Had a bad morning. My DS told me yesterday that he could take his teddy bear to school today. I asked him why, he said his teacher said so. I looked in his folder, no note from teacher. So I told him that he didn't need to. They're not supposed to take toys, etc. to school so I didn't want him to get in trouble. Well this morning I saw a post on FB about teddy bear day from another mama. Granted, her child goes to a different school but is also in Pre-K. It made me SO upset. I cried.. my poor little buddy Mama didn't believe him and I felt so bad. I work 20 mins away from his school so it's not like I had enough time to go back home and take it to him and come back to work.
I typed his teacher a note asking to please let me know when they are able to take toys, snacks, etc.. so he can participate. He's told me a few things before and you know.. kids will be kids and they will say a lot of stuff that may not be true. I hope the note didn't come off mean, I think I was very nice about it, I told her I would appreciate a note so that my son can participate in every activity. I know he would've loved to take his bear he got from his aunt this Christmas.
Thinking about it now, is kind of funny.. not that he didn't take it but that I got so upset that I cried over it. It just made me feel like an awful mother. So tonight I am buying him a happy meal for dinner. We never eat fast food during the week for dinner so it will be a little treat. Giving my baby lots of cuddles tonight for sure.
Oh my! I would have been SO sad for my child too! They want so much to participate in special days. Last month I missed PJ day at my daughter's daycare center and I felt terrible about it. WAY worse than she probably felt. Today was PJ day again so I made SURE I remembered...she was so stinkin' excited for it too...lol.
It's too bad the teacher had such poor communication with the parents. Sometimes it feels like you're damned if you do and damned if you don't! You were trying to obey the class rules...now your poor son has no teddy. Ya, I'd be crying over that too.
Incidentally, I'm having an emotional day too and I almost cried when I read your post!
It was awful, I was trying to hide it from my coworkers so I went into our filing room to file and thankfully they didn't notice. I had to go in the bathroom to wipe away the tears too. Now I feel silly for it but I can't help but imagine my little buddy teddy-less at school. I'm sure there are other teddy-less kids there.. especially since the teacher didn't send a notice. How do they expect parents to believe everything their child says? Especially bc children at this stage will say anything to take a toy to school!
That's totally something I'd cry over too. I'm a sucker for my kids, hahaha.
I cried the other day over reading an article that kids with food allergies are bullied in school, sometimes by kids who throw the foods they can't have at them. The next day, our allergist called and said my DS1 (allergic to peanut, egg, milk) officially tested negative for the milk allergy and could have all forms of milk, cheese, yogurt, etc. The timing was PERFECT after the emotional wreck that article had me in. I cried happy tears instead.
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May 26, 2010 - 7w1d
aweeeee mama I'm sorry!! But I think you're totally justified in crying, even if hormones are to blame. I've missed some things of DD even when the teacher DID send notes.. I just plain forgot.
I'm sure he'll enjoy the happy meal, though! All you can do is remind him that mommies make mistakes, too.. But that you hope he had a great day and you wanna hear all about it.
I would've done the exact same thing as you. Kids tend to hear what they want to hear sometimes and then relay that false information unintentionally. It's really a shame the teacher choose to not communicate with the parents. Hopefully, very few kids actually brought theirs and they will get to do it again.
BTW, I probably would've had a tear or two as well picturing my kid not having their teddy while everyone else does even though that probably wasn't the case. I swear pregnancy makes you jump to extremes sometimes. *Hugs*
I would of done the exact same thing you did! I'm always confused as to when he he can bring things and when he'll get something taken away. Luckily, they are pretty good about sending notes home about special days, so I have been puting it in my calander so i don't forget because I would cry too!
He probably has forgotten all about it already, that's one good thing about kids! Hugs!