relieved to know that we had more options than I thought. I feel much better about everything now.
That is awesome news!!!!
Sounds like you have a great doc!!!
TTC 2 Years +
Leah - If I do say so myself.. your Dr sounds AWESOME!!! Very supportive, open to options and responsible with the choices he makes for you and DH (even apologizing for something that's not his fault!) Kuddos to him!!!
Sounds like you left the appt in a MUCH better emotional place than when you walked in. Here's to that hope!!
That is great news
DH Paul 34
DD1 Victoria 6 July 2006
DD2 Sarah 2 Feb 2011
DS1 Theodore July 2013
Married Aug 3, 2002
Thank you ladies for all of your kind words and support! I really do have an AWESOME RE! He's through a teaching hospital and there are a lot of great docs there but he's still rare because he's got such fantastic bedside manner and he cares so much about his patients. When I came back to see him after m/c in April he walked in the room and said "Well this just sucks". Every time I've had an appointment and we've talked about it again and about how far along I was he always says he thinks it's just so awful that happened the way it did. Thank God for him though or I'm not sure I ever would have gotten through it. His nurse is his wife too which is also cool because as a team they take special care of all of their patients.
Thanks for sharing your appt with us. I agree, it sounds like your doctor is wonderful! Isn't it great to have a plan? After we TTC #1 for a year we went to an OB/GYN here who deals with fertility issues. I was at the end of my rope emotionally and he really set me at ease. Having a plan made me feel so much more at peace. *hugs*
Embryo adoption sounds awesome!!! I hope it all works out!