How do you plan on spilling the beans?

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CamelNoodle's picture
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How do you plan on spilling the beans?

How are you planning on telling DH/the rest of the world? I had an idea, but now I'm not thrilled with it -- I'm looking for ideas. What will you do if you are fortunate enough to be pregnant? Janel

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Well I could super early test on Sunday and if positive give the test to hubby as a Father's day present or wait until next week and give it to him as a birthday present. Things are a bit topsy turvy here though, I have a wedding next Friday so will be away for his birthday (he can't get time off) and sometime in the next week I will have to go away for a couple of days for a funeral so I may not get time to test because I won't do it around family.

Last time we waited until we had a scan at 8 weeks to tell family and I think I will do that again, even though Mum's side could use some good news right now I don't want to pile more grief on if baby wasn't a sticker.

Close friends around 8-12 weeks and facebook official much later than that. Work I was like 16 weeks last time but I have a feeling I will pop quicker this time so maybe around 12ish weeks.

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I'll probably just tell DH after I get a BFP. I don't bore him with late cycles or early testing (LOL). Last time I crawled into bed and showed him the test. Smile

We will tell my mom early on and maybe some close friends, but we won't tell the world until after our genetic testing results are back. See, my step daughter has a terrible genetic condition that can't be traced to her mom or to my DH, so we have testing done to be sure our child didn't get it. We had the testing done with our DD and got the results around 13.5 weeks or so I think. Maybe later. We told the world the day we found out she was ok.

Have you see this photo idea? I saw it on pinterest. So cute!!!

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Last time we got preg during football season so i told DH by buying him a pair of baby socks in his fav team . (I had them before my bfp so as soon as I found out and was positive (aka ran to the store and bought a digital Preg/not preg test) I woke him up from a nap and gave him the present (socks were in a bag )
We found out the day before Thanksgivng and told family on Christmas with grandparent presents (DS was the first gradnchild for my parents) this time we have a book about a baby dino getting a baby brother (MIL gave it to DS 2 yrs ago for Easter ... not sure if she was hinting or jsut liked taht it was a dino book) and recently when we read it DS reads it to us (he has the book memorized) so we are thinking of having him read it and recording it. not sure when we will tell. we waited last time but not sure how long we will wait this time... I had morning sickness REAL bad so I doubt I could hide it from my mom (before we lived an hour and half away. now we live next door)

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Heather. I am pretty sure I pinned that one! (or thought about it bc that would TOTALLY be us!)

CaityA83's picture
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For telling dh I'm just going to have DS carry the test in and hand it to him. With our past pregnancies we did fertility treatments so there were no secrets about when we would find out or when I would test. This time I have (somehow) managed to keep my mouth shut about where I am in my cycle.

For telling everyone, we will wait longer this time and prob just put a big bro Tshirt on DS. In the past we came up with really creative ways to tell everyone and now I'm out of ideas. Ha!

I hope we see lots of BFPs coming soon. This board hasn't had very many yet!!

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I sat on the potty for about 30 minutes b/c it was 430 in the morning.. when it finally sunk in that it was a BFP, I went and put the news on my ipad and soaked in the hot tub bathtub for a bit until it was time to wake him up for work. I POUNCED on him like I was a damn cat! ROFL

He forgot to tell me he wasn't going to work that day. Lol Oops! :devil:

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I will tell DH the minute the test shows up positive (we didn't have a good go round with the whole telling him I was pregnant the first time with DS, will make a post if someone is interested in drama-max), now that it's planned I won't be able to keep it from him.

If we get pregnant before DS's b-day (Oct. 26) I want to give him a big brother shirt at his party to tell everyone. BUT I am a terrible secret keeper, so that might not work UNLESS we get a BFP on Oct 25 or something (and even then, LOL.) And I will prolly tell my little sister near immediately after I tell DH, because she is my best friend, and would prolly come in and hold my hand while I POAS if I asked her (yes we are weird like that).

