Getting the word out and advice needed
Like Mary, I've been dragging my feet to tell anyone about this pregnancy. I like having the secret and having the babe to mine and DHs selves, but the belly grows so it must be told. We told DHs fam last weekend at a family trip and they are so excited. Then, we told my parents on FaceTime afterwards and again, thrilled! Told local friends at a get together this weekend and that went well. I have my appt this Wednesday and I'll tell work and out of town friends after that. I don't know if I'm going to do a true "Facebook" announcement, but pretty much everyone will know after that.
One complicated one is telling my brother...what would you do? He and his wife lost a pregnancy before I was pregnant with DD and SIL has NEVER really even said anything about my DD or asked about her or anything (they lived in Germany until recently so they have only ever seen her once). Then, last year, when DD was about 9 mo old they lost another pregnancy really quite late (around 20 weeks) which was devestating. Now, they are pregnant with a healthy baby due Dec 24th. I haven't told them yet because I feel like SIL is going to be mad or upset that we are having another... My bro and I are really close and I want to tell him, but a mix of feeling sorry for SIL for what she has been through and of feeling of anger for her never acknowledging the best person in my life are making me hold back. I get it that she has been through a lot, but... Even when we saw them the first time she wouldn't really look at her, talk to her, and I felt like I had to go out of my way to keep DD from her so I wouldn't upset SIL. as I type this, it sounds completely crazy! Also, DH and I are older than them and want to make our babies so we can have a nice retirement one day....we can't wait around for their babies to come first...which is what it feels like she wanted us to do.