Hormones :(

20 posts / 0 new
Last post
nidia's picture
Joined: 06/08/07
Posts: 1812
Hormones :(

Had a bad morning. My DS told me yesterday that he could take his teddy bear to school today. I asked him why, he said his teacher said so. I looked in his folder, no note from teacher. So I told him that he didn't need to. They're not supposed to take toys, etc. to school so I didn't want him to get in trouble. Well this morning I saw a post on FB about teddy bear day from another mama. Granted, her child goes to a different school but is also in Pre-K. It made me SO upset. I cried.. my poor little buddy Sad Mama didn't believe him and I felt so bad. I work 20 mins away from his school so it's not like I had enough time to go back home and take it to him and come back to work.

I typed his teacher a note asking to please let me know when they are able to take toys, snacks, etc.. so he can participate. He's told me a few things before and you know.. kids will be kids and they will say a lot of stuff that may not be true. I hope the note didn't come off mean, I think I was very nice about it, I told her I would appreciate a note so that my son can participate in every activity. I know he would've loved to take his bear he got from his aunt this Christmas.

Thinking about it now, is kind of funny.. not that he didn't take it but that I got so upset that I cried over it. It just made me feel like an awful mother. So tonight I am buying him a happy meal for dinner. We never eat fast food during the week for dinner so it will be a little treat. Giving my baby lots of cuddles tonight for sure.

Joined: 10/02/11
Posts: 1937

Oh no! Oh man that would have totally made me cry as well. I'm glad you wrote the teacher a note, she should definitely keep you informed on when they're able to bring extra things to school with them.

Heatherbella's picture
Joined: 02/14/05
Posts: 4169

Oh my! I would have been SO sad for my child too! They want so much to participate in special days. Last month I missed PJ day at my daughter's daycare center and I felt terrible about it. WAY worse than she probably felt. Today was PJ day again so I made SURE I remembered...she was so stinkin' excited for it too...lol.

It's too bad the teacher had such poor communication with the parents. Sometimes it feels like you're damned if you do and damned if you don't! You were trying to obey the class rules...now your poor son has no teddy. Ya, I'd be crying over that too.

Incidentally, I'm having an emotional day too and I almost cried when I read your post! Sad

nidia's picture
Joined: 06/08/07
Posts: 1812

It was awful, I was trying to hide it from my coworkers so I went into our filing room to file and thankfully they didn't notice. I had to go in the bathroom to wipe away the tears too. Now I feel silly for it but I can't help but imagine my little buddy teddy-less at school. I'm sure there are other teddy-less kids there.. especially since the teacher didn't send a notice. How do they expect parents to believe everything their child says? Especially bc children at this stage will say anything to take a toy to school!

callie2's picture
Joined: 07/09/10
Posts: 219

Don't feel bad. I cried at the end of "Courdoroy" the book the other night...the last page where the little girl is hugging him and he is so happy he has a friend. Out of control...

nidia's picture
Joined: 06/08/07
Posts: 1812

I just love pregnancy hormones, LOVE them LOL

I feel much better now.. hopefully I don't cry when I see DS. My little buddy.

marymoonu's picture
Joined: 03/15/08
Posts: 2183

That's totally something I'd cry over too. I'm a sucker for my kids, hahaha.

I cried the other day over reading an article that kids with food allergies are bullied in school, sometimes by kids who throw the foods they can't have at them. The next day, our allergist called and said my DS1 (allergic to peanut, egg, milk) officially tested negative for the milk allergy and could have all forms of milk, cheese, yogurt, etc. The timing was PERFECT after the emotional wreck that article had me in. I cried happy tears instead. Smile

ILoveMyMiniMe's picture
Joined: 12/11/03
Posts: 2333

Sad aweeeee mama I'm sorry!! But I think you're totally justified in crying, even if hormones are to blame. I've missed some things of DD even when the teacher DID send notes.. I just plain forgot.

I'm sure he'll enjoy the happy meal, though! Wink All you can do is remind him that mommies make mistakes, too.. But that you hope he had a great day and you wanna hear all about it.

:bigarmhug:

akpufa's picture
Joined: 01/31/08
Posts: 3078

I would've done the exact same thing as you. Kids tend to hear what they want to hear sometimes and then relay that false information unintentionally. It's really a shame the teacher choose to not communicate with the parents. Hopefully, very few kids actually brought theirs and they will get to do it again.