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"MJDttc" wrote:

I will tell DH the minute the test shows up positive (we didn't have a good go round with the whole telling him I was pregnant the first time with DS, will make a post if someone is interested in drama-max), now that it's planned I won't be able to keep it from him.

Well now you have me all curious! LOL

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Im curious too!

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Ok, ok... First I want you all to know we love our son and wouldn't change it for the world, but starting out it wasn't planned and it wasn't pretty like pregnancies should be. so here goes,

I met DH IRL just after my 19th birthday, we had talked online for the longest time (met on myspace) He annoyed me endlessly online and I had blocked him and unblocked him several times, he wasn't mean or anything just mildly argumentative (one of the qualities I like about him now). I was still living at home and staying at my dads house one night and was bored and asked him to come over as he was bored and lived only a few blocks away. We hung out and talked and junk. It was fun. We moved in together the next month, we both needed a new place to live and it just sort of happened.

While I liked him, I knew we weren't serious. It was about May, and I realized I hadn't had my period in a while (and I was forever bad about taking my pills.) I told my stepmom (cause she is pretty decent to talk to without being uber-parental) I thought I might be pregnant... I didn't tell DH right away because I was slightly afraid of what he would say. The week after I told my stepmom, DH and I were having an argument about something or another (prolly picked by me because I admit preggo hormones made me a B**ch.) I was leaving to go to my parents house because I was so mad, he fallowed me outside and I screamed "OH BTW IM PREGNANT!" I swear the entire block prolly heard. He made me go back inside, and we finally had the discussion. (I never took a pregnancy test I just knew)

I was 19 and didn't really want a kid, and DH was of the midset that having a kid was a terrible idea, so we decided I would get an abortion. I am Christian, but I am also pro-choice I have my reasons. So I set up an appointment for the next Saturday. I went to Planned Parenthood, feeling ok about the decision, then they pulled me back and during the ultra-sound, they asked if I wanted to see, which I agreed to. That sealed it, the little blob had a heart beat! I couldn't abort, at that moment my entire world shifted. I got off the table and they took me to talk to the counselor, the first thing I said after introductions was "I can't do it, I don't need the services." I was fully prepared for her to talk me into it, BUT SHE DIDNT! She was supportive of my choice (which is contradictory to what I had heard of those types of places! and made me like PP as a whole) she asked me if I had a support system (which I do, my family) and asked if I needed help getting in contact with resources, she gave me a picture of the ultrasound, as I left the clinic I said a prayer for her, she is a wonderful person.

I went strait to my dads house, and told them what I had just done, we talked for a while, and I eventually texted DH (who was at work at the time) that I didn't do it. He asked me to meet him up at work (we were both working at the same place at the time) so I did. It turned into an awful fight in the parking lot, I hit him in the face after he tore up my ultrasound pic, the guards came over and asked if we needed to call the cops. So pretty all around. I picked him up from work that evening, we waited until we got home to talk. He brought up adoption. I told him that he didn't have to be involved if he didn't want, I wouldn't press for child support.

He told me he guessed he would stay. and he fallowed it with if it wasn't a boy he wasn't telling his family (though I think he was joking. though he did wait until after the Big US to tell them) Eventually he got excited. and him being excited showed me that I had made the right decision in staying. DH is a great father, and loves DS so much.

So that's it. And that is why I was so surprised when DH brought up that we should have another kid, I thought DS was it for us, I got the ten year IUD and planned on having my tubes tied at the end of that ten years. I never worked up hope for another child, to me having DS and getting my way in the beginning felt like more than I could ask for. I still feel like I am waiting for Karma to get back at me for what I almost did. and sorry for hijacking the thread.

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That is actually an awesome story!!!
Just goes to show how strong the two of you are!!!!
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For me I'll just say... Pregnant again love!!! Lol
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Wow, beautiful story and I am so happy for you Smile

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Yes i aggree, awesome story!!! Smile

"CaityA83" wrote:

For telling dh I'm just going to have DS carry the test in and hand it to him

I LOVE this idea, think ill do this! Although i will let the older ds hold it as i think the youngest may take the cap off and put in mouth EUW!!!