BTW, I probably would've had a tear or two as well picturing my kid not having their teddy while everyone else does even though that probably wasn't the case. I swear pregnancy makes you jump to extremes sometimes. *Hugs*

blondiess4u's picture
Joined: 11/08/07
Posts: 1450

I would of done the exact same thing you did! I'm always confused as to when he he can bring things and when he'll get something taken away. Luckily, they are pretty good about sending notes home about special days, so I have been puting it in my calander so i don't forget because I would cry too!
He probably has forgotten all about it already, that's one good thing about kids! Hugs!

Heatherbella's picture
Joined: 02/14/05
Posts: 4169

How did the evening go. Was he ok?

nidia's picture
Joined: 06/08/07
Posts: 1812

Heather, he was fine lol He said noone in his class took a bear and I bet it was because she didn't send a note! I asked him if other kids in Pre-K took theirs and he said yes, he said his cousin (In another Pre-K class) took his. So this morning he took a bear in his backpack and guess what? If she sends a note saying something about it, I'll tell her that I'd appreciate it if she would send notes so we know what day they should take something. I didn't end up sending the note this morning because he was fine and had forgotten about it. But if she says anything, I'll let her know!!

Heatherbella's picture
Joined: 02/14/05
Posts: 4169

Ok, phew! That's good. I agree, they need to be more pro-active about getting the message out. If I were a teacher I'd either send a note home in a backpack or have all the parents email addresses for notices. It's just silly. I only believe 1/2 of what my daughter tells me!

nidia's picture
Joined: 06/08/07
Posts: 1812

See, that's how I am too.. kids will tell you anything, only because they're little and may have not understood it correctly.

We will see what happens when I read his comments from his teacher tonight lol

Heatherbella's picture
Joined: 02/14/05
Posts: 4169

My daughter has yet to figure out how to lie...which is good...but it's only a matter of time! Sometimes her interpretation of things is just wrong because she was confused or something. You need to hear from an adult sometimes!

blondiess4u's picture
Joined: 11/08/07
Posts: 1450

MY DS just learned how to lie and I'll tell you, it's a big struggle! He will lie and do certain things to get what he wants and it's kinda scary! He outsmarts us most of the time!

nidia's picture
Joined: 06/08/07
Posts: 1812

"blondiess4u" wrote:

MY DS just learned how to lie and I'll tell you, it's a big struggle! He will lie and do certain things to get what he wants and it's kinda scary! He outsmarts us most of the time!

Oh my gosh.. so has my DS.. I know it's from hearing his cousins lying or at school. He will tell me he's done putting up his toys and I'll go in there and there they will be, on the floor. The other day, I think Monday, he wanted to go to his nanas and I told him ok but he needed to pick up his toys he had in the livingroom and he fussed about it. Eventually as I was up cleaning or something he started to pick them up and I turned my back and a minute later he said he was done. I knew it didn't take him that long. So I went and looked under our sofa and there they were! Needless to say he didn't get to go to his nanas that day. Lying is just wrong and I know that kids don't know how bad it is but to me, I want to address this early so it doesn't become worse!

blondiess4u's picture
Joined: 11/08/07
Posts: 1450

"nidia" wrote:

Oh my gosh.. so has my DS.. I know it's from hearing his cousins lying or at school. He will tell me he's done putting up his toys and I'll go in there and there they will be, on the floor. The other day, I think Monday, he wanted to go to his nanas and I told him ok but he needed to pick up his toys he had in the livingroom and he fussed about it. Eventually as I was up cleaning or something he started to pick them up and I turned my back and a minute later he said he was done. I knew it didn't take him that long. So I went and looked under our sofa and there they were! Needless to say he didn't get to go to his nanas that day. Lying is just wrong and I know that kids don't know how bad it is but to me, I want to address this early so it doesn't become worse!

My DS does the exact same things. I think it is just something they do because it's something new they learned that they can do, but I think if you catch them early and they have consequences for their actions, it usually stops. We hope!

ILoveMyMiniMe's picture
Joined: 12/11/03
Posts: 2333

:oops: DD has lied to me twice.. once was about her cleaning her room when she said she did and I think the second was about her homework not having gotten done when she said it was. I realllly don't wanna go through a lying phase with DS! lol.. How long do they last??

nidia's picture
Joined: 06/08/07
Posts: 1812

Adri, who knows lol until they're out of our house and only bc they are in college? Lol