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Mary, I agree, great story. So it's not the fairy tale you see in movies, it's still a good story. I'm glad you kept DS and it sounds like everything worked out wonderfully.

When I was a teenager I got birth control from Planned Parenthood here in Canada. I have nothing but great things to say about that organization. Wonderful people. Wonderful educators.

I can understand why you'd be shocked and pleased that DH wants #2. So fun! Now I'm even more happy for you!!!! Smile

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That is a great story! I'm so glad that things worked out wonderfully!!! Well to tell DH this time around.. since I was suppose to have surgery the next day, I just said, "well, we might not be having surgery after all." He was shocked and a long period of silence fell on the other end of the phone... he's excited now, just takes a bit for him to get use to the idea even though this isn't our first rodeo lol. For my in laws I wrote "BIG SISTER" on the back of Brinley's diaper and she wore it over to their house. My MIL about passed out when she read it and it sank in! lol I wish I had it on video it was priceless!

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Mary - I, too, was in your shoes.. Ended up a single mama from it though. Not every "have a baby" story has the dream plot or perfect ending. As a Christian myself, I can totally relate!! And see PP in the same light.. I'm glad everything worked out for you and DS and DH!! Smile It took me almost 6 years of court battles and DFS assistance for him to loosen his abusive grip on DD but after cashing in my 401 to hire the BEST atty my city has to offer, it was finally over.

Your story made me smile. Smile So happy you and DH are ready for another LO!! :clappy:

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"MJDttc" wrote:

I was 19 and didn't really want a kid, and DH was of the midset that having a kid was a terrible idea, so we decided I would get an abortion. I am Christian, but I am also pro-choice I have my reasons. So I set up an appointment for the next Saturday. I went to Planned Parenthood, feeling ok about the decision, then they pulled me back and during the ultra-sound, they asked if I wanted to see, which I agreed to. That sealed it, the little blob had a heart beat! I couldn't abort, at that moment my entire world shifted. I got off the table and they took me to talk to the counselor, the first thing I said after introductions was "I can't do it, I don't need the services." I was fully prepared for her to talk me into it, BUT SHE DIDNT! She was supportive of my choice (which is contradictory to what I had heard of those types of places! and made me like PP as a whole) she asked me if I had a support system (which I do, my family) and asked if I needed help getting in contact with resources, she gave me a picture of the ultrasound, as I left the clinic I said a prayer for her, she is a wonderful person.

Tears in my eyes after reading this! While I'm personally pro-choice, it's always a tear-jerker for me when someone picks life. Smile

As for how I'll spill the beans, DH already knows. He's always up in my business when I'm POAS, so no surprising him, haha. As for telling everyone else, I'd rather not tell anyone for quite a while, so I don't know. My last pregnancy was difficult... I had HEAVY bleeding from weeks 9-12, and I lived in constant fear of losing my little bean. The pregnancy before that was a m/c. So I'm jaded by my recent experiences, which is why I'm not rushing out to tell anyone. I wouldn't mind waiting until the gender scan and just announce, "We're having a baby and it's a ______." Smile With my previous pregnancies, it took my belly forever to pop, so I could quite possibly hide it that long, especially with cooler weather and big sweaters on the way.

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I told DH in his birthday card this weekend and let him see the test...he needed proof. As for telling everyone else? I don't know what I'll do or when...all I know is I'm not ready to tell anyone other than DH (and you ladies and the gals in my March 2011 birth group...hi Marymoonu!! Smile )

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Hi Callie! It's good to see you here, woohoo!!

Oh, and I finally decided how I MIGHT spill the beans...... I'll be almost exactly 12 weeks on Halloween, which I figure is a good time to tell everyone. So I might make one of those skeleton costumes with a baby skeleton in the belly and take a pic to post on fb! Smile

Something like this:

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I like htat